would you handle the situation? Your wife belittles you in front of everyone and you have a couple of good friends, one of which is a female (friendz only). She is jealous and wants you to not talk to your girl-friend anymore. What would you do? I'm on the friend end here and I'm also married. There's no reason to be jealous b/c we're all friends but she ruins everything with her attitude. She's almost bi-polar (ish). It has been this way since before we all became friends according to "him". She doesn't have to work and he does everything in his power to please her and she treats him like dirt. I want to help but I don't want to be in the middle of a bad situation. Sorry if this sounds like I'm rambling but I'm working and trying to hide the fact I'm in Y/A! LOl!
2007-07-03 06:09:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For all you WOMEN! It says MEN ONLY! But she is a lot more beautiful than me and I have NO interest in sleeping with her husband so why be jealous. I watch him bend over backwards for her and she shows no love or appreciation. It is actually verbal abuse! Would you stand by while your friend was being beaten or verbally abused. I think he's afraid to leave b/c she acts that way with THEIR KIDS ALSO! Now Heffas!
2007-07-03 06:26:36 · update #1
A sad fact of life is some people just want to be treated like dirt. Put a good, decent person in their life, one who shows them love, respect, and kindness, and they run like the hounds of hell were after them and end up right back in the arms of the same or another sh*thead. As much as we sadly shake our heads at the insanity of it all, another sad fact of life is that we can't make their choices for them. Save yourself a headache and back off.
2007-07-03 06:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do except listen to him. Even that gets you branded as a home wrecker. Anything more will get you strung up by married women. The best way is to get a guy friend to intervene. Just have him ask your friend questions and if he's satisfied being with a hot woman who treats him like crap, then that's on him. Nothing you can do about it.
But you are right, if this situation was reversed and the man treated the woman this way, these women would be ready to cut him.
2007-07-03 06:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by Blade_III 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever asked him why he puts up with it or what is he getting out of it? Sorry, I'm a chic answering the guy question haha But I'm curious... it isn't usually a good idea to get in other peoples' business but if he is your friend, you can get into his "friend" business and ask about the situation, as his friend, and tell him point blank that it upsets you to see someone get treated that way, especially a friend. Good luck girl... it's hard being a female friend to men that are married. You are always the bad guy. Girl.
2007-07-03 06:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by UpsideDownGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dividing line is whether it is a medical condition or is a personality issue. For the former, the husband has the responsiblity to take care of her and all the social problems that come with it. I know a friend whose wife suffers from similar illness and he half-apologetically explained to his friends ahead of time. He is a good husband, accepted the cards he and his kids were dealt with and live their life the best they can.
If it is a personality issue, it is still the husband's responsiblity to deal with it. There are solutions, just how extreme. Someone has to be tougher than the bull dog to take control of the situation. Kind of Dr Phil time.
2007-07-03 07:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 12:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by dorais 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a friend but you have no idea what happens in closed doors. you DONT know him intimatly if you do....umm your marraige not his is what needs help. you asked guys to answer because you KNEW as a woman you have no business judging another woman's marraige or attitude. just remember and i say this kindly, he sleeps with her, he is giving her everything that she is taking advantage of ...meaning respect your friend and give him credit for making up his own mind. he doesnt leave because bottom line he doesnt WANT to leave. just be a friend. and know this what if your husband complains about you, it's not right and you know it that a man complains about his wife to other women. it's rude and unfair. what kind of man does that make him?? how weak can he be that he is taking advantage of your good ear to make himself appear weak....to ask guys what they'd do if they were with a 'female dog'.......you think guys care if their beautiful sex kitten is a witch!? no they dont hun.
2007-07-03 06:35:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you friend is trying to be a Knight in Shining Armor and wants to MAKE her happy.
Some day your friend might realize that happiness is not something that we can force on other people. Each of us is responsible for our own happiness. The more he tries to make her happy the more he will fail. In truth he needs to strengthen his own character and be true to himself. He can still share his happiness, but he really should give trying to MAKE his wife happy and with that he might even get a bit more respect out of her.
2007-07-03 06:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy apparently likes to be treated like that. But if I knew a woman like that, I would avoid her. So why do you subject yourself to being around that weirdness? If you are friends with the guy, tell him you value his friendship but don't want to hang out when his wife is present. And tell him why . . . .
2007-07-03 06:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your friend about it and see if he really hates it also. If he does maybe he should do something about it. Maybe he should get her some help.
2007-07-03 06:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by wow one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, ease up.. some guys need it that way. It doesn't work for many of use. I would beat the sh*t out of her, but that is me.
2007-07-03 06:18:08 · answer #10 · answered by Ray2play 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋