Should a wife feel it is acceptable for her husband to travel for a week to see his children in another state - staying in a "hotel" or with his Ex-wife that is not married, which ever one actually happens. And he wants to do this traveling 1-2 times a year.
2007-07-03 00:28:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He obviously had children before you met him, this is called a "package deal". You are part of his "new package". I don't feel this is acceptable. If you aren't part of his package, you need to find someone who accepts you completely, as you did him. He has vested time with the ex-wife, she knows what will work to get whatever she wants. If he's going to visit, he can do it with you. Do you have a problem with his children? This could be a fun vacation if so much secrecy wasn't involved. Wants the cake and eat it too, perhaps? Good luck.
2007-07-03 00:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by floridagirl1261 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, those are his children and you should be happy that your husband wants to go see his children. If you are a good wife you have nothing to worry about because he is with you not her. Just because she could not move on doesn't mean your husband hasn't. Trust your husband because if you don't and nag about it every time he comes back from seeing his children you may end up like his ex. I am adding on because I read what other people said. Hunny, you have to look at the children, that is a mother that may not want you in her children's lives right now or never. You as a woman and a good wife have to accept that and keep loving your husband. Think if the shoe was on the other foot. Would you want another woman around your children if you feel you messed up your marriage and that is the reason you are divorced? There are women out there that don't want their ex's back but because they have children together they have to deal with each other for the children. Please keep that in mine and don't push yourself on his children because you may not like the ex and your husband is keeping you out of a bad thing and you don't want the children having to deal with all that drama; they are just children. So again trust your husband and if you don't then you two should not be together because without trust the marriage is going to go down hill fast.
2007-07-03 00:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by Black N Proud 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, if he wants to travel to another state to see his kids then you go with him. In no circumstances should he be staying in his ex home. When a couple marries they go practically everywhere together why should he go on vacation and not you.
2007-07-03 06:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by beliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing your children for a week without your new wife is fine. You children need to spend some one on one time with you. I don't think it is wise to make it a habit though. I also do not think it is wise to stay in your ex wife's home. Stay in a hotel, that is less emotional for your wife, and less confusing for your children.
2007-07-03 01:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lee B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you should be travelling with him. Stay at a hotel and entertain the kids from there or have them come to your home for the week.
2007-07-03 00:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, especially if it's to see their children. Though I would insist he stays in a hotel.. to stay at the ex's is disrespectful to you.
You can't keep him from his kids for any reason... that will only drive a wedge between the two of you. Instead of getting upset why don't you go with him... if that's not possible then perhaps find loving ways to discuss your fears, worries, etc with him. But do not, do not, try to tell him he can't go, don't get upset he is going... those are his children.
2007-07-03 01:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes ...he should be allowed to go......remember he is coming home back to you! I don't feel you are have a problem with him taking what you call a vacation...you just have a problem with him being in the same location with his ex.....but that is excatly what she is...HIS EX!!!! I can understand how uncomfortbale this may make you feel.....but you are his life now..and I have already said he comes home to you. We can all sit around and post comments and point fingers and simply assume there is more too it...but if you don't sit down and talk to him, then there is noone to blame but yourself. Talk to him!!!
Good luck!!!!
2007-07-03 00:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi yes this should be allowed, but maybe say you feel left out and try and arrange to come along for some of the time or try and change the circumstances so that the children come to you guys. He is your husband so there should be enough trust in your heart for him, he obviously has trust in you to leave you at home for a week unattended, i hope you can make peace of this situation....
2007-07-03 00:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by misstth 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the answer is "NO" if current wife is not permitting, coz husband will be visiting the place to see his children which is also a same right of his wife too, so permission becomes necessity.
If you will not be asking for the permission and dun wann her to know this, the question itself doesnt arise.
2007-07-03 00:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by Akash 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should be able to travel alone to spend time with his children. I am not so sure about staying with the ex. I would want to be able to devote 100% of my time to the kids if I didn't get to see them much.
2007-07-03 00:34:34 · answer #10 · answered by Answer Man 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋