If you read my other question about my older sister and I, she just had twins, and her husband left her not long before the babies were born. So I've been staying with her to help her with the twins. Well... he just called yesterday, and told my sister, Jamie, that he wants to come home and help take care of the kids. But the reason he left was I caught him with another woman, and he got her pregnant!!! What do you think my sister should do?
2007-07-03 05:42:08 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Distance herself and her babies from this bounder; that's what she should do. She's lucky to have you there to help at this critical time in her babies' lives -- and hers, as well. Please take care of yourself, "Auntie," so you can continue helping your sister and niece(s)/nephew(s)
2007-07-03 05:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she wants the father there for her kids, but unfortunately, letting him back in would be a mistake, for a couple of reasons. First, I don't believe in "once a cheater, always a cheater", however, by committing this act he has shown that he cares about himself more than his wife or his family. Second, this other woman is now pregnant with his baby? That means that he will have to be in that womans life forever. He can't just say, "oh well I made a mistake and I'll never see her again." He is legally obligated to care for that child. If not emotionally, for sure financially.
In short, tell him that you want to be civil, and you want him there for the kids, but that you would be getting back with him for all the wrong reasons. Be strong and if he really does love you and his kids he will stick around and be there for you even if it is not romantically.
2007-07-03 12:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by peck3000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he's just running around getting this woman and that woman pregnant he's A. Got way too much time on his hands and no job.... B He's a lying scumbag C. NO good fool....I'm going with D. All the above... She should leave him and apply for pubic assistance, to help her with the babies.
2007-07-03 12:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him, she should not go back to him and be a "Step-mom" to his other child, she shouldn't even allow him to see her twins, that's how mad I'd be. My best advice is, don't let her go back to that jerk, once a cheater always a cheater and he cannot be trusted, clearly, also make sure he pays her child support!!! Good luck and so sorry about your sister. Best wishes.
2007-07-03 12:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to take him back. His behavior shows that he is irresponsible and does not love her or his newborn children. Tell her to contact a lawyer to draw up divorce papers immediately. I'm sure it will be really difficult to tell him no, but she needs to stand firm and protect her family. Children do not need a dad that would abandon them to mess around and start another family. If he wants to be a part of their lives, he can do it from a distance.
2007-07-03 13:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by awitelin_tsta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to your sister. She doesn't have to get back together with him, but she could still let him help and see his children. I think I would let her decide what she thinks is best, and just be there to support her with whatever decision she makes. Good luck!
Also just because he cheated doesn't mean he's not going to be a good father. My dad cheated on my mother and he's still a great father to me and my sister. And I'm sure my dad's going to be a great grandfather!
2007-07-03 12:46:51 · answer #6 · answered by AshReneeM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that with your help your sister will be just fine taking care of the twins. She doesnt need omeone like that in her life. I think that you are a great sister fordoing what you are doing.
2007-07-03 12:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by 3peas in a pod 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know your sister but it seems liker her husband is a jerk and she needs to leave him alone. But sometimes no matter how hard you want someone to leave their cheating ex they don't because they have hope that they will change and they love them. So regardless of what you want for your sister shes going to do what she wants and hopefully its leave him but if not then you just have to be their for her like you have been.
2007-07-03 12:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by chocolatelvr4eva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone & take him to court for child support!!! Once a cheater always a cheater. The other woman probably just got tired of his BS.
2007-07-03 12:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by *~*love always*~* 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her take him back. Ask for child support and if he won't give it, sue him. If he cheated on her once, who's to say he won't do it again? Hope this helps. Best wishes and good luck to your sister.
2007-07-03 12:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by greenschoolfriend 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should leave him and get child support!!!! She deserves better then someone like that, stay by her side she needs you just dont let her go back to someone like that theres so many guys in this world!
2007-07-03 12:45:36 · answer #11 · answered by ஐ♥Sabine♥ஐ 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋