ok so got a tough one here for u guys n gals...
i have just found some texts on my partners phone one of witch says
ok x be careful and delete any messages from me and i will always put a smile on your wee face xxx
he is 44 and she is only 13 she goes rifle shooting with him and he is her trainer.
we have a small child together and if i leave him i will have nowhere to stay or any money
2007-07-03 05:55:06 · 20 answers · asked by mummy to thomas n summer 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Right, i know the text message does sound really bad, but have a talk to your partner about it. He should be able to be honest with you and tell you true fully what has or is going on. You should see if you can also have a word with the girl and she what she says is similar to your partners!!
To be honest with this you and you alone will only know what is right!! If you feel that there is to many signs that your partner and this girl are up to something the do what is necessary, but if there isn't, just talk about the text and say why you aren't happy.
Also if you have made you mind up you need to leave!! There are places you can go where they will give you support and somewhere to stay till you are back on your feet. One more thing remember depending on your situation you may be entitled to keep your home and your partner move!!
I hope i ave helped i know I'm not good with wording things but good luck!! I hope things get better!!
2007-07-03 06:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jezley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him. If this is sexual, it can't go on - she's only 13 for goodness sake! He'll end up in the nick and where will THAT leave you? Mind you if it is a sexual relationship, she sounds a very willing partner but in the eyes of the law it's statutory rape. You have to do something and do it now. There's always help available somewhere for you and your wee one.
Achrimsdale: It IS her business! Away back to your cave.
2007-07-03 07:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by M'SMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok This is a huge decision - would you want to stay with a man who could be damaging a minor more than she or him can realize? What if he did this to your child? What if he is not doing anything wrong - there are many options and the only way to know for sure is to sit down with him and talk. A womens intuition is stronger than anything in this crazy world and you will know if he is lying to you or if you feel for sure that there is a problem . If there is I would contact the girls parents and the police immediatly - There are ways to go on from this and you are a powerful woman and will be able to move on! don't worry - Pray and God will provide!!
2007-07-03 06:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by mandie_mark_rep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is a 44yr old man getting text from a 13yr old? to go thru
you partner text shouldn't be crime,especially if he is not doing anything wrong. does this 13yr old's parents know she texts this man? If nothing wrong why would she want him to erase the text. what does she mean be careful of what and that she will always put smile on his face. I think you better have a long talk with this man. because if something is going on there needs to put a stop before he gets in trouble. it maybe that this girl has a crush on him but he need to stop it and get another trainer.
2007-07-03 06:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by KAT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is serious. It may be innocent. If not, he is serously damaging this girl beyond most recovery. It is against the law. He needs and must stop all contact with her, even if it is innocent. She is a child. You must confront him and insist he stop seeing her under any circumstances. If he doesn't, then you must inform the police. Hopefully it is not too late. No other consideration is on the table but her welfare as a child. Sorry about your situation, but....
2007-07-03 05:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make comments about other people like " I don't see what man in his right mind would want to date a girl that could be his daughter" Say stuff like if I see any one doing that I'm calling the cops. Make up stories about people going to jial 4 a long time because of it and how they done in prison.
Try to scare him out of it with out letting him know that you know.
2007-07-03 06:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by Love 2 Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there really is something going on between them, he absolutely is not worth the time of day as not only would he be having an affair but if that are having a sexual relationship he would also be breaking the law! ask for help from your family and/or social services to see what you are entitled to help with and dont look back!
2007-07-03 06:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um i think your all missing the point the text would point to there is a good reason to delete the messages - and COME ON THE GIRL IS 13 the police should be called to investigate
2007-07-03 06:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do would be to talk to him about it. if he moans about the fact that u found the texts then just say to him that that shouldn't matter as he shouldn't hide stuff from u and the other way round too. Dont react before talking to him about it. then see what he says and what happens.
hope that helps abit
2007-07-03 06:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not looking good. Speak to the girl and try and get some sense from her, gently persuade her that the police can trace the texts and if she doesnt tell you, then you will have to go to them. Or try and get someone to follow them, it may be totally innocent..... but I very much doubt it. Speak to someone and get the hell out of there, before you regret it
2007-07-03 06:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by d__ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋