My parents are under the impression that I am out of control and that I need someone to whip me into shape. I live with them right now.There is no reasoning with them. There is nothing I can say. I MUST join the military or leave this minute. I am not a bad kid, I am 19 and I don't do drugs or drink, I don't stay out late. I just really don't agree with their rules. They gave me a car. It is mine, but they claim it is theirs.
I don't have a job or a car to get one. My dad won't let me use the car even though it is mine. It was purchased for me and I used it exclusively. It just sits in the driveway.
So what I need to do is join the Army/ Air force and get enough money for a car and an apartment. Can I join the Army reserve and get a sign up bonus big enough for that? Or will I have to join active duty and give in to them? It feels like they are forcing me into this commitment that will take years of my Life.
What I am trying to do is move out and get a car and stay in the city.
2007-07-02 18:23:17 · 19 answers · asked by darkpotameides45 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
The car is in my parents name. I would love to just get a job and then an apartment and a car. But to do all that I need a place to stay. and I am only at home till the paperwork comes through and I can join.
So I hope the reserves has a big enough bonus so after I get out of boot camp I will have enough $ to get out
2007-07-02 18:35:10 · update #1
Don't join the military. If you do don't make your parents the beneficiary of your life insurance policy. Do you have a friend you could live with? Go get a job tomorrow and start making your own way. This is what happens to foster kids, but not usually to blood children. Please don't join.
Call your preacher and ask for help. Contact Catholic Charities, the Salvation Army, anyone who can help you. You will immediately qualify for food stamps and they will help you get a job there at social services. If you are in school, they will help you find housing.
Don't join the Army. Stay alive. Other girls make it on their own and you can also. Move in with friends temporarily and apply for food stamps and a job immediately.
PS. I just read your profile. You can go to college. Apply for financial aid now. Your parents are tired of your mouth and think the army will help you grow up and learn respect for authority. It will, but you will have to live through it and therein lies the problem.
2007-07-02 18:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I'd be curious to know why they think you are out of control. If you are 19 then you are of age to move out I believe. I think it's 18 in all states where you can be on your own. You have a choice of military or schooling or finding work and schooling...why not find a cousin to move in with and prove yourself by getting work immediately on a bus line. What they are telling you is that if you go into the military then you can get some maturing, and education benefits. I think maybe they want to see that you are mature before they help you out again. Seems they took away your car privileges for some reason (which you didn't state). No, you don't join the military to get a car and an apartment...you join it to grow up and move ahead in the right direction. Your parents know full well that you can't get a decent job without a college education these days. They are trying to help you out in the best way they know how.
2007-07-03 01:38:02 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem with joining the military to go to college or make money is that whole war thing. Many people learn important skills in the military, but it's not for everyone.
Show your parents you're serious about finding a job--work up a resume, fill out as many applications as you can. Much of that can be done from home. Follow up on applications. Ask your parents if you can buy the car from them once you have a job. Set up payments you can both live with. If public transportation is available where you live (I know it's not everywhere), use that. If you show financial responsibility, you may get the car and be able to move out. Good luck.
2007-07-03 01:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by rikkilyn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your parents bought the car, forgive them for not allowing you to use it. Are you going to school? If not you might want to consider that then later join the military as an officer. You can normally get loans/scholarships to pay room and board, and your classes... If you don't like following rules, the army is not a good choice for you. It does have benefits if you stay in long enough though!! You can even join the national guard and get a bonus, especially if you qualify for the right job... The national guard or air guard would probably be your best fit if you want to stay in the area.
2007-07-03 01:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by ~Katie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a million jobs out there that only require the commitment of showing up and performing your job. Your in a hurry and it sound like they are too. The military is one venue. There are many others. JobCorp, California has a Conservation Corps. I am suggesting these because they provide housing. The military is not a bad idea. Its no different than any other job except you cant quit. Give up on the car. They want you to be self motivated. I have a 17 year old and I have been teaching her for 2 years now that when she is 18 I will expect MUCH more. Good luck I was your age once
2007-07-03 01:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by t. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Once you are out of high school you are an adult. I left home when I finished high school you can do it. Start with a job as a live in Nanny or housekeeper if you don't have money to get an apartment. You don't need a car until you have saved some money.
Show your parents you are an adult, figure out how to get a few dollars together and move up the ladder from live in housekeeper to getting an apartment and a hourly job, some roommates and furniture then get a car, go to college. Show them what you are made of.
2007-07-03 01:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me! Army Sargents wont be any better than your parents; this is not the right reason to join the army.
If you hate unreasonable rules then the Army will be a living hell for you; over there you have to follow orders your opinion is not asked or wanted.
Get a job, go to collage and if you want to join the Army do it but not to get even with dad and mom.
2007-07-03 02:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
off course, your car and you are their. they have a better sense of life than you. they have seen much more worldly affairs and ups and downs in life than you.
It is impossible that the parents who brought you up from a infant child to a young child of 19. Who ever take care that you might not get cold, they fulfill your all requirements in life, i'm sorry but you can't imagine how much they love you. If your dad don't want you to drive the car. he definitely knows that it might be harmful for you, for future life and might be for the people around you. The dad who did work hard to buy a car for you and earned as much money to spent on you so that you feel comfortable in your life. How can you imagine that he do not love you and how you can imagine that he do not want your comfortable in life.
on the other hand there is also another point. Might be your parents could not understand you are grown up. You are not a infant now, but they still think that you are not mature enough to face the worldly problems, because you never get involved in such problems and your parents always face these kind of problems and never even tell you, you will be able to better understand it when you come to their stage. I don't know what you are going to do, but remember that time, when you even can't speak there are your parents who understand what you need, and now when you can speak how they could not understand what you need? but only they know what is in favor of yours. nobody can be as sincere with you as they are. an yes you can join military, if you are willing to.
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2007-07-03 01:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by slatch 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey you can join the coast guard too and get the same benefits and not have to get into the fighting....the coast guard gives same benefits for college, great pay, signing bonus too, and you get training for really important work here....you want pay and schooling so that when its over you will have a career taken care of...look into it before you find yourself with bigger problems that whatever it is your parents are unreasonable about...
cant go there with you, about the parents their rules and car issues...but joining the military is a not the fantasy you have in your head about it...a woman I know is in the reserves and the sign up is for a long time...and she was in Afghanistan and sent all over....she really likes it...pay is good....goes to school and stuff...but is always being sent somewhere...but since her stint in afghanistan is over she goes places in the states...now she is in texas...so be sure you don't shoot yourself in the foot...think about it, pray about it, take to a pastor too...military is no picnic and you can't just get out...
2007-07-03 01:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by teri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents cannot force you to join the military. You are over 18 and female, so there have never been any rules in place to allow them to do this.
If dragged to the Army recruitment, tell them exactly that: You are NOT interested, will not BECOME interested. Your parents forced you to talk to them, and with all due respect, you feel this is not the right route for you. Tell your parents you were rejected.
Just look in the papers for apartment ads.
2007-07-03 01:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by Esma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋