well a friend of mine and his brother is about 19....and he met 1 of his fathers friends....and he has a daughter whose 8...
and he said he likes her.....
he said he wants to wait till hes successfull has a good job and lot a money and he says that that al take 9 to 10 yrs and hel be about 30 by time he gets married....
i think thats fine....but the problem is he likes that girl....and his brother is telling me he has a crush on that little girl....and really he wants to wait....till she grows up so that shes about 20...or somet when hes like 30....and then he wants to get friends with her and may be tryn get married....
i dont know what to say.....
do you think a person could like a kid...so much that he wants to wait 10 yrs till this girl is old enough so that he can get friends with her....and may be marry his love....
he doesnt think of her in a sexual way....just coz shes cute....and looks very beautifull....
what do u think is it fine or what....?
2007-07-03 00:12:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i dont know what to say....to my friend....or his brother....
hes 19 and loves a 8 year old girl....
he wants to wait till shes 20 and hes 30 then he wants to start dating her and may be get married....to her in end...
my friends really worried about his brother....and hes asking for my advice...what do i do....
do i just say forget it hel grow out of it....
or do i say just let him wait as long as he keeps his distance from her....
and then when the girls grown up then may be tryn ask her parents to arrange a marriage...
coz here in pakistan most marriages are arranged....
so what do you say....
i mean the only problem will be him waiting so long....
and when shes grown up theyl only be 10 yrs age difference....
do you think its a problem....or what...
i mean she might turn out to like him....and he might love her more when she grows up.....to be a young beautifull girls....in her 20s....
and hes a mature rich guy in his 30s....
9 minutes ago
2007-07-03 00:13:56 · update #1
i dont know what to say....to my friend....or his brother....
hes 19 and loves a 8 year old girl....
he wants to wait till shes 20 and hes 30 then he wants to start dating her and may be get married....to her in end...
my friends really worried about his brother....and hes asking for my advice...what do i do....
do i just say forget it hel grow out of it....
or do i say just let him wait as long as he keeps his distance from her....
and then when the girls grown up then may be tryn ask her parents to arrange a marriage...
coz here in pakistan most marriages are arranged....
so what do you say....
i mean the only problem will be him waiting so long....
and when shes grown up theyl only be 10 yrs age difference....
do you think its a problem....or what...
i mean she might turn out to like him....and he might love her more when she grows up.....to be a young beautifull girls....in her 20s....
and hes a mature rich guy in his 30s....
2007-07-03 00:14:03 · update #2
what can we do....he wants to marry a girl whose younger....and he wants to marry when he has enough money...and has a good job....at microsoft....hes still doing college and a part time job....
and he wants to get married when hes about 30 to a girl whose 9,10yrs younger that him....anyway...
and since hes seen this girl....he really likes her a lot....and hes thinking shel be just right age and will be all good looking and perfect by time hes ready to marry....
what would you do....
i think we should just make sure he keeps his distance from the girl.....and then when she grows up if he still likes her....then he should talk to her dad about an arrange marrage....
2007-07-03 00:18:03 · update #3
look hes my brothers friend.....
i cant report him.....
and he doesnt think of her in a sexual way....hes never even been near her or even held hands....
he just saw her with his fathers friend....her dad....and he likes her....
he wants to marry a girl like her....and hes thinking he wants to wait til shes grown up like 20 or somet and then hel ask her to marry him...
2007-07-03 00:20:53 · update #4
well look hes not thinking shes a kid....hes thinking when hes 30 hel have a 20 yrs old beautifull girl....to get friends with and date her....
she does call him uncle...
shes met him a few times....and hes really nice to her he gets her chocolates....and gives her spending money.....he even...gives her gifts all time....
such as a box of chocolates....toys barbie dolls...etc....
hes really a good friend....but physically he has a distance between her....he never ever touches her....or anything...
he respects her as a girl....
hes a very clean and honnest guy....actually hes still a virgin too...hes never touched any girl at all....
and he wants to stay a virgin till the marriage....night...
2007-07-03 00:27:04 · update #5
The guy is perverted. And your question is way too long.
2007-07-03 00:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by sakotgrimes 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is the second time I've answered this question, and I am going to say now, YES, I do think you have a problem for sure. For example, it is the third time you've asked the exact same question within the past 24 hours,so that is indicative of something possibly obsessive. Second, you're not being completely honest with us, in that your Pulse profile says you are 26 and not 19. And now I can't believe you are getting so many answers that are saying basically, "Oh sure, it's okay." Isn't anyone actually reading your question?? You are an ADULT male. You SHOULD NOT be dependent upon a child for your emotional happiness and well-being. And this CHILD should NOT be touching you, holding your hand, or asking you intimate personal questions like "Do you have a girlfriend?" This situation is fraught with peril. As I said in my first answer, which I will copy below just for emphasis, you need to be running!!!!!!!! from this situation, not debating it. PREVIOUS ANSWER: Whoa, whoa, whoa!!!!! I think you already know that this is EXTREMELY wrong; legally, morally and ethically. All the answers you've so far read about this being okay, are to say the least, COMPLETELY wrong! In the future, you should just stay completely away from this little girl. That's right, she is a LITTLE GIRL. You should have never been hugging her or holding her hand or having any physical contact with her whatsoever in the past, and you should definitely not have any sort of contact like this in the future. And if you should stay away from this girl altogether, you should DEFINITELY NEVER allow yourself to be alone with her. This is very, very serious business, and if you EVER do anything with this girl, the repercussions that come down on you will be like a tsunami on Japan...and those repercussions will last for the rest of your life!!! I understand you have conflicted feelings of despair and depression, and for those I strongly suggest you find some good counseling. You recognize that being with this girl is wrong, wrong, wrong and you need to address this with a professional, also. You SHOULD NOT be relying on the emotional support or presence of a 12-YEAR-OLD GIRL, for crying out loud, to make your life worthwhile. That is just too wrong for words. Someday you will be 29 and she will be 22, and in that world everything would be different. But I'm not even going to hold that out as a glimmer of hope for you, because she is going to be a completely different person then, and will likely think of you only as a minor memory. I know that hurts, but there are realities you NEED to face RIGHT NOW. For everyone's sake, you should not be walking away from this situation...you should be RUNNING from it!!
2016-04-01 05:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what things are like in Pakistan, but here in the US any grown up looking at an 8 year old saying he is in love is a very bad thing.
But, your talking 10 years from now he wants to marry her.
I am willing to bet that 10 years from now he will have forgotten about her completely.
A lot of things can happen in 10 years.
He will be married to someone else and have a family by then and she will be a distant memory.
2007-07-03 00:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Mr R 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the guy needs help. This is how it all starts. They see a young girl they are attracted to, and things escalate until the little girl ends up getting hurt. Does the parents of the girl know this?They need to keep her far away from him. Shes just a baby. How could he have these feelings for a baby?
2007-07-03 00:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by me 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You really put in an effort to ask this question, didn't you?
Ok, my grandmother is just about 15 years younger than my granddad. Only thing is, they met when she was about 15 and he was 30.
Not too bad?
My dad is 11 years older than my mother. They met when she was 12 and he was 23.
I learned of a poet while I was in school who fell in love with a girl of 10 or so, while he must have been in his mid 20's. (He was a teacher and became a poet of note eventually). He wrote many poems on the subject of love, mostly inspired by his love for the little girl, whom he never married...
She was very beautiful. Real life event...
Then again, when I was 9 or 10, I had a lot of adult fun with my cousin, who was 16 or so then...
This sort of thing happens...
They must just be cool, and he must not try to ripen her to his desires.
2007-07-03 01:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
see i understood your problem!!i would rather tell that he has infatuation regarding that girl.in my opinion 10 yrs difference in too long between a couple.and in this case their can be many possibilities****like when she grow up it's not sure that she would accept this guy as her husband.this depend on her attitude at that time.i think this guy should not wait for sometime which is not sure!!he could move forward..world is big engulf.don't waste your precious time.
hope this might help him!!!
all the best***
2007-07-03 00:28:37 · answer #6 · answered by cute_girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, if he was 30 and liked a 20 year old I would think that was fine. But for a 19 year old to like a 9 year old I think that is creepy. She hasnt even reached puberty!
2007-07-03 00:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by morgan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To much for me.... Please he has probably had sex with someone{there are ways to have the girl remain a virgin{having a Dr restitch the hymen} Back door events... I am not saying with the baby girl of 8yrs.... He needs to move on and allow her to grow up and hope her Dad finds her someone who is a better match..... you went for the hard sell to make us think this is all right ;however ,it is not......
2007-07-03 01:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think its quite normal, their are plenty of woman out their not girls! if you say not in a sexual way why hasn't he bonded with her in a different way such as uncle...its strange but you don't know what is going through his head but no i don't think its fine good luck and i hope he comes to his senses!
2007-07-03 00:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i think he should forget her 10 yrs difference s a lot and it will be a problem in their life
2007-07-03 00:19:24 · answer #10 · answered by $a$$wana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PEVERT tell the police thats sick an 8 year old?
eww thats just wrong!
2007-07-03 04:15:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋