I have three children 14, 11 & 5?

Question

The 11 year old is the only boy & he wants to live with me but his mother won't let him. She says she doesn't want to break up the family. We have been separated for 2 years & the divorce is all but done. She broke up our family with years of cheating & denial of the whole thing. She was caught at the airport with a guy by a friend of mine & she denied it & said it was just fate that he ended up going to the same place on the same plane. Anyway what action can I take? My son doesn't get any male interaction besides with me & my brother & it concerns me.

Answer 1

personally i think children being left w/ the mother is overrated and fathers should have as much privlage as well. if its already been disputed in court nothing much can be done.. also its a civil matter if u go pick him up from there and she allows u he is in ur possession until u go to court... she can call the cops and they will tell her the same and to take u to court. basucly who has him, has him until court or other wise... u explained why ur worried and have u spoken to a lawyer/proscuter... this is what we are doing right now w/ my neice....

Answer 2

That's a toughie. But consider that your son is also the only male influence in your wife's household and has a valuable role there in that regard.

Unless all three kids are in danger where they are, I vote for leaving them together but spending as much time with each of them as possible. The girls need a positive male model in their lives, too, you know, someone other than men who cheat with married women.

Good luck, and God bless.

Answer 3

See lawyer because at a certain age, he can choose where he lives and even if doesn't want to see one of the parents.... But let me advise you, GET A GOOD LAWYER!!!! Bad lawyers can make the court go wrong...

Answer 4

The kids need to be together, and they need their mama more than they need anything else. Come over and visit, take the kids places, spend time with them (all of them), but don't take their mama away. Divorce is hard enough, but they need the mama comforting parent right now. Maybe after they've gotten over the trauma of divorce, they'll need the Daddy support & play parent. I'm sorryt your wife has such low morals, but the kids won't understand that. They just need comforting right now and that means mama.

Answer 5

Go talk to a lawyer I think at his age, he can decide on where he wants to live. If not then its 12 years where then can pick.

Answer 6

why would you want to seperate the kids? it will feel like they don't even have siblings - because it will end up as --- when you have the girls - she will have the boy-- when you have the boy- she will have the girls --- He will end up feeling like he has no siblings....... I'd say - just see if you can get ALL the kids more often - instead of doing this to the kids. have you thought about how you will make the girls feel?
As for a 11 year old kid - could be he doesn't like moms rules --so, go live with dad..he's not as strict - i don't think kids should get to play this game.
go ahead - thumbs down to me - its your children that has to live with the outcome - not mine.

Answer 7

See a lawyer
At 11, a judge may say yes
The problem is, it will have to say he does not want to live with his mother. At 11, even if he wants to live with you, telling a judge that, and hurting his mother, he may be able to do.
Do you understand this?

Answer 8

i say keep the kids together with her . just because she found a another man doesn't mean shes a bad mother.And because you don't live with your son doesn't mean you can't interact with him.He can get plenty of male interaction where he is right now.

Answer 9

go get a lawyer its the best way and do you have a job? and does she have a job?
cause if you are doctor and shes nothing you may have all childs back

Answer 10

Time to see a lawyer