me n my hubby took rides together but there were some rides on which i felt scared my husband went away with his friend's wife.As he is fond of scary rides n so is his friend's wife they both went to all the scary rides together.I wanted to go to the less scary one and my husband didn't take interest going there n he took me everywhre after he was done his rides with the lady.I can't tell you but I was so furious on that.I hope u understand why?Is it normal 4 me to feel like that or I was wrong there is nothing to feel bad about this.I ask u all men n women.And when we came home we had a big fight.What u guys think?
2007-07-03 03:11:29 · 16 answers · asked by dimpy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
being married to you doesn't mean being at your beck and call or being your devoted slave.
You all went to an amusement park, paid money for it I assume. Isn't it normal to want to get as much out of the experience? He didn't run off to a hotel room with another woman. He stood in line and took a 2 minute ride with a mutual friend who happens to be a woman. Stop being so insecure, you will drive everyone away from you.
2007-07-03 03:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by silligrl357 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you and his friend should have found something you both liked to do, and made it more of an equal thing. Did you two just sit around and wait for the scary ride enthusiasts to come back? I can see how that would foster some jealousy, even if the riders were just wanting to have fun at a park that is known for scary rides?
Jealousy is normal if it doesn't get to far out of hand. If you don't have any other reason to suspect your husband and his friends wife, I would just ask him to skip that sort of thing in the future because it makes you feel bad, rather than accusing him of cheating or something if you don't really have any evidence of that. When someone is innocent and is falsely accused, they get angry. But if you just say its a favor to you, because you feel funny about it, then he might see it as a compliment rather than an accusation.
2007-07-03 03:17:48 · answer #2 · answered by John M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's somewhat normal to feel upset about it, because you kept asking him to ride things with you but he continued to ride with the friends wife. I would try and get over it because I am sure it was nothing more than just having a scary ride companion. Everyone was there to have fun right? So he got his rides out of the way first....no harm done. Just chill out don't let the green monster eat you up.
2007-07-03 03:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by Lynnae_1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a normal feeling. You felt jealous because he was spending so much time with the other lady and when you wanted to do something he blew you off. I'd be upset too, and he was definately wrong for not spending enough time with you. Relationships are about compromise, and if you're too scared to go on a really scary ride, why wouldn't he settle for a less scary one? I mean sure he could go on a scary ride with the lady and everything, but he shouldn't just blow off things you want to do, and spend basically the whole day with her.
2007-07-03 03:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by starsnmoons0101 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have every right to be upset. He should have at least some consideration and not go on all the scary rides with his friends wife. He's was probably trying to impress her. Talk to him about it. But where was his friend and why did he go with her alone????
2007-07-03 03:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not worth fighting over, but your hus needs be trained that in every social situation, he needs to pay ultra-attention to you. And if he's chatting with someone else, it had better be really short (F) or with another man. Tell him that he's married now and the whole idea is to spend time together. Even if it was platonic attention he was spending with the other lady, it makes you feel left out, and that's not okay. You're married and that means you have to play in your own sandbox.
2007-07-03 03:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was enjoying himself with another woman. You felt jealous. I think it's normal. He was being a little insensitive, but he's not cheating, right? There are a lot of interests we know we don't have in common with our spouse and we learn that they share those interests with other people. I think the problem arises when it happens unexpectedly, like with your husband.
2007-07-03 03:16:25 · answer #7 · answered by The Naughty Librarian 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just jealousy..gets the best of us. But it's so natural to be jealous of her being with him. There's nothing that could have happened in a public place. If it still bothers you after a little while then let him know you weren't too comfortable with it and let him clear the jealousy for you. :]
2007-07-03 03:18:32 · answer #8 · answered by hey lauren, 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to resolve your jealousy issues and get over it. What could they have possibly done on a ride in a public place? Next time, get over it, and go with him. Have some courage!
2007-07-03 03:14:52 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What he did probably had nothing to do with him preferring the company of another woman. He was just being selfish, preferring to do what he wanted to do over what you wanted to do. He probably would have acted that way even if it was another guy.
Problem is, if you really think about it, you were being selfish to. You wanted to do what you wanted to do over what he wanted to do.
Next time try compromise. One for you, one for me.
2007-07-03 03:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋