My husband is still in touch with two or three girls that he has dated, tho none that he's slept with (that I know of LOL) and we've even gone to one girl's wedding. I know a lot of women that can't handle their husbands or boyfriends talking to their exes. What is up with this? If you're happy, in love, and feel the same is reciprocated, what does it matter if they still talk?
2007-07-03 06:23:25 · 18 answers · asked by UpsideDownGirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh and I hate jealousy. People seem to like to harp on how adultery is sinful, lying is sinful, etc but don't forget holding a grudge and/or being jealous is just as bad. So what gives?
2007-07-03 06:24:31 · update #1
To answer a question below - why would you need to talk to an ex? In my case, my husband has just known some of these girls a long time. They worked together or have other friends together and its never flirting - most of these girls have married or moved on. So their contact is "hey want to meet for drinks (with our spouses) later?"
2007-07-03 06:38:19 · update #2
Glad im not the only one... MY soon to be husband is a childhood friend with his ex and hey have a history i could never dream of detroying...he knows where i draw the line though, its ok to talk but not to touch. good luck...
2007-07-03 06:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by cricket s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm absolutely sure that you have heard this. "I seem to get along and can relate better with (opposite sex here)." This is true for some people. Some men will prefer a woman for his best friend or friends, while some women will express the desire for a male as her friends. What's wrong with it? Nothing at all in my book and my wife agrees. The persons partner however may have different thoughts. Leading to jealousy problems that should have been thought about long before getting with they're partner.
2007-07-03 06:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am with you.. Maybe because my husband and I have been divorced for 23 years, not only do we talk, we do things together with our only child. I work for his company, he can trust me, and know when he is out of town, things are being handled.
We do things with our daughter and grandson, he comes over for dinner, we take him out for his birthday, Father's day, etc.
I figure if you can't deal with it and you can't handle it then you are not the right person for my X. But then he makes it known upfront to his girlfriend that I am and always will be a part of his life, in otherwords, deal with it or go.
Life is just too short to be angry, jealous, and irritated all the time.
2007-07-03 06:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ ♥Be Happi♥ ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how they are talking. Flirting? Phone Sex? Cyber Sex? Do they go out to eat? Do they call each other? This is what I think, deep down. If you must call an ex now and then, you obviously don't care about your current love like you should. Why must you keep in contact w/ an ex or exes? Does it make you feel good? If that is what makes you feel good you don't care about your current love and you obviously have not moved on! Forsaking all others...my quote again...is the marraige vow!
2007-07-03 06:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its fine by me as long as everyone knows what the boundaries are. Talking to them every once in a while if fine people can still remain friends, even though many people say its not possible. As long as the limits are set and its strictly friends that maybe see eachother once in a while not on a steady basis it doesnt hurt much.
2007-07-03 06:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So if you don't have a problem with your husband talking to his ex's, why are you posting a question about other people's feelings? Why does it matter to you? Not everyone is in your situation, nor does everyone think like you do, so why do you expect them to think the same as you?
2007-07-03 06:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a million) because of the fact they're sour that it ended 2) they intend to make it look as though the girl substitute into the subject, while it substitute into maximum in all probability the guy because of the fact initially, no guy may well be THAT sour approximately an ex. If it did no longer paintings, it did no longer paintings. yet to pass out of your thank you to talk crap approximately your ex to human beings? It does not make the ex look undesirable, it in simple terms makes YOU look undesirable. I dated a guy who talked mad **** approximately his ex. Now that i glance decrease back.. each thing pinpoints to HIM being the subject.
2016-10-03 12:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by dorais 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It comes from insecurity. I suppose that is obvious. But my point is that the more insecure a person is the more jealous they get. Some people are about a lot of things in life...they have to control people, things, schedules etc. out of insecurity.
2007-07-03 06:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure the relationship is freinds only let him have it. If he doesn't have anyone to get advice from when he needs it for you who does he go to? His mom? It's very healthy to have friends of the opposite sex. Sometimes when people date they create bonds that are more like friendships. it is possible for them to know longer be attracted to each other, but still have the bond.
2007-07-03 06:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by All Smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you have Love, Trust and Respect, I don't see the problem with it. They are exes because it didn't work out.
Some people just need the drama.
2007-07-03 06:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah Smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋