My friend and I like going out shopping, out to eat, and to the malls every now and then. But most of the time I've been treating her, rather than her treating me every now and then. I don't want to sound selfish at all, but I have a limited budget and half of the time I can't afford to go out, and she knows this. Keep in mind, she is handicapped and she hardly goes out much. But I start to feel bad for her that we can't go out and do things. My question is, when it comes to friendships. should a friend split the bill every now and then? Or should I find other places to go that doesn't involve much money? I don't want this to ruin our friendship. Your input is welcomed. Thank you!
2007-07-03 03:40:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
It's kind of you to have been paying the bill for so long, but it's really quite unnecessary. She's your friend, and you're both on equal footing in this relationship, right? I say you should definitely start splitting the bill, not sometimes, but everytime you two go out.
If she's even shorter on cash than you, then you could offer to foot the entire bill every once in a while, but more often than not it makes sense to split it or get separate checks. You might also look out for fun things to do that are free. Especially now that it's summertime, many cities offer free movies in the park, etc.
It's clear that you really value this relationship, and it's wonderful to see how considerate you are of other people, but please don't feel that it's necessary for you to bend over backwards all the time. A relationship, especially in terms of friendships, should always endeavor to be between two equals. I'm sure that it will work out some way, since you seem to truly care, but I hope that you will be able to stand up for yourself a little more. Otherwise, you may end up feeling resentful when you're short on cash later on.
2007-07-03 04:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by Nisha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I go out with my friend, we split it down the middle or separate checks. We are going to be with each other, laugh, talk, money really never came into it. It is nice to treat once in a while, like if she forgets her wallet, or it is her birthday or some other special occasion.
I say, let her know you are low on cash and you just want to split the bill. I am sure she will understand, being together is what is important. BFF!!!
2007-07-03 03:55:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try going to places that do not involve the expenditure of cash. You could casually mention that the park will have to do today because of limited funds.
2007-07-03 03:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
say it to her and stop treating her all the time rather save up for a treat and suggest you both save together for it
2007-07-03 03:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats noble of you but who said you have to pay all the time. She can certainly cough up from time to time
2007-07-03 03:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont go out wiht her anymore. sersiouly. find ricjh friends lol
2007-07-03 07:11:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just let her know.
2007-07-03 03:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋