2007-07-03 03:32:00 · 35 answers · asked by Wisdom 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some people ask "why get married then" when all it is, is a hypothesis about a situation. My answer therefore, hypothetically speaking, is, what if you were already married when the idea struck you, and you just wondered about it, cause maybe the hassle of divorce was, well, too much of a hassle?
2007-07-03 03:47:33 · update #1
If I wanted to date other people or I was OK with him doing it, I wouldn't have gotten married to him.
I really don't think having an open marriage is less hassle than a divorce. Supposedly an open marriage is for people with a strong relationship, that just want to enjoy the physical aspects of another person, but not the emotional aspects. If you are interested in forming a bond emotionally with another person and not just fulfill a sexual urge, it would lead to the same end result- a divorce. Even if your only mission in the beginning is a purely physical one, who's to say you wouldn't form an emotional bond? Sex to me is as much an emotional act as it is a physical one. I can't separate the two. Not to mention if an unplanned pregnancy happened, or someone wasn't as healthy as they thought they were. I got married because I love my husband and want to spend the rest of my life with him. If he ever approached me with this idea, our marriage would be over. I couldn't live with the fact that I wasn't enough for him anymore. It would tear me apart, but I can not on an emotional level except an open marriage on any level. That may seem self centered to you, but to me that is what marriage is. Two people.
2007-07-03 03:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't do it, but if cutting your spouse loose is just "too much of a hassle", I guess if he can put up with it, that seems to be what you want to do. Why ask us? I'm not going to condone it by any means. I think it makes for an empty life if you are interested in only the physical aspects of a relationship. If you want an emotional relationship as well, I can't think of too many guys that will give that to you if you are married, not good ones anyway.
2007-07-03 04:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by btpage0630 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The problem is we are all human, and have feelings so, If you
guys have an open marriage, its very likely that one of you is going to find someone that you really click with and then your marriage will end in divorce. An open marriage is not possible I do not care what anyone says. If you love your husband do not do it. If you don't then you guys be adult and just move on in your lives seperately. Good luck to you both
2007-07-03 03:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by missy j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that it's just a sexual act and that your relationship is based on so much more then that. I welcome an open relationship with my spouse. We have an open relationship right now as we speak......there are no secrets and we do have boundaries. I know that he loves me and I love him. Unless you are open-minded you'll never understand. I don't think it's cheating unless we do it behind each others backs and why would you need to? Like I said we're completely honest about the way we feel about each other and other people as well.
2007-07-03 03:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by danaa0927 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not feel committed to my spouse, nor would I feel the loyal bond back from my spouse.
There is a reason for being married, for me it's an unbreakable bond in which a Man and a Woman have made choice to commit to one another completely.
If either or both are not willing to commit for sickness/health, for better/worse, then DON'T get married.
2007-07-03 08:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by warequalspeace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very few marriages ever last with this kind of relationship, someone always enjoys the lover more than the spouse and it causes trouble in the long run,, like everything ,penises and who who come in all different sizes and shapes and looks,, some people orgasm multiple times, some dont, etc etc,,
it would be a great thing if it worked but it rarely does
2007-07-03 03:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think either of us would wish to engage in something like that. keeping up with each other is tough enough without adding complications. I think it would set a poor example for our two teenage boys to. I think exploring our own fantasies in the confines of our relationship has been pretty good. Adding outsiders would just tear at the fabric of the relationship. Nah I pass.
Old Guy
2007-07-03 04:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want an open relationship then why get married? Why would you want to ruin the sanctuary of marriage, a commitment of exclusivity between two people no matter how tough life gets.
2007-07-03 03:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my husband/partner brought up the idea of us having an open relationship then i would honestly wave him goodbye , if he wasnt going to be with me 100% then i wouldnt see the point of having a relationship in the first place , everybody is in to there own thing but one man is enought for me .
2007-07-03 04:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by fafandloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. with that situation it's too easy for loyalties to become divided. lots of people tried it back in the 70s. Open Marriage was #1 on the bestseller list. It didn't work. That's why it didn't catch on.
2007-07-03 03:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋