PLEASE PLEASE ANSWER THIS!!!! I REALLY REALLY REALLY NEED YOUR HELP!!! im desperate! i dont know what to do!!!

Question

Ok, please answer my question: Alright, i LOVE my boyfriend so so so much. He is one of the most important things in the world to me. I couldnt live without him, my life isnt close to easy and he makes me smile and feel a way i havent felt in....god...i cant even remember when, maybe even ever before. Well, the issue is that my dad doesnt want us to go out with eachother. he has never met my boyfriend but for some reason he doesnt want me to build a relationship with him. My boyfriend lives 20 minutes away too. i kno my dad is trying to protect his daughter...i get that..hes trying to be a parent but i cant live without my boyfriend-- we love eachother so much. He is *honest to god* the most amazing boy ive ever met. my boyfriend was going to meet my dad and say "mr. (katie's dad), i really like your daughter, and i want to kno if it would be alright if i went out with her" WHAT CAN WE DO?? PLEASE HELP US! NOT SEEING EACHOTHER IS NOT AN OPTION!! thank you all. im so stressed.

look at our cute pics! :

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were 14....but please dont give me answers that make me more depressed!

no i was miserable without my boyfriend......and i only live with my dad-- dont have a mom that i live with.

my dad didnt say why we couldnt see eachother.

ahahaa, no that not all we do....we wee just taking cute pictures. we dont only make out....lol

ok ok ok i know i posted THOSE picures so it looks like we only have sex, but we havent had sex and we dont plan on it. my boyfriend and i both said we'd be terrified the first time, and my boyfreind isnt the type to jump into bed (hes really religious)

ok, ya here, were not "sucking face" in this pic:

http://s204.photobucket.com/albums/bb304/xxemoxkiddoxx/?action=view¤t=untitled-2.jpg

Answer 1

I went through the SAME thing when I was your age, although my dad kinda had a reason to not want me to see my boyfriend, but I won't get into that. I got severely depressed and thought that my world was going to end. However, I simply sat him down and talked to him. Once he knew how I felt (this guy was like my best friend and meant the freakin world to me!), he changed his tune and let me see him. He didn't want to see me so unhappy. All in all, I haven't seen the guy now in 12 years and it turns out that he's gay and living in Key West with his boyfriend, but that's besides the point. You should be able to talk to your dad and if you can't, just sneak and see your boyfriend anyway. After all, your dad is obviously not doing this with your best interest in mind.

Answer 2

First loves are always the hardest. You finally find love but you are restricted because of your age. I found my first love at 13 and I know just how you feel. First of all you need to realize that your parents are about 70% right and you are about 30% right. All you can think of is this guy because he's probably the first one to actually pay attention to you in that kind of way. You've experienced a lot of "firsts" with him and that makes him special. As hard as it may seem, he's not the only guy you will ever date which also means you are not the only girl he will date. Try to be wise and think about the situation. Fighting with your parents about this won't make them change their mind. In fact it might make them think you are immature and not ready for a boyfriend. If you two are destined to be together then you will have to find out what will make your parents think you are responsible enough to date. Once you know that then you can start working on it and eventually they will come around. Your boyfriend might have to stay away for a while so that you can let your parents gain your trust. You could write each other letters and talk on the phone. Only see him when your parents say its OK. If they find you "sneaking" around it will ruin all the progress you have made. If he goes to your school then at least you can see him there. If not then you will have to deal with being apart for a while. I know you want to rebel and just say "screw my parents" but that wont help any. It will just make the situation worse. Try to do the right thing from the start and the situation will work out in your favor. Spend a lot of time thinking about why your parents wont let you date and what you can do to show them you are ready. Good Luck :)

Answer 3

All you can do is talk to your dad some more. You didn't say your age, so that is going to make it harder to answer your question. Are you over 16 or so, or younger? If you are younger, not much you can do. Just follow the rules and then when you get a bit older you can see who you want to see. It does sound like you are a little TOO attached to this guy. I wished I knew the percentage of relationships that actually stay together, and get married when they start in high school or younger. I know it is VERY low!! If your dad doesn't like this guy, maybe you need to see other ones. Maybe this one is a thug, or bad news and your dad doesn't want you around him. If that is the case, try dating a "nice" guy, and maybe your dad will have better feelings about letting you see him.

I know that right now you dont feel like it, but parents are pretty smart! I know, I know, you are young and think you know everything, but give you a few more years, and you will realize your parents knew what they were doing all along. When I was a teenager, I thought my parents were so mean, and never let me do anything. And when I was 19 I got married, and had step kids. OMG, I figured out quickly just how right my parents were. Listen to your dad, and try really hard to hear his reasoning on why he dont want you to see the boy. Maybe your dad has some very good ones!! Just trust him, he is your dad. He isn't doing this to be mean, he is doing this because he wants to protect his little girl, and he wants the best for you. Good Luck hun, and all I can say is that these LOVE, LOVE, LOVE feelings you are having will GO, GO, GO, away as soon as your boyfriend dumps you or you dump him and find a new guy. I know it seems like you are so in love right now, but if you are young as i think you are, this will be one of many times you THINK you LOVE someone....



From your pics, I see why your dad has a problem with this boy...HE CAN"T KEEP HIS HANDS OFF OF HIS DAUGHTER!! Has your dad seen these pics? That is probably why he has a problem with him?? I didn't even see your faces in any of the pics...Maybe if yall acted a little more responsible, your dad would let him come over and be with you more. If yall do this "ON" camera, what are yall doing "OFF" camera?? Hmmm? Your dad is trying to protect you!

Answer 4

Have you tried TALKING to your father? Maybe ask him WHY he doesn't want you two going out, or why he won't meet him? Have you asked your dad if you could invite your boyfriend over for dinner at your house, so he and your father could get to know each other?

You're making it sound like your father is acting completely irrational for no reason at all; but as a father myself, I'm here to tell you -- we have our reasons, even if you can't see them! Have you tried looking at your boyfriend from your father's point of view? Is he much older than you? Does he dress respectably, or does he look like a fugitive from a freakshow? Does he hold down a steady job -- even if it's just during the weekends while attending school?

Hmmm....just got through looking at your pics -- do the two of you ever do anything BESIDES suck face? I'm beginning to see your father's side a bit better. Your dad's probably concerned for your future -- that you're working hard in school and developing the tools to take care of yourself as a responsible young woman, rather than making some boy the center of your universe. Not trying to be a cold shower here; but I've been 14 before, AND I've also been 36, which gives me a little better perspective on things...

Answer 5

I know this isn't what you want to hear, but 14 is so young to be tied down. Perhaps if you could work out an agreement with your dad when you'll only see your bf when your dad is home and in your house. Unfortunately, at 14, you're still a minor and your dad is legally repsonsible for you. You didn't say exactly why your dad doesn't want you to see him (as a parent I'm sure he told you why) and you didn't say how old this guy is. Personally, I think you're headed for a world of trouble if you think you're nothing without him. You need to learn how to be a me before you can be a we.

Answer 6

How old are you? This is very Romeo and Juliet sounding. It's going to end in tragedy. Sometimes when you're a kid you have to suck it up and listen to your parents. I wish I did. I was ABSOLUTELY IN LOVE with my bf too when I was 15. My parents said NO, don't care how nice he is, nothing, you will NOT see him. And I did anyway. And I ended up pregnant. Parents have reasons for saying and doing the things they do. If you REALLY think its unfair sit down with your dad and CALMLY and rationally (no screaming and crying BUT DADDY I LOVE HIM! ) lay out your points, also reassure him that you won't do anything stupid and while you respect his opinion you would like him to spend some time with this boy to see that he's not as bad as dad's imagining. Just don't do anything behind your dads back, it will kill him, and you'll lose his trust. Good luck

Answer 7

Well, your 14 so I wouldn't hold out on this relationship for life. You're so young, and life takes you in so many directions, and I think that the only person that doesn't realize this is you two not your dad. You're dad's looking out for you. Also, if you don't want people to think all you do is make out, then maybe you should post some realistic pictures of you two. Nobody wants to look at teenagers sucking face.

Answer 8

You didn't mention how old you are. You sound very, very young. No one can possibly love another as much as you are gushing and exclaiming. Oh, the drama here! You are not seeing the world clearly.
If you are under 17, your Dad has every right to protect you.

EDIT--- I just looked at your photos. You two can't keep your hands and lips off each other! 14 and pregnant would be a real bummer. Listen to your father.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

whoa you are really crazy about this guy....we all make mistakes in life and you're dad is trying to protect you from making one...Maybe you are a little overboard by saying that you can't live without him. That's why people kill their loved ones and commit suicide...SCARY!!! Just mention to ur dad that you really like this guy and what is it that you guys do to prove to him that your relationship is for real....whatever you do, don't be mad at your dad! **IDEA** It's the summer time..tell your dad can he just open up one day and have a cookout where you can invite your boyfriend over, and then your dad can get to know your bf a little better****