i no something that is about my best friend that would rlly upset her if she finds out. should i tell her?

Question

she keeps bugging me about telling her but i am her best friend and i dont want to hurt her. but i tell her everything. should i tell her???

Answer 1

If her boyfriend has cheated or something then YES - she is your best friend and its your duty.

But if its something about another girl bitching about her or sl*gging her off behind her back or anything like that then NO, all girls no do it and its really no big deal - sticks and stones.........

Answer 2

Friendship is about trusting and being there for each other during the toughest times, as well as the easy times. You say shes your best friend? Prove it, and make her prove it too. How? Simple... Just tell her your secret and this is how shes going trust you.Once you have told her, if she gets mad at you and never talks with you again, then there wasn't really a good relationship after all... was there? Plus, I think your better off telling her than keeping secrets from each other. Good luck!!!

Answer 3

You may not want to hurt her, but in a sense it may be better that she hears it from you instead of finding out by herself or someone else. If you tell her, be nice about it, also try and cheer her up. I've been put in the situation many times where I've heard bad things about my friends, I sometimes wait, but eventually tell them. I'd rather support them, then let them get hurt, by rumors and gossip. You've got to do what you think is right, good luck!

Answer 4

♥Yes Yes YESSSSS tell her trust me because if she finds out from someone else she will be even more upset
♥you're gonna make it eat away at you bit by bit
♥if YOU tell her then if it hurts her you can support her and be there for her
♥maybe it wont hurt her as much as you think it would


*i've been in the same situation and i know you dont want her to get her but you dont want your friendship to break just because you didnt tell her something. you're her best friend so no matter what you are capable of being there for her if worst comes to worst when you tell her. please just tell her*

good luck ♥

Answer 5

You know something ABOUT HER and she's been bugging you to let her know what it is.

My rule of thumb is: if a child is old enough to ask and it is her business, she's old enough to know. Tell her. But preface: "All right, I'll tell you, but what I know will probably hurt your feelings and make you angry. Are you sure you want to know? All right; here it is..."

If it's a real doozy--like she's adopted or her father is not her father--after you tell her, advise her to speak to her guidance counselor or therapist or trusted adult friend or clergyperson or her teacher or her parents about this. You might do the same. (Speak to someone who will keep a confidence, and won't gossip about it.)

Answer 6

If this is something that will cause harm to her life or health, then tell her. If not, then somethings are best kept to yourself if you know it will hurt that person. You may have to tell a little white lie to her on what you really know, to something that will cover up what you do. Best friends, don't hurt each other.

Answer 7

Sometimes in life we have to do somethings that make us feel unconfortable but for the best interest of you and your best friend, I would tell her - I tell my best friend everything even if it could jepordize our friendship or not - If you are best friends than you shouldn't worry about telling her at all - in the end it will be worth it and you will feel much better! Good Luck! Keep us posted!
-Mandie

Answer 8

say, i no u wont want to hear this but i feel as ur best friend u have a right to know, plz dont get made at me (if its a rumor, say "i dont believe in it, but its going around school/ neighborhood so be prepared, if its sumthing u eavesdroped on say, "i didnt mean to hear this but..., if its some behavior shes practicing say, "ive been noticing u doiing something and like to no wat it is...",) if she finds out by a bully, or a mean dude and gets all embarrised and upset then she'll be really made if she ever finds out that u new about it and let her get upset and not tell her

Answer 9

I think you should. Your her best friend she deserves to hear it from you than from someone else that might make it worse for her. I would just sit down with her and tell her. If she gets upset about whatever it is you can help her. Good luck

Answer 10

It depends on whether or not she can do anything about what you know. For example, if you found out that her EX was cheating on her while they were together, there is no reason to tell her, their relationship is over so it doesn't matter and it would just make her feel bad. If it is a changeable factor, then tell her.

Answer 11

That all depends... Ask yourself this first:

Is her knowing in her own best interest? Or would the information only be hurtful.

If her knowing will help her, then tell her in a manner that is truthful but sensative to her feelings. If you are her best freind, you will want to do what is in her best interest.