does he play computer games every night or does he not just seem bothered about romance anymore ha blooming ha
2007-07-03 06:54:21 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Eh, he does his own thing from time to time, but I understand it's because he needs his space - not that he doesn't love me or have any interest in our relationship anymore. Everyone needs to have their own space and hobbies separate from their spouse. The key is to balance your time, and for many people this is tricky - what with all the time we spend at work, commuting, family, friends, etc. It's hard to find time to squeeze it all in, but I always feel like I'm his priority. This doesn't mean that he drops everything he's doing or has planned to spend time with me, but then again I have my own interests and hobbies to, and I wouldn't want him to expect me to drop everything either.
If you're missing the romance, initiate it yourself. Tell your husband how much you enjoy feeling close to him, and that while you understand he's busy and needs time to himself, that a little reminder now and then of just how important you are to him would help. Remember: men show their feelings differently than women. He may not leave you love notes or flowers, but if he's dependable, supportive, a good listener, affectionate, etc - you don't need to worry. Life is not a romance novel.
2007-07-03 07:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by Courtney 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Meh.. that is men for you! They need time to unwind after work and games are a good way to do it. If it weren't games, it would be television, ( or worse, hitting the bars or the bottle! ) Romance is for women. If you haven't told him already that you are feeling ignored and that you are missing romance, do so. Give him a chance to straighten up his act. One thing I definitely recommend is playing the game with him every now and then. Maybe you will like it and it will be something that brings you closer together.
2007-07-03 07:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've been together 10 years. I felt this way for a long time, but not any longer. He used to sit in front of the tv for hours and hours. He still does this, but not at my expense.
After talking through it (and some difficult times) we've gotten past this. If I feel that he is ignoring me, I just tell him and we are able to communicate about. If he's doing that I'll go over and suggest we do something else (we have tivo so he can easily record his shows). It's worked out well. We didn't like being in a rut!
2007-07-03 07:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I turn my wife out all the time because I just tired of listening to how she hates her body or what food she has eaten. I prefer to talk about politics, the world and religion, but she seems to thin those subjects are a waste of time. Her little dieting world bores me. I don't care what she looks like, but if she is going to point out the negative that will be all I see.
2007-07-03 08:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my BF of 4 years has no libido anymore. I hate it. I am so frustrated. i try so hard to get him interested, but he doesn't care. He stopped telling me that he loved me, and all he does is complain if I don't do something right ( or the way he wants it) . He wants me to take more personal responsibility for the house, but he won't take any responsibility for making me happy. All I do is give my heart, all I want is a little physical attention in return. Is that so much to ask? So am I ignored? Everyday.
2007-07-03 08:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by Ander 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well apparently its their way of relaxing after a hard day at work. You have to remind him why he married you though and that you are person with needs too. Ensure you spend time together for at least some of the evening- respect his need to wind down but suggest he limits it to an hour with his pc and a couple of hours together. I solved the problem by putting our PC's side by side- he cannot escape now! LOL
2007-07-03 07:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by Ellie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must know my husband! Ha,ha! He doesn't bother with romance, at least with me he doesn't. He's had several other romances though. Let him play his computer games. Keeps him away from me and that's how I want it.
2007-07-03 07:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but my husband doesnt like to see me unhappy so he will do whatever to get a smile on my face. All men need a hobby and my husbands is video games. He plays everyday but he knows not to ignore me or there will be hell to pay. LOL
2007-07-03 07:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by Swan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he is quit good about paying attention to me their are time when he plays his PlayStation but every guy needs time to himself just like us girls. I even play the games with him he loves that try doing that you can play and have fun together he always asks me to play the games with him. you can play and talk just don't bug him or you will annoy him. if it really bugs you tell him you need a little more time together and see what he says
2007-07-03 07:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Crikey - are you in my loft watching? Every night he is on the Xbox! Romance - forget it. He is cheeky enough to see if I am up for it when we go to bed - I keep on reminding him that foreplay starts outside the bedroom....
2007-07-03 10:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋