My husband...?

Question

I tell him what I need and he does it. Then when it's really important or he thinks I forgot, he stops. Why does he do that? He knows I'm going to pitch a *itch. Does he like it or is he stupid? Men, your viewpoint, especially appreciated

I tell him to call if he's going to be late, he was doing good, but today he hasn't called. He knows how I get, all nervous and anxious and worried. Why doesn't he think about that when he doesn't call?

Answer 1

Sounds like his priorities are not your priorities. It wasn't important to him to call, no matter how important it is to you. He doesn't feel the same way you do about it.

And he probably does not like doing as you ask, he feels like he's following orders. It's his ego speaking. I would find it infuriating and disappointing being in your position.

To be happy with the situation, you either have to accept it and not expect him to call, or pose your request in a way that doesn't feel like a demand. Sometimes I think men with egos, if they know how much you want something, the more they hold out on it. Try playing it cool.

Answer 2

You know what I think? I am female by the way, but have been married for 16 years so I definitely know my stuff, lol. My husband used to do the same thing, and what I finally figured out is that it isn't that he doesn't care, but that it is hard to get in the "habit" of doing things that don't already come naturally to him. My husband didn't use to call, but now he does. Guess he finally got it, lol.

And yes, I know that you and I probably try harder to do what "they want"...and just can't see why it would be that hard! I guess that it is just the difference in men and women. Not at all saying all men are that way.,..but I think that women are just better at expressing their feelings and we are more likely to be more nurturing also which means we will always try to adhere to what our man needs.

Men are great too though...don't know what I would do without mine and his positive points are definitely great! Hope this helps.

Answer 3

You need to stop sweating the small stuff, you won't recognize it when something big happens. Maybe he did just "forget" or maybe something came up. You need to deal with your own issues with trust. He can't help it because you get all nervous, anxious and worried, it's your personality flaw, not his. Try taking off on a marathon shopping expedition or get your hair done, see a movie, have dinner with the girls, just get out of the house and don't call home. See if it bothers him as much as it bothers you. I doubt it will.

Answer 4

I think its not that he would do it on purpose its just that sometimes time gets away from us and we dont realise.You sound very stressed, i wouldnt worry too much, its these little things that before long you will find yourselves constantly arguing about, dont stress, why dont you just give him a call?If the reason you are calling for is because you are a lil bit worried, then that is 100% justified he is your hubby, thats fine just give him a call make sure he is alright

Answer 5

Well, my husband can be that way at times, if he is like my husband then you will know why, my husband, is alwalys going things pop up in his head off he goes, and most the time he truly doses for get, my husband is always thing and going! But on the other hand I thing about my self is they just dont care, like me you have to figure it out, then you will know! Some guys have a one track mine!!!

Answer 6

Maybe there is a vaild reason, mobile phone went dead, busy at work, something unexpectedly came up?
Guys are just typical like that. Drives me nuts too!

Answer 7

He needs to leave you. You are not any type of person i would want to deal with what gives you the right to bit*h at someone you sound way to bossy.

Answer 8

I think you need to start treating him like an adult, and stop being so controlling!

Answer 9

stop nagging him... treat him like a husband not like a 5 year old. no wonder he doesn't call you. would you call you if you knew you were going to nag..he probably feels like he married his mom.. no wonder he stays out late.

Answer 10

it really sound like trust and controll issues, if he doing things
that you dont like then talk to him . a marrige is about comuication,