I love this man and have known him for years, and we may just becoming sexual with each other. Everything is limited and just a serious question ( with no jokes please) what would be the best way to start the annitiation? me? him? i have feelings for him and we R going to do it I'm just afraid I'll hurt him! Anyone feel me on this one, give me a response.please.
2007-07-03 02:01:47 · 18 answers · asked by moonchild69 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ People with Disabilities
First of all glad to hear ur giving a guy in a wheelchair a chance. Take to him tell him ur true feels & worries. I bet he'll be glad to talk to u & work it out. I'm in a wheelchair & my gf is normal. She wasn't sure what or how & had her worries. We talked got it worked out great things r happening. Good Luck!
2007-07-03 04:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by Davweso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't hurt him. Especially if he's been like that for a while.. I think you should wait for him to initiate everything the first time.. Go with the flow and after everything is said and done, then ask him... If you are comfortable with him ask him what could have been different and what would make it better for the next time.. He's a regular ol' guy, just different ways of doing things.. Don't treat him any different than you would anyone else... Just talk it over with him.
2007-07-03 02:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he may look a little different doesnt mean that he is fragile. I say if you are ready to make the next step that go for it!! Being a little different does not put any restrictions on what a person is capable of doing, I am sure that he will be flattered that you would not treat him any differently, in a sexual way, than if he did have all of his appendages. Take control and go for it.
2007-07-03 02:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you have known each other for years; just communicate and be honest with him. He will appreciate your openness. Two other things that help are creativity and a sense of humor. If something doesn't work one way then try it a different way. Be patient and willing to laugh at yourselves. If something goes wrong it's not the end of the world. Take your time and enjoy each other.
2007-07-03 18:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by Brian B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in wheelchairs and on crutches and I've made love while in both situations and what I can tell you is that making love with a person who has one leg isn't that much different than making love with a two legged one if you use your imagination and if you ask him what makes him feel good. He'll help you find what's best for both of you. It will make for a meaningful relationship.
2007-07-03 15:18:00 · answer #5 · answered by Kathryn R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are worried about something that's not a problem this guy has more than likely has it all worked out don't treat this encounter as if you are holding a expensive china doll just enjoy the moment if you hurt him you will be the second person to know it he'll be the first
2007-07-03 21:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by warring d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to hurt him. Unless you bite down too hard or are into s&m or bondage.
Think of it like approaching a stray cat. talk nice, move slowly, pet gently, kiss softly, lick vigorously (cats need bathes) and mount carefully (big cats). I'm sorry, this is a very difficult analogy, but if you keep it in mind you won't have a problem. You might laugh a little, but you won't have a problem.
2007-07-03 06:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by Cat onahottinroof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you shouldnt worry about hurting him,I mean if you do have sex with him, the feeling will overwhelm him that he'll forget about his missing leg and he'll just enjoy having sex. I cant say how long its been since he's had some, but by the sound of it it seems like its been a while. Give it to him.
2007-07-03 02:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by Thee Observer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Good for you!
Kissing and snuggling are good. See if you can get him out of the chair and laying down. (Sure is complicated, I see what you mean.)
Even Tony Soprano made love to a one legged woman (So did Paul McCartney probably)...signs that attitudes about disabled folks are easing up.
I'll bet he welcomes the intimacy.
I wish you the best!
2007-07-03 02:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by Topsail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both know it's coming, i'd just look him in the eye one night and say, "Well, you going to help me figure this out or should i just go find a book on the subject?"
Just take your time and have fun with it, and it will all work out the way it's supposed to...
2007-07-03 09:17:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋