Before I got married, I had many friends and we would go out all the time. But I got married two years ago, and since then my friends and I never hang out. It's always just me and my husband. Don't get me wrong, I love to be with him. But sometimes I just want to get with MY friends for a girl's night...
I know my husband must feel this way, too. What should we do?
2007-07-03 03:53:52 · 19 answers · asked by Delilah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Call up the friends, and go hang out. Even though you're married, you need some "me time," or, rather, "you time." My wife and I don't do it as often as we'd like, but we do just go hang out. My wife with her girlfriends to get manicures, or what have you, and my buddies and I go hang out and have, what our wives lovingly call "geek nights." It's good, it's theraputic, and it allows us to come home refreshed, and not take our frustrations out on each other or the kids.
Good luck! And I think you'll find it'll do good for your marriage.
2007-07-03 03:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by Joshua B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a newlywed too,and I had to move to Puerto Rico and I don't have any friends here,so I'm feeling kinda the same way,but I really like being with my husband everywhere.I hated when people think that after you get married you are suppose to be a slave of your husband and cleaning the house 24/7 and party is no longer for us.I think that if you have fun with your husband you would keep your marriage very healthy and sometimes a break is good,you should never leave the things you like to do,because it will change who you are and you wont with happy with yourself.Do the things you like and never change,because you are the person your husband got married to.Good luck!!
2007-07-03 04:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by MAGGIE H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have an in-between for you and your husband. Make sure he has nights he goes out with his friends, and the same for you. Hanging out with mutual friends is fine too, but you need that time apart every once in awhile. Make it a weekly or monthly thing where each of you has a night for you and your friends only. Go to different places and when you come home you will have a great start to a conversation about how each of your nights went!
2007-07-03 04:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by stacynicole83 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Designate a night, such as Friday nights, in which both of you get to hang out wirh your friends. Granted, that doesn't mean cheating... There needs to be a level of trust there, which should already exist if you're married. Go out once a week and have some fun! You'll have the weekends and other weeknights to spend together.
2007-07-03 03:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that sucks for you! I say that you should go out on a girls night, you know since you haven't got a chance to go hang w/ friends. You just have to go talk to your husband. I think he'll understand. your friend never got a chance to hang w/ you maybe because you just got married, and they wanted to give you some alone time and settle down. I hope it works out!
2007-07-03 04:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by Chance J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for over a year and I still go out with my friends and he does his. We do have the occasional meet up with other couples (married or not) and have drinks, see a movie, go out to eat, ect, but we still both hang out with our other friends. Just last week I went out for drinks with a friend of mine I've known my whole life. He doesn't care. Just give your friends a call and set up a night out. Surely your husband would like to hang out with his guy friends too.
2007-07-03 04:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to church and join in with the other married couples. Single people don't have the same interests as married people. Find a group of married people, have game night, have dinners, do things with married friends. It'll go a lot better than running with the single people.
2007-07-03 03:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by Kyle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call up an old friend and say "hey, I know you think that since I got married I don't have any time for you, but I really value our friendship and I miss hanging out with you. Can we meet for lunch?" Maybe you could just send them an email first.
2007-07-03 03:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by MarshaMarsha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he feels the same way you do, then make plans with your friends together or apart and go out. Have you guys talk about doing that? Maybe he is waiting for you to break the ice, about this issue. Girl, talk this thing over with hubby and get ready for a girls night out.
2007-07-03 04:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by carmel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's usually what happens after someone is newly married, since at first all you're into is your marriage, & everything else seems to be forgotten. but i'm sure if you call up your old girlfriends, they'll be happy to have u back, and won't mind spending time w/ u, like the good ol' days. And i'm sure your husband won't mind you doing so, he'll understand it if you explain it to him, especially since you're already married 2 years.
2007-07-03 04:03:02 · answer #10 · answered by !ts _a_ type 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋