is it something i'm doing wrong? or are they just nasty?

Question

i know some friends and i go to parties and things but, like when i'm there i get ignored and told to shut up and i get nasty things said to me, and people make false rumours about me, like saying i "like" someone when i don't and things like that, and i try to be like them, i try to be fun and things, and i make them laugh, but they say i'm annoying, or they're to interested in another girl who's more slimmer than me, and is basically a tart, and what always happens is i end up looking after the drunk people, and clearin up the sick and the place even when it's not my home! i am really trying to make friends and get them to like me, but they just treat me like trash and they trample all over me and say i'm really ugly and fat and horrible to look at and that i'm annoying when all i do is try to be nice and have fun, it's so strange like there's this person who's one minute they won't leave me alone, then when this other girl comes i'm just shoved back into the corner clearing up,

that girls boyfriends sick, who she then decides to call me all the names under the sun because i'm helping her boyfriend? when her boyfriend became paralectic and i had to call an ambulance she then went to punch me, and all i did was try to help, and she was too pissed out of her head to do it herself, am i doing something wrong here? i really really really want ot be liked for being me! but no one likes me, so i try to be someone else and they still don't like me, apparently my hair is awful because it's tition (copper redish ginger colour) and all i really want is to have friends, i mean my own boyfriend is nasty to me, i don't understand what i'm doing wrong i just want to be liked, what should i do?

Answer 1

Sounds like you need new friends. Don't let what other people say define how you feel about yourself.

Answer 2

They aren't true friends. Quit wasting your time on them before your self esteem is totally crushed. You sound like a warm hearted, caring, fun person. You deserve the best friends ever. Quit trying so hard and when the people that will TRULY be your friend come along, you will have room for them in your life... In the meantime, do things like join a club, or take some classes on things that interest you like tennis, martial arts, or whatever you find fun. You will meet others that way and know immediately that you have something in common since you are pursuing the same thing...

Answer 3

They're not true friends, they seem to only care about looks and popularity. You seem like a kind person and you deserve better than that, it's not you who has the problem it's them. You need to make them relize how good of friend you've been or you need to make better friends because you can't let these people be cruel and two-faced to you like this. If it comes down to making new friends maybe you should look for their inner beauty instead of their outer beauty.

Answer 4

Clearly they're not your friends. Don't listen to them. They're only insulting you because they feel rotten inside and they need to take it out on someone. Stand up to them and then find some people who like you for who you are. You sound like a really sweet person, and I'm sure you'll find plenty of people who respect that.

Answer 5

You will be treated like a doormat as long as you allow it. These people are not worth your time. They are feeding off your desperation to fit in and they will simply use it against you because you don't have enough self esteem to tell them to knock it off.

Get interested in some activities where people have more self respect than to drink until they puke and call it fun.

Answer 6

i had a similair problem growing up but unlike you i ignored it and didn't discuss it with any one. what you should do i believe is one ditch those so called friends and start finding out who you are before you worry too much what other people want you to be. and never let any one push you around again. cause after all we are all equal. good luck hope this is of any help.

Answer 7

They're not in charge of your happiness, you are. Don't let others steal away your happiness. Don't even give up control to them.
Stop cleaning up after them; they don't appreciate you for it. They would appreciate you better if you stepped back and let them come to you.
You're not here to make them laugh - you're here to make the world a better place. Hang out with people who agree with you.

Answer 8

sounds like you need new friends or drink more. either way at a party if someone says something rude you tell them the "F*ck off" dont let people walk all over you. you need confidence and alcohol is the liquid form of that. Drink more.

Answer 9

These are just a nasty group of people you are hanging around. Look for new friends.

Answer 10

get better friends dont kill urself trying to make them like u...and if you think u r fat try to lose weight check on the scale what your weight should be....dont go out with those so called friends its better to have 1 friend and not them...