still friends she just fell out of love I guess.
2007-07-03 07:07:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce is not an option, at least not for another 9 years.
2007-07-03 07:16:04 · update #1
That's a very uncomfortable situation to be in. It does happen more often than people know. Making this short and sweet, to stay in a loveless marriage can only bring resentment and ill feelings the longer you stay in the marriage. It is not a healthy situation to be in for both of you. If you have children, to stay with that person because of them would be totally wrong as well. Children need both their mother and father, but ones who love each other.
In a nutshell, there is nothing to handle. The writing is on the wall and get out before there is animosity between you. Its great that you are still friends and civil to one another, but to stay in a loveless marriage is not only senseless, but can cause underlying damage down the road.
2007-07-03 07:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by allyp51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your staying in a loveless marriage because there are children - that's the wrong reason.
You were in love with that person to start with - you'll need to try to rekindle the love you had with him/her, try to remember all the good qualities and good memories of that person that made you fall in love in the first place. Sometimes going to marriage counseling helps, if there are children in your family you will need to have quality time with your spouse, have family or friends help with the sitting of your children so that you can make plans to get to know your wife/husband again - plan a trip together to a different state or perhaps a cruise ship vacation for just the two of you. Good mature communication between the two of you is so important, you should be able to discuss your true feelings with your spouse - your lover is your friend.
2007-07-03 07:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to deal with the issue of why she fell out of love with you. It can happen. Somethings changed and I'd advise you to find out exactly why and then really if isn't your fault, live your life.
If divorce is no option and you both are unhappy then you both need to strike a "deal" that works for you. But I really don't see the reason for that, if you both are unhappy, divorce is always an option.
2007-07-03 07:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by Yummy♥Mummy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from the "9 years" stuff, I assume you have children. Do you really think it is better for your kids to see a cold, loveless marriage than to see happy divorced parents???? Think again.
2007-07-03 07:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With difficulty. I try to keep my distance. When we try to talk, we always end up in an argument. He likes other women (plural), I love another man. Divorce is not an option at this time for me either.
2007-07-03 07:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love each other and there is no hope of rekindling the lost love, then you should get divorced. You both deserve to find happiness. Good luck.
2007-07-03 07:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by from_a_dark_place 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say take a vacation together, a cruise or a romantic getaway. Just to see if there is anything left to salvage. You married and were apparently in love at one point, maybe you just need to re-spark the flame.
2007-07-03 07:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by mel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My cure was divorce. This life is too short to waste it on an unsatisfying relationship. I'd rather be single, than with someone I'm not totally crazy about.
2007-07-03 07:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You guess? Well I think you need to at least get some professional counseling so that you can clearly identify what the problems are. Maybe it can be worked out.
2007-07-03 07:25:18 · answer #9 · answered by ~Secretrose~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce, it's not a marriage with no love. Your best bet is to divorce her and find someone who will love you back.
2007-07-03 07:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋