i am 14 and i had sex for the first time about a week ago. i had sex with my 16 year old cousin. we have always been close but i never thought about doing anything like that with her. we we're alone at her house just hanging out and i'm not sure how it happened but before i know it we're in her room making out on the bed and then we end up having unprotected sex twice on that day. i know this is probably wrong but i loved every second of it. is this really wrong?
2007-07-03 06:51:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes. What happened to you and your cousin is incest. And it is wrong because you are too young and may not be able to handle the responsibility over your action. And wrong again for doing it unprotected. What if she gets pregnant? Seek a counselor right away on how to deal with your problem.
2007-07-03 07:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by shirley g 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This question is wrong on so many levels. First of all, you are 14 years old, you should not be having sex or even thinking about it. You should be running around outside with your friends, climbing trees and getting into the trouble for things that 14 year old boys do. Second, you had sex with your cousin, unprotected sex with your cousin. Can you not see how sick that is? What if she is pregnant, what are you going to do then? Do you really want to be able to say that your pregnant girlfriends parents are also your aunt and uncle?
2007-07-03 06:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by littleone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did is not exactly a 'normal' first sexual experience. In my opinion there is a large maturity difference between a 14 yo and a 16 yo. She should have know it was inappropriate to seduce her 14 yo virginal cousin.
You might consider talking to someone about this. Someone you can trust to help you sort out your feelings about what happened.
Please don't have sex with your cousin again, even if she tries to. I think she has some serious issues.
2007-07-03 07:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Morley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things like this just tend to happen, it's hard to stop.
it wasn't a good thing to do:
1. you're way, way too young.
2. with your cousin.....!!!!!
3. she's 16.
it's quite possible that she may have been taking advantage of you. one thing is for sure, it cannot happen again.
you need to make it very clear that you're very sorry this happened and you didn't mean for it to happen, and that nothing like this will ever happen again.
its not wrong that you enjoyed it (very natural, and probably good).
nobody else needs to know about this for sure.
and i don't really think you should feel guilty about it. it happened and theres nothing left you can do.
and just because you had sex early doesn't mean you should just keep on having sex. maybe wait again for a year or so before doing it again.
and certainly just because you have had sex doesn't mean you should pressure other girls into having sex.
DO:
1. apologize, not happening again, act like it never happened. good luck.
2007-07-03 07:04:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's very wrong. Incest is not permitted in our society because of the high percentage of genetical problems that could arise. Stop it immediately. You're lucky if she doesn't get pregnant. Otherwise both you and your cousin's future will be ruined. Not to mention the permanent scar of humiliation from friends and relatives you will continue to suffer for the rest of your lives.
2007-07-03 07:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Alex T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really dangerous. If she really does have a baby, then there is a big chance of that baby having something wrong with it. Also, she is older than you, which I personally think is kind of sick. Losing your viginty is a gift for your wife/husband, and you just opened that gift and gave it to someone else.
2007-07-05 06:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong to have unprotected sex. She could get pregnant. You could get an STD. You are too young for that kind of responsibilty. Also, one of your parents and one of her parents are sisters/brothers/brother & sister. That is disgusting. Don't feel ashamed of yourself, just never do that again.
2007-07-03 06:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by from_a_dark_place 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cousin part : Sort of wrong, but not frowned upon everywhere.
The 14 year old part : Wrong.
The unprotected part : Wrong.
Wait til you're a little older next time and be sure to use protection, there's plenty of diseases out there but I;m sure you knew that.
2007-07-03 06:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by luthandrel 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Does it matter if it was wrong or not?
Just don't let it happen again. At your ages, sometimes your hormones can lead you to disaster, and seeing the opportunity to enjoy yourself, you both did it. Fine....its done.
She is your cousin, don't let it happen again. Talk to her about it, tell her you love her, and then explain to her why it WONT happen again. She is older then you, and probably just as freaked out about it.
2007-07-03 06:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by theCATALYST 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's worse that you had sex at 14 (WAY too young to deal with pregnancy and STDs and the types of issues that can come with being sexually active) than the fact that you had it with a cousin...that's not that big of a deal actually.
2007-07-03 06:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋