my soon to be ex is a little psycho. she has a mental disorder that she refused to get help with. after she left, she kept coming into the house and getting things. i changed the locks because things kept disappearing. now i'm telling her let the attorneys sort it out to get what you want. give me a list, i'll move all if it out in the garage and that will be that. she wants in the house for some reason. this woman is an emotional wreck. she also wants to come over and be there alone with me while she picks up the stuff. i told the attorney no i don't trust her, she'll claim abuse if i'm with her alone. she already did that for no reason. she is now freaking out and wants me to be there with her and wants in the house. I said no, this is standard when i can't trust you not to clean me out or claim abuse. normally i would not do this but like i said she has a disorder. is this the right thing to do? she seems to want anything on me to justify her behavior. she has hit me before.
2007-07-03 04:27:00 · 13 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Read a book called " I hate you, don't leave me". If she has a mental disorder, she is NOT going to let you go because she is not mentally ready and probably never will. It is up to you to separate yourself from that situation. You have already answered your own question. Didn't you change the locks for a reason?
2007-07-03 06:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing if she is a danger to you or her self speak with her family (If possible) she made need to be involuntarily committed. Next get a restraining/stalking order so that she will see how serious you are. If she shows up unannouncced keep the doors locked and closed and call the police. I know it sounds mean but maybe it will deter her. MAKE SURE the police understand she has a mental condition and they have someone who is experienced with individuals with mental illness, so that she recieves the best of care and both of you feel protected. Im sorry for your lost relationship. you appear to be a very caring individual who wants to still make the best of where things are. If worse comes to worse a judge can order her committed for evaluation or depending on your state her family can sign her in for a involuntariy commitment. Good luck Glad to see you care. I have mental illness but I have a great support system and treat my condition.
2007-07-03 11:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by dottie42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur doing the right thing by going thru the attorney. I would even change my phone numbers. If she comes 2 ur house or ur job, I would call the police. No one should have 2 live like this and as 4 her mental state, she knows she has a problem and refuses 2 get help, that's not ur problem so don't feel guilty about it.
2007-07-03 11:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by Misty D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others. I would also point out that she will give you a hard time until she starts to swing fron another branch. Whenever my ex wife is single she starts calling and either hitting on me or giving me grief. Ive been married 10 years to another woman now. When she is getting it from someone else she forgets about me.
I will bet you will have a similar experience. I think you are handling it just right. If you are going to be there with her bring a friend or two. It would be good if they where female also.
2007-07-03 11:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when you plan a date out for her to visit and pick up her things have a witness present, if she refuses to accept that, then she will never get her things back.
Btw, doesn't someone have to have some proof of abuse - police report, or atleast pics of the injury from abuse?
I would also look into getting a restraining order, this way she can't be near you by law. See if you have the grounds for that.
2007-07-03 11:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your are doing the right thing. Never be mean but definitely never be alone together. Always have your attorney there when she gets stuff. I hate to admit it but I have done the abusive partner thing and this is a standard tactic to be able to claim ya did stuff you didn't including rape! Be careful!!
2007-07-03 11:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by brutaltruthonly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok a little weird but i almost completly agree with the restraining order and
the new locks if she has a disorder i would let her in with the attornieswith yall
and sit down and talk about the situation.
2007-07-03 11:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by Travis R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck. My buddy went through the exact same thing and it took him almost 4 years to be completely free from his psycho. Get the police involved. RESTRAINING ORDER
2007-07-03 11:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you have a family member in the house with you and present when ever ever she comes over to get things
2007-07-03 11:56:58 · answer #9 · answered by Ghanaian Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman is definitely not ready to let go of you yet. You are handling this the correct way. Don't let her trap you into any situation! Good luck to you.
2007-07-03 11:30:42 · answer #10 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋