How do you know if your husband is cheating?

Answer 1

Catching him in bed with someone is usually a bit of a give away

Answer 2

Sudden Changes in Schedule
Some men may be spontaneous, but most of us keep a set schedule or standard routine in some form or another.

This is especially true for day-to-day activities. Has your man's routine suddenly changed without you knowing why? Did his working hours increase or does he have a new gym schedule? Things often change in our lives. In turn, we decide to try and impress our bosses by working overtime or resolve that it's finally time to get into shape. But what raises suspicion is how these changes are communicated to you. Was the decision made without your input? Was there an attempt to include you? Are there any signs of progress?


Emotional Distance
It's normal for the intensity of your relationship to decrease after you've been together for a while. There may have been a time when you couldn't bare to leave each others' sight and now you both enjoy your time alone. This isn't a sign that he is cheating, only that the relationship is starting to settle into a loving and comfortable phase. Nonetheless, take note of any emotional distancing. Has he stopped listening or laughing? Does he seem distant or spacey, almost as if he's preoccupied? Take note if your partner is there physically, but not quite "there" mentally.


Less Time Together
Just as the intensity of a relationship dwindles slightly over time, so may the time you spend together. But spending less time with each other shouldn't be confused with spending no time at all. Don't react too swiftly. Who knows, his company may be ready to close on a huge deal and they need him around the clock. Or there may be some other legitimate circumstance that demands his attention. Many huge time commitments like these don't last for long periods of time and make sense. He may be working 14 hour days, but does he also leave home on weekends? Look for the unreasonable and unexplainable time commitments.


Instinct
Mom always said follow your instincts and this is a time when that motherly voice can come in handy. If your gut tells you that something is wrong or that some other guy has captured your man's attention, then go with it. But take caution with how far you follow these feelings. Ask yourself if they are legitimate concerns or if you yourself are lacking trust.

Answer 3

Why would you suspect? Has he changed his clothing, grooming, eating habits, time schedule, frequency of sexual (more often or less often) activity with you?

Are you generally non-trusting? DO you have issues of your own? Are you contemplating doing so yourself or have you already done so?

Not being mean just asking you questions that may help you derive your own answer. This is a tough subject, probably much more serious than Answers... on the internet can provide.

If you trust him just ask. If the answer doesn't work for you then you should both head into a professional. I cheated and was cheated on (each time I deployed). We are divorced now mostly because we sought help too late in the process, all the wounds had become too deep and the damage was too irreperable to overcome. What we did learn was that we both had strayed because the relationship at home was "broken"... the sex of the affairs was just a minor tool for the intimacy/validation/joy that wasn't present in our marriage relationship.

Answer 4

That's awefully vague question.

For you to think that you must have some signs that he's cheating. If you don't then you may be the one with trust issues that you need to deal with.

If you're making accusations without any proof then your marriage is already over. You'll run him off or into someone elses arms.

If you have signs he's cheating then outright confront him with the proof you have. You can also spend a nice day following him around and see where he goes and what he's doing when you think he's off screwing around.

Answer 5

If you think he is cheating, he probably is cheating.
1) He won't let you see the credit card statements.
2) He won't let you see his cell phone records,
3) Excuses of why he isn't home.
4) Going to the gym. (when he never went before)
5) Buying lots of new clothes including underwear
6) Unexplained absence from places he usually goes.
7) He is avoiding the rest of his family.
8) He doesn't have the same friends.
9) He is indifferent to you.
10) If you question him, he will accuse you of having an affair or better yet tell you it is YOUR fault.

Answer 6

If you have to ask the question then you know the answer is yes.

Does he come home from work later than he use to?
Does he seem less interested in you then he used to?
Does he smell like he's been around other women?
Does it take him 2 hours to shop for 3 items?
Does he come home without his underware?
Does he come home wearing different clothes then he left in?
Does he go out and leave you out at home and claim he's going on a guys night out?
You'll forgive him, but that will not help, you will get devorced any way.

Answer 7

If you think there's a possibility then he probably is. If he is always gone, lies,spends money on thing she normally wouldn't,and makes that extra effort to look good i would say yes. I would ask him for an honest answer and when he says yes leave. Just cut your losses and move on. You didn't mention kids so that's probably a good thing. No child should be in between you to right now.

Answer 8

If you feel like something is going on - unless you are a nutjob and you ALWAYS think someone is out to get you - usually there is. People like to live in denial about those types of things. If my fiance called me and said he had to work late - I would believe him because I trust him. If there were other signs, like he doesn't want to sleep with me, takes phone calls ibn other rooms, I find things like receipts for movies or dinners that were not business related or condoms when we don't use them and THEN he calls to say he has to work late.. well there you go. The relationship usually changes, there are signs. Listen to your instincts, they are usually right.

Answer 9

Of course he is having an affair. If you feel it in your gut he is doing ito no question about it. Be smart and watch without saying anything and catch him this way he will not accuse you of being overly jealous or crazy like most men do. Good luck

Answer 10

All you have to do is follow your instinct, watch his body language and if your husband is having an affair it will show all of his changes. Don't let him fool you and like what other says here it will show the big difference...

Answer 11

If your asking you already know in your heart. Not enless you are the jealous kind. Usually things change between you in the bedroom. If you have asked him and he says no then maybe you need to start asking around maybe follow him when you feel he is doing it. Or ask a friend to go with you in their car.