2007-07-03 03:41:49 · 9 answers · asked by Nureha 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
By not gossiping.
Keep your speech to things you know about, not innuendo. Be fair and just, and you will gain influence that is not fleeting.
2007-07-03 04:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by Berry 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why do you want to gossip? In my experience, it just hurts people.
Truth is influential.
Gossip is either a little bit of truth dressed up with some juicy lies to create some damaging rumour, or it's a lot of truth that causes embarrassment or shame about someone.
Either way, it's intended to hurt someone, and for some strange sick reason the gossiper [you] gets so much joy from this!
2007-07-09 13:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by Tessa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gossip is not anything I ever listen to so I think you will have a hard time being influential through gossip. Why not just face the person or the problem yourself instead of trying to deal with it through spreading gossip?
2007-07-03 05:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not gossiping will make you more influential. People know not to really listen at you, because you are a gossiper, they won't take you as serious. If they know you can keep a secret and you don't spread rumours, you will be more trusted and more respected. This can even influence your pay and employement status.
2007-07-09 14:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by Chava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gossip will only influence the way others view you yourself. Those who gossip TO you will gossip ABOUT you.
Gossip is not intended to influence. It is intended to defame and undermine others.
Gossip is not concerned with the truth and those who engage in it only reveal a lack of integrity.
Intelligent people do not engage in gossip and will question
what the motivation behind gossip could be.
The problem is that gossipers look worse than anyone and ultimately, it will come around back on the gossipers. They will be their own undoing simply by the karma they put out.
2007-07-10 18:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by pensivity 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gossip is plenty influential as is without your trying to "tweak" it. In fact gossip is in most polite circles the lowest form of communication and is considered mean spirited and cowardly.
2007-07-10 17:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by chadray224 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who cares? if you're so worried about how influential your gossip is then obviously nobody gives a damn about what your saying. gossip is for people with no self-esteem who thrive on the downfall of others. and if you pride yourself on your contrived knack for gossip, then you are a sociopath. remember that things come around full circle.
2007-07-10 16:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a spiteful thing to do!
Plain ol' gossipping ain't good enough for you, you wanna perfect it??
What's ya problem? Are you finding people not wanting to listen to you anymore??
It's a sign gal - shut that trap of yours before you end up completely friendless.
2007-07-09 13:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to stetch blame on feelings alone, try to have good examples. Also try to come off as calm and collective. Otherwise people will think you just want to bring someone else down.
2007-07-08 20:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by the thom 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋