I recently became engaged to the love of my life, one of my very best friends, biggest supporter and just an all around great guy. When I told my best friend about his proposal, she just... couldn't be happy for me. She said the usual "Congratulations, that's great." but her voice betrayed her. Now, I know she wants to be married and have children just as bad as I do, she has a boyfriend, a wonderful man who treats her well and it's only a matter of time I think before he proposes to her. How do I deal with her jealousy? I know she's just jealous because I was proposed to first (she's that kind of girl, and god forbid I get pregnant before her.) I just don't know what to do, she's my best friend so I want to be able to talk with her about it, but I feel like I can't let myself be excited about my OWN engagement because of her. How do I deal with this? If she isn't proposed to, when it comes to planning my wedding, how will I be able to handle her jealousy?
2007-07-02 22:07:17 · 3 answers · asked by BadWolf 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Christelle J, I understand what you mean, but it's a little more complicated than that. I love her to death, she's been there for me through some of my hardest times. But I honestly never thought she'd be how she is about my engagement. I don't feel like I can talk to about my engagement (ie sharing details like girls do) her without upsetting her about it. I'm trying to be considerate of HER feelings, I know she can't help how she feels. But I can't help how I feel either, maybe I'm a little upset that I can't just enjoy this time, and for once have the attention on me and not her. I'm not selfish person, far from it. But is it wrong to be a little upset that she's making this about her and how she's always wanted to be engaged and isn't instead of me and my fiance in this special time?
2007-07-03 07:50:41 · update #1
she is, in a way, competing with you.
you have a right to be happy, you're getting married! don't let her take that away from you. she is your best friend so it may be a good idea to talk to her. don't accuse her of jelousy but just tell her that you feel she isn't as excited for you as you would have thought. it's not something you can solve easily, she can't really help the way she feels so if nothing changes just try to get on with the wedding and it's her problem that she can't deal with her jelousy, not yours.
congratulations! hope you have a great wedding!
2007-07-02 22:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by sarahdoll300 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you're very concerned that she seems to be less than thrilled for you and ask her what you can to to help her share in your joy. That will give her a chance to talk to you about what she's really feeling without your accusing her of jealousy.
2007-07-02 22:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by Alice K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really was your best friend, you would have no problem telling her anything
2007-07-03 00:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by Christelle J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋