So, there are a few guys who like me, however, I am not single, and I have never talked to them. I don't know who these guys are, and we have never even said "hello". However, there are a few who are interested in me. I am not interested in because as I said, I am not available. However, my reaction to their advances by them trying to get to know me is to ignore them, or avoid them. Is this wrong to do? Now, I have never spoken to them and do not know them from Adam. I feel this is being rude, but, I feel this is the only way to be. If they do ask me out, I will tell them I am not available, but thank you, and I am very flattered. But, because we don't know each other, I am ignoring their advances and pretending to not see them. Now, I can tell they are feeling rejected and I feel bad, but, what else can I do? Do I owe them an explanation as to why I am not interested and not single? I feel I am doing the correct thing. What do you think?
2007-07-03 02:41:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
We have smiled at each other, and I am polite, but, now I am avoiding/ignoring them because I do not want them to get the wrong idea.
2007-07-03 02:42:58 · update #1
Interesting madbaggage. Thank you! I like that suggestion.
2007-07-03 02:48:09 · update #2
I feel guilty and bad though. I feel maybe I should not of been "open" like I was and maybe they wouldn't feel rejected.
2007-07-03 02:49:47 · update #3
Topher, you need to read closer and slow down. I am NOT single.
2007-07-03 04:47:54 · update #4
Topher, you are strange.
You have a real problem. See ya!
2007-07-03 05:00:09 · update #5
You are trying to get inside other peoples' heads. Stop that, it will make you crazy. It's not "wrong" to do what you are doing. Stop feeling guilty. So what if someone "feels rejected." They'll get over it. - Love Jack
2007-07-03 03:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by Jack 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So, there are a few guys who like me, however, I am not single, and I have never talked to them.
-I am a bit confused as to why this is even a problem. You said you are rejecting their advances, so do they walk up to you, start talking, and then you just walk away without a word. If that is the case then yes being rude. People don't generally just walk up and stick their tounge down your throat, do they?
You don't have to completely avoid contact with other people who may be into you because you are in a relationship.
" I don't know who these guys are, and we have never even said "hello"."
-Again, I don't think you have a real problem here. Maybe these "guys" don't even exist?
2007-07-03 04:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can only be polite to a certain extent, and when you have told the person in question that you are not single and you are not interested, it is up to him to understand. You have done enough, and you do not owe any further explanation. You have done the right thing by being clear and honest.
2007-07-03 02:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by Gaymes Last Orchestra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself: "If they do ask me out, I will tell them I am not available, but thank you, and I am very flattered."
There really isn't much more you can do. Don't worry about their feeling rejected. It is something they will get used to in time (I did).
2007-07-03 02:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why this problem has to be exclusive to the gay community.
Do what single women do when they don't even want the subject brought up - treat yourself to a fake engagement or wedding ring - anything that says 'taken' before you even get asked.
2007-07-03 02:47:17 · answer #5 · answered by madbaggage 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say talk to them, you can flat out say you aren't interested. But who knows you could at least make new friends. :)
I'll try to stop hitting on you, but your hair just drives me crazy! hehe sorry I just wanted to attempt to be cute. My serious answer is above... :)
2007-07-03 03:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by Jyse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It kinda sounds like you are doing the only thing you know to do. I mean, like you said...you really DON'T owe them anything. Good luck with that!
2007-07-03 02:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by d_nanner 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell them you are taken but are always interested in making new friends, but friends only
2007-07-03 02:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by Teh Ebil Gey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u dont owe anyone an explanation .. nor should u feel bad ..
2007-07-03 03:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by KxFx 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋