I love foreplay and would like to spend hours doing it but after a couple of min. she wants sex. She won't even let me give her oral for more than a couple of min. What's the deal, most women fuss about not enough foreplay and my wife won't let me do it. Ladies how can I get more foreplay?
2007-07-03 06:41:52 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe she`s getting it better else where.......?
2007-07-03 06:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I just read an article today, about this. did you know that woman could have a sexual dysfunctional at any age. By sexual dysfunction, I mean it could become painful for a woman who normal loves foreplay to want to stop because she's experiences some pain, and only a woman knows her body.
My suggestion, ask her if she's open to going to a sex therapist. If she is then the both of you go! Maybe there's something about you that could be turning her off emotionally, mentally which is taking it's toll on the sexual part of your marriage. I'd go to couples sex therapy if I were you!!
Good Luck!!
2007-07-03 13:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by babysteppin2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it - but you are a check on her to-do list.
She's just trying to get you done and finished so that she can move on to the next thing she has to do.
You need to talk w/ her about this before it becomes a larger issue. Its a short step from, "Hurry it up." to "I don't feel like it" or "I don't want sex anymore."
You also need to make sure the foreplay is the kind SHE likes, not just the kind YOU'RE into. Maybe she thinks she smells, so she doesn't want you doing oral. If so, let her know you love her scent - let her shower right before if she needs that to feel at ease.
Its all about communicating the needs for both partners.
2007-07-03 13:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by aa889d 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I am with you on this one and I understand where you are coming from. Unfortunately after almost 8 years and countless conversations I have found out she was molested as a young child and cant seem to forgive herself for "letting it happen. Im not saying that is the case with everyone but is amazing how many people have had an experience as such in early years. Hope you can come to a conclusion, just make her assured you wont judge and be there for her no matter what.
2007-07-03 14:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by bjhillsy96 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same as your wife. I don't need alot of foreplay, my husband is very sexy and I get turned on quick. I want to get right to the action, at first it surprised him, as he thought all women liked alot of foreplay, and I told him my engine is all ready rev-ed up it doesn't need all the idling, and he laughed, just give her plenty of good lovins and she will be all set. Sex is a good thing, that is probably her favorite part.
2007-07-03 14:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by Maria A. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make foreplay last longer, do more of the kissing and cuddling in the beginning, and go slowly. Take your time when you kiss all face, neck, breasts, etc.
By the time you've given her oral for a few minutes, you've got her so hot and horny that she can't wait to have you. She's aching to come. Consider it a compliment to your ability to turn her on
2007-07-03 15:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Now that's a bit weird. Try some variation with your approach. I mean try giving her a sensual massage, maybe that will do the trick. Or change your routine with regard to your foreplay. I hope that helps. Good luck.
2007-07-03 13:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by cent_kulit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL.. I'm with your wife on this one - I love the foreplay, but let's just say I reach a point where I am so worked up, I just want the main course... also, I am so turned on by my guy that I feel "selfish" recieving too much... It helps to know I'm with a guy who truly enjoys making me squirm instead of just doing it for me.. What works better for me is for my guy to "toy" with me for hours.. you know, come by while I'm washing dishes, rub here or there.. whisper a sweet something in my ear and walk by .. throughout the day.. .by the time we get around to business.. he'd better look out.
2007-07-03 13:51:12 · answer #8 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can talk to her about it, of course.
Maybe you can suggest that you satisfy her the first time orally or manually and then ask her to do some things for you. Tell her how much you love her touching etc. Don't make it sound like you are dissatisfied but that you love her so much that you want to spend even more time with her.
2007-07-03 13:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well with me I dont mind it, as long as it is done right. theres nothing worse than having a man down there and him not having a clue about how to satisfy me! I had to show my bf and now its great. but when we first met he had no clue of what to do. he was all over it and in it which just irritated me. so one day I just told him to let me show him how and he learned. it took him a few tries but he got it. maybe she feels like shes wasting her time in this area or she could have issues about her body? do both of you enjoy having sex? what I mean is there any kind of sexual tension? arguing over sex? this could also be an issue too. maybe she could feel like lets just get it over!!! talk to her and see what the deal is and let her know that you want her to be honest and you wont get your feelings hurt. tell her that this has been bothering you and you reallly want to satisfy her. good luck.
2007-07-03 14:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not crazy about it and could actually do without it. It's okay ... but a lot of women act like it's the best thing since sliced bread. I have had it done in previous relationships before I got married and I don't think it's all that.
2007-07-03 13:53:56 · answer #11 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋