this is immoral what i did! but i need an answer! please and not moral preaching?

Question

i had this friend, i was her best friend. shes a girl. well i wanted to be more then just a friends. she didnt want. i toled her i would need some time alone and when i finely got over my self she didnt want to talk to me. she had a realy hard time when i asked here out. not because of me because of her ex. i could not see that. and wasnt her friend when she needed one the most. yes i am a jerk. well its been 8 month since we talk.
well the thing is i got her email password. she keeps the 6 letters of apology i sent her and deleted all others. so she only keep my emails and her ex's. what dose it mean. about what she thinks about me. I know she will never want me more then a friend, and i realised too late that i rather have her as a friend then not at all. but is i possible she still misses as her friend. i see her evry day at school and she never even say hay. she not i am sorry and that i miss her thats what all this email were about. i am so lame. what dose it mean? halp

Answer 1

hey, wow there, you're having a rough time of it, and while i think it may have mostly been your fault i dont think you can take all the blame. dont be too hard on yourself.
the most important thing is to put any thoughts of her and you out of your mind, because, even though i kno it is rough for you to accept this, and its gonne sting for a while, you will never be togther. she needs to know, and trust, that you think of her as no more than a friend, because she's not gonna want to be wondering "was that meant as more than a friendly gesture" whenever you're around.
it may even help to get a girlfriend, to show her you no longer have interest in that way.
you also need to talk to her, and stress that you no longer think of her as a "potential girlfriend" and you just want to be her friend. tell her that you didn't realize it would do the things it did, and also tell her you want to start all over and that your friendship means more to you than anything else.
apologize that you weren't there for her, tell her you will be there for her is she'll let you again.
i hav a feeling she does miss you. and if she doesn't accept the apology, then she is not worth being a friend.
if she is a real best friend, she will accept.
best of luck, it'll all turn out in the end.

Answer 2

Try it with a better translation. (Exodus 21:20, 21) 20 “And in case a man strikes his slave man or his slave girl with a stick and that one actually dies under his hand, that one is to be avenged without fail. 21 However, if he lingers for a day or two days, he is not to be avenged, because he is his money. Verse 20 says that if the owner killed the slave, the owner was to be killed. Unlike the slaves of the other nations, (you know, the civilized ones, the Greeks and Romans) where killing a slave was just a waste of your own wealth, the slaves of the Jews were protected. The Law protected slaves from brutalities. A slave was to be set at liberty if mistreatment by the master resulted in the loss of a tooth or an eye. As the usual value for a slave was 30 shekels (compare Ex 21:32), his liberation would have meant considerable loss to the master and, therefore, would have served as a strong deterrent against abuse. Although a master could beat his slave, the slave, depending upon the decision of the judges, was to be avenged if he died under his master’s beating. However, if the slave lingered on for a day or two before dying—this indicating that the master had not intended to kill the slave but to discipline him—he was not to be avenged. (Ex 21:20, 21, 26, 27; Le 24:17) Also, it would appear that for the master to have been considered free of guilt the beating could not have been administered with a lethal instrument, as that would have signified intent to kill. (Compare Nu 35:16-18.) Therefore, if a slave lingered on for a day or two, there would be reasonable question as to whether the death resulted from the chastisement. A beating with a rod, for example, would not normally be fatal, as is shown by the statement at Proverbs 23:13: “Do not hold back discipline from the mere boy. In case you beat him with the rod, he will not die.” Certain privileges were granted to slaves by the terms of the Law. As all male slaves were circumcised (Ex 12:44; compare Ge 17:12), they could eat the Passover, and slaves of the priest could eat holy things. (Ex 12:43, 44; Le 22:10, 11) Slaves were exempted from working on the Sabbath. (Ex 20:10; De 5:14) During the Sabbath year they were entitled to eat of the growth from spilled kernels and from the unpruned vine. (Le 25:5, 6) They were to share in the rejoicing associated with the sacrificing at the sanctuary and the celebration of the festivals.—De 12:12; 16:11, 14.

Answer 3

First off, you're not a jerk. You made a mistake and apologized to her. That's a good thing. If you didn't make any mistakes, you would never learn. To me, it sounds like she misses you a little bit. If she didn't care at all, why would she keep your e-mails? I think deep down she cares but she's just uncomfortable about the situation. If you see her, maybe you should ask her if she'd like to meet some place and talk about this situation together.

Answer 4

If you want her back as a friend you must be a friend to yourself first. Check yourself out. Are you walking around all mopey or lame body language? Get back into things at school and your common friends. Step up your energy level and maybe she will gravitate towards you and that friendly guy she knew before. Be patient and give you and the situation a chance to take it's own course. And stop checking in her e-mail. Just remember her birthdays and such and quit getting "dramatized". Good luck.

Answer 5

If I did that, I don't think I could show my face to her again! LOL, no, I guess just leave her alone and find other friends.
Oh, and get rid of her email address AND password, for your own safety.

If something weird happens to her, like assault or homicide and the cops find out you have her email password, that may seem a bit shady, and cause trouble for you, however innocent you may be.

Answer 6

Sometimes keeping friends as friends and lovers as lovers is better than combining them - I guess I have no room to talk because I am engaged to my best friend. Sometimes its best not to ruin your friendship to start a relationship --becareful though - don't be a stalker! Girls deffinatly don't like that! have a nice day!

Answer 7

Where's the immoral part? Sounds like she was looking for an excuse to get rid of you and took the first opportunity she could. Find a new friend.

Answer 8

maybe this means that she doesnt know what she wants and she may still have feelings for her ex and shes torn apart by having to deal with the decision of choosing you or her ex.

Answer 9

I would send an email and say please lets have time to talk, and I would rather be just a friend then a stranger. So please lets start over!

Answer 10

i think that its so very wrong of you to be spying into her email...i dont know how you can actually live with yourself..one day it will haunt you..when your read something that you wont want or need to know..