im 15 and pregnant. i got pregnant in november last year and was forced to have an abortion i am now pregnant agen and i dont no what to do beacause im scared to tell anyone because i want to keep my baby this time whats should i do ?
2007-07-03 01:39:14 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Dear God, when will children like you grow up? Stop getting pregnant and finish high school...
2007-07-03 01:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by j c 3 · 3⤊ 6⤋
I feel for you in your situation. I really do, but I can't help but ask some questions?
Don't you use some form of birth control?
Why at 15 are you still having sex?
Didn't you learn anything from the first time you got pregnant at such a young age?
I'm kinda in the middle about abortion, but I've always believed that you should never get one when you are using it as a form of contraceptive okay? Abortion is not the answer to one time sex escapades that you think you can have at such an immature age. You need to have this kid, tell you're parents how careless you were (again) and bring this child into the world. Whether you want to raise it or give it up for adoption. You know, it's not your child's fault, and it wasn't your child before this ones fault either.
just think, if you would've kept your first baby, you would have been around 8 months pregnant with that little angel this month.
2007-07-03 02:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by Kendra 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to say that maybe you do need help if you are pregnant AGAIN, did you not learn from the first time.
Think of the child you are bringing into the world or leaving the world. What ever you choice no one has the right to make it for you.
You are 15, you have the rest of your life ahead of you, think about what you can offer the child. It is a big decision and not one to be taken lightly. Because of what happened last year you are in a better position this time and know the pros and cons of what to do and why.
Think about it and i hope you do what is right for you, remember it is your choice your body and your baby.
Good luck, god be with you.
2007-07-05 12:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt feel scared about telling people. THere are people out there to help you and want to help you. The best place will probably be your local family planning to seek advice and support. You dont have to give your real name, adress, and you can ask for them not to contact home or you in the future if it is what you want just look on the internet for your local clinic. Being a mum at 15 is a huge responsibility and im sure you have herd this too many times before; think long and hard about your decision and make sure you have the support from your family and friends Speak to your doctor about your situation - if this is possible and freel you can, take a friend. I think legally it will be difficult for you to get herd about wanting to keep the child as you are under the legal age but many people have done it and make great mums. All the best and i hope this goes your way without too much disruption to you little one. Take care.
2007-07-03 04:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know your only young and your emotions are probably all over the place dont let anyone force you in to something you dont want to do.
Who ever forced you last was out of order and should have never made the decision for you where you are young or not.
Next time use protection and you wont get pregnant, follow what your heart is telling you to do. Try going to your GP as you are enough to see the doctor with out parents opr family mambers present or try and get in touch with social services they to will be able to help you good luck with the future.
If ever you need to talk dont hesitate to email me.
2007-07-03 12:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by kinkyze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear you have to realise that baby's are not dolls. the frist time you got pregnant is forgivable. but a second time you would of though you had sense. are you trying to replace the forceful abortion with this one. or are you getting back the person that force you to have one. what do you think is going to happen this time around. you cant keep this one to yourself you have to say something. as these things show. you need to grow up and stop playing with human life like this. when its over get yourself on the pill
2007-07-04 06:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The obvious answer is that you need to stop having sex or in the least to use protection. Having a baby at 15 is a huge mistake. Could you do the following? 1. Live on your own and take care of the baby 24/7. 2. Support the baby financially? 3. Give up your social life to become a full time mother?
Unless you are ready to do all of those things you are not ready to be a mother. Having a baby is not like getting a puppy. You will be responsible for that child's medical care, emotional health, education, and all of their financial needs for at least the next 18 years. A fifteen year old is simply not ready to do this.
2007-07-03 01:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you really want to keep your baby you owe it to yourself and your child to tell someone soon and get some support, you need constant medical check ups for the sake of yourself and your baby no one can force you into an abortion its your choice but I d think very carefuly first, do u have experience of children? I had my first son at 16 I found it very hard and that was with a partner to help me, I lost the best years of my life missed out on college and gave a lot up, when my friends were going on holiday and having night out I was sitting at home with a crying baby, depressed and lonley, I went on to have my second son at 22 I was more mature older and wiser and enjoyed my baby more I have been in your position and its not all that great please believe me! If you need to talk e mail me lve jo xx
2007-07-03 01:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by jo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you should decide on a form of contraception.....to get caught once is unlucky, to get caught again is just silly.
Only you can decide if you want to keep this baby or not and you are going to have to tell someone regardless of your decision. You might find your mum and partner are more supportive because of what you have already been through. I'm sure your parents will be disappointed at first but they will get used to the idea as time goes on.
Good luck and fair play to you for wanting to go ahead with the pregnancy - its not going to be easy but its very rewarding
2007-07-03 01:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by Trillyp 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dear Angel,before you decide to keep the baby, think again and explore wisely of your choices, the role of the father, the financial outlook for the next 18 years. Do you have the maturity to handle a child alone? What about your education?
Discuss the matter with the elders and explore the possibility. Think of damage control as alternative option.
2007-07-03 02:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by toonking 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
go and speak with your doctor they cant tell your parents under the patient confidentially act, when will you be 16? who forced you to have the termination last time? is the father still around? and how far gone are you? speak to childline they may be able to refer you to someone but you need to get some help of some sort
i wish you all the luck in the world its not easy being a teen mum but it is rewarding if you get the support you need
good luck and keep in touch
2007-07-04 22:04:23 · answer #11 · answered by kaznlou2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋