She says that she still loves me and wants me to be in her life. I just dont know what to do.
2007-07-02 23:42:12 · 31 answers · asked by Who!!!!!!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She also gave my daughter up to my parents until i get back. How could a mother do that to a kid. How could a wife do that to a husband who is defending the country. I still love her. But i wont ever be able to trust her again.
2007-07-05 22:16:11 · update #1
You have to understand what she was feeling at that time too, she probably went out to have fun and she felt lonely, and some guy lured her to him, she was venerable and wasn't thinking at that time. Maybe she thought that you might not come back or something like that. If you go back to her, you will never understand or trust her again. Just get your daughter back and remember there are many more fishes in the sea.
2007-07-10 10:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends. If she loves you so much why is still living with the other guy? Would you be able to trust her again? Could you work out this issue and not carry resentment? Whatever you do don't stay because it's comfortable. I feel your pain too man I'm going through a similar problem and it's very hard, but take some time so that you can be objective about all these answers.
I once was told by an older man, that in order for you to marry somebody you must be able to both love, like and respect each other. That's six question you both have to consider. After all of this has happened do you think you could respect your wife? Do you think she trully loves you and respects you?
2007-07-02 23:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but your wife - and I use that term loosely - is an adulterous witch. What kind of mother dumps her child off at her in-laws so she can run around and move in with some other guy while her husband is off defending the country? Get custody of your daughter and cut this woman out of your life. You and your daughter deserve way better than what this woman could ever give.
2007-07-10 09:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce, sue for custody of the child. I realize you still love her but she doesn't still love you. If she did, she wouldn't be living with the other guy. Face it and move on. Work as hard as you can at meeting new people and dating and get social and sociable as fast as you can because you'll need the distraction from the pain.
Provide stability for you daughter. This is the best opportunity you'll ever have to actually rescue that child from a mother who cares more about being single than being a single mother. So use this opportunity and let your wife go.
2007-07-10 11:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the relationship was ever about y'all, rather her. She sounds so selfish. How could a parent just give up their children. Even thought my worst and hardest time in my life I kept my children safe and wrapped in my loving arms. I am so sorry for you risking everything for a woman that doesn't care enough for the most precious thing a person can make (children).
Yes, she still wants you in her life she will get to keep her benefits and if you get hurt she hits it real good. She will get your money, money for the kids and a new man. Honey you are better off with out all the drama.
2007-07-10 03:36:27 · answer #5 · answered by calmMOM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would like to say thank you for what you are doing for our country, and God bless you. Second, if she left you while you were overseas, and left your daughter with your mom, consider your relationship over. You don't need someone like that in your life or in your daughter's life. I know it hurts, but please consider it as a blessing, its apparent she does not have what it takes to be a wife, mother, or a woman. See it as a blessing. You be there for your baby, and you be the best father that you can be to her. And when you start to date again, let every woman know when you are dating that you have a daughter, if they cannot accept your baby, they don't want you. God Bless You in all of your endeavors, thank God for your mom watching your baby for you. Love your mom and your baby, and again IT'S A BLESSING THAT THIS WOMAN IS OUT OF YOUR LIVES. And again thank you for defending this country, my prayers are with you, my son also has been deployed.
2007-07-09 07:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by pookster4262 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife is living with another man,I really hate to say this but your wife does not love you.Your wife sounds like she wants her cake and eat to! She sounds like a very selfish person,who only cares about herself! I would divorce her and get custody of your children.You wont have any problem getting your kids,because she more or less gave them up!It sounds like you still love her,but why would you stay in a marriage where only 1 person is in love! GET OUT FAST,you will feel alot better!!!! God Bless You !
2007-07-10 15:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by marykays3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently left the military after being deployed and this is happens to alot of guys. First of all, there are thousands of women out there that wont do that to you, you can do better! Like the other answers say, protect yourself financially! I flew home with a infantry guy who was asking me if he could stay with me because his wife took everything while he was deployed ( car, bank account, kids, house ) - in essence, dont underestimate what she is capable of!
2007-07-03 00:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by manny300 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words...Here you are, off serving your country and your wife is living with another guy?...What part don't you understand?...How can she possibly love you and go play in another guys bed while you are deployed? Are you supposed to feel sorry for her?...
What will happen the next time you have to go...if she's done it once and you've let her off the hook you can bet she'll do it again...I would kick her to the curb in a heartbeat. She has brought disgrace to both you and your marriage. Her moments pleasure is more important than her commitment to you.
2007-07-10 11:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by Domino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her off any accounts that you have NOW! There were so many guys in my husband's unit that lost everything because they had wives like that.
Just because you are in the military and gone alot is NO excuse for her to betray you like that. There are plenty of women who would willingly wait and be faithful. Find one of them and divorce your wife. When she says she wants you in her life you should hear her saying this "I want your benefits and your money but not give a damn about you otherwise"
Seriously get out now while you can!
2007-07-03 00:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by . 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋