I'm unhappily married in Utah, I have kids and am afraid I won't be able to see them if I get divorced. I'm confused and would like to know what to do...what are the odds of a dad getting custody in Utah?
2007-07-03 07:14:40 · 11 answers · asked by Cupcakes Moosey! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I appreciate all the feedback, thank you. I have tried to make this relationship work but have come to the realization that it is not going to happen...
Tiffany L...I'm not to far from you, I'm in WJ
2007-07-03 08:32:21 · update #1
I don't know anything about Utah, but I would say full custody would be hard to obtain unless your wife was willing for the children to live with you and would not fight it. If she is an unfit mother, and you can prove it, you can hire an attorney and fight for custody. This is never pretty. You might try for a joint custody arrangement. The children would divide their time between you and your wife. I've never been in this situation, but I have heard of this working quite well for other people. Of course, you need to be able to be civil and work together for the benefit of the children. You probably will need to live in the same school district also so that the kids commute won't be bad to and from school. If you decide to get a divorce please try to be civil and work with your spouse to have an arrangement that works best for the kids.
2007-07-03 07:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by zento1110 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a marriage canceler, try to work this out . there isn't enough story to give you a good answer.
Some time you have times in you life that you think you cant go on. You got to think of your children,and how they feel. You didn't state how many children you had or how old they were.
This is not all about you ,there are a lot of lives here involved. You didn't say how long you have been married.
There is a time when all the new wears out. That is called the honey moon is over! Then you got to work to keep the excite in the marriage.
This is your problem to work with your wife. Get a setter for the children an take your wife out on a date. like old times when you first got married. put a spark into that marriage again .
Set down and talk to her tell her your not happy, and ask her how she fells, work this out.
Help her out in the house, spend time with her. You didn't say if she work outside the home!
Or if you have money problems some times that can make the whole family miserable. Don't drop everything and run,until you try everything else.
I still think people should have to go to school and take training ,before they get married or start having babies.
This would help the divorce rate in the USA. Sorry didn't mean to write a book . Get you some help and stick this out. A year from now you will wonder why you wanted to to end you marriage.
Queen Bee
2007-07-03 08:02:12 · answer #2 · answered by queen bee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you can prove that you are a good father you will be able to share custody with your wife. Hopefully, your wife is a good mother and will realize that your children need a father in their life. This way it will make the custody hearing easier because you will both agree that you will do what is best for the children.
I know plenty of divorced fathers in Utah that share custody with their wives, my brother being one of them.
2007-07-03 07:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try to make your marriage happy again. There's counselling, and then there is the non-counselling program called Retrouvaille. Retrouvaille is a guided program with no airing of dirty laundry to anybody outside yourselves. It's a system of rediscovery that enables couples to figure out why they fell in love and got married in the first place.
It's saved a LOT of marriages. For your kids' sake as well as yours and your wife's, why not give it a try? You have nothing to lose.
2007-07-03 07:27:19 · answer #4 · answered by sparki777 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm with the first answer thats false. Ya its not against the religion. just frown upon the church...but its not against the law.. talk to an attorney . good luck.usually in most places you have to be living in a seprate place for a period of time to get it speeded up. gthe divorce.
2007-07-03 07:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by jbairswifey9706 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The easy solution is to walk away from your family. Have you at all tried to work it out? What is so bad that you don't want marriage anymore? If you leave your family you can see your children by law. You will have to pay support though. Try to work it out, don't just leave your family because "you are unhappy" Why? Feelings come and go...............
2007-07-03 07:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by ~Secretrose~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if the mother is viewed as unfit. But even in Utah, you will have visitation rights...where does your fear of not seeing your kids come from?
2007-07-03 07:19:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The odds are slim to none; and I think slim just left town. Why not just get a little honey pot on the side so you can have your cake and still get the deductions on your tax return.
2007-07-03 08:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're LDS, you've got a BIG problem. Or a small problem if you don't mind getting excommunicated, which probably would be a good thing. Talk to a lawyer. And preferably one that's not LDS.
2007-07-03 07:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by Charlie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pray on it and allow the good Lord to lead you in the right direction.
2007-07-03 07:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by joyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋