I've been a friend with a kind and attractive woman for a few months and still new to each other. From her observation, she knows I'm soft-spoken and a little shy when I talk to her.
It's been almost two weeks since she has been on vacation. She told me beforehand about her trip, but never told me when she was leaving nor coming back. While she was gone, I left a few messages on her cell phone asking her to call me when she arrives or has time. I left my last message this past Saturday. I know it seems annoying that I left her a few voice messages when she was on away and I feel guilty about it. I never meant for this to happen. Currently, I don't know if she's back from her trip nor if she is doing something to keep herself busy. What will her reaction be if she finds out that I left a few voice messages (to remind her to give me a call) on her phone while she was away? Will she be angry? annoyed? I'm a little puzzled and wondering if she'll speak to me when I see her.
2007-07-03 02:35:25 · 9 answers · asked by Derik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
More than one message was unnecessary and will tell her that you want her without a doubt. All you can do is wait for her to contact you or to bump into her wherever you guys meet and apologize for the messages. You can maybe get away with some dignity by explaining that (if you only left two messages) that you weren't sure if you left a message or not so you called again, or (if you left more than two) that you didn't know when she was coming back and thought you'd try her once in a while, you could also say that a couple times you thought of something both of you would appreciate and couldn't help but call her and share it but realized she wasn't there and didn't want to explain it to voicemail.
Now if she's interested in you, she'll like it that you called as long as you didn't act like a stalker.
2007-07-03 02:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by One Voice In The Day Rings True 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How many messages are a few? If it was 1, then that was perfect. If it was 2-3, then I wouldn't worry about it, either, unless you said something weird. There is nothing wrong with leaving a couple of voice messages. If it was more than 3, then you definitely came off as being needy. Doesn't mean that it will freak her out or anything, and I doubt she'd be angry about it. But it could be a big turn off. Wait a few days then call her again, but DON'T leave a message if she doesn't pick up. You are just checking to see if she is home. If she doesn't pick up, then wait and see if she contacts you when she gets back. The worst thing that can happen is that she'll decide she is not interested in you. It happens. Move on. If she does call, then just go from there. You sound like you are very nervous. Chill out a little and try to keep yourself occupied until you know what is going on. Good luck!
2007-07-03 02:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, speaking from a girl's point of view, you seem to have come on a little strong. With not knowing for so long, she doesn't have to tell you anything, she probably thinks of you as an acquaintance. Someone who could be more in time. But I'm afraid you made the wrong move calling her so often. You may have scared her away. But just in case!!! DON'T CALL HER!!! If she wants to contact you she will, but give it some time. If she has come back, she's probably trying to get her normal life back in order, and will call you when she has a free moment. And when you do speak, don't bring it up!! Just ask her how her trip went, and say your glad she had a good time. If this women really like's you, I'm sure she'll just brush off the phone calls. Just remember, don't let this be a pattern, no one wants to date someone who is a bit controlling and nosy.
Good luck!
2007-07-03 02:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you left 100 messages, I don't think she will be upset. I think she is either not back yet, or she is resting from her trip home.
2007-07-03 02:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll probably be happy 2 have heard from u dat just lets her know ur concerned about her & dat u care.
2007-07-03 02:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by virdie e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter what she thinks of you right now
you can always make a good impression later on
she might even get to like you if you have enough game
you know what a woman like her likes and ur in!
2007-07-03 02:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by aznhobo4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE SHOULDN'T BE MAD... BUT I HAVE TO SHARE THIS WITH YOU.. 'SHE IS WITH A MAN AND DON'T HAVE TIME FOR YOU RIGHT NOT. DON'T TAKE IT TO THE HEART ABOUT HER NOT CALLING YOU BACK. TRUE ME SHE GOT ALL UR MISSAGES.'
2007-07-03 02:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by Brownsugar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont worry. she'll just know that ur thinking about her. thats good.
2007-07-03 02:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by coffeechick 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if ur nice she'll lyk yuu
2007-07-03 02:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by hunnii b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋