she called 5 times that day to "talk to the kids" even though she was coming to pick them up at 6pm.
she moved in next door to us after I mentioned that it makes me uncomfortable when she LETS HERSELF into my home without knocking.
she bought my step-children cell phones when she found out I was pregnant. one of the kids said it was so she didn't have to call our house phone and talk to their father or me any more... and from that day forward she pretends that we don't exist... she sees us and turns her head as if she didn't even know we (or the now 13 week old baby) are there. the ex-wife won't even call my husband if she has an issue to discuss about the kids any more SHE SENDS A NOTE with a child! she USE to call about petty things ALL OF THE TIME (before our new baby)
she remarried before I even met my current husband BUT WHY do you think she's been doing all of these things???
2007-07-02 18:13:36 · 20 answers · asked by JayneDoe 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She was living in hope that her ex might come back to her, this is why she put in such a big effort re the children and moving in next door, but you having his child was a def finite sign to say things are over between her and her ex hubby. Best of luck. Oh if it was me, I'd be trying to find a home to move to instead of living next door to the ex.
2007-07-02 18:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't care who she is, she should not walk into your house without knocking. She didn't want him but she didn't want anyone else to take him either. Give her the same curtisy she is giveing the three of you (you, husband and baby) pretend she doesn't exist. Never talk bad about her because of your children but just ignore her otherwise.If you need to find out something, write a note.Really, this sounds a lot better then the constant phone calls.Just don't let your kids get caught in the middle of this . Maybe she is upset that he isn't sitting and crying over her!! I mean, at least he could have acted a little jealous that she married but instead he, himself got married and had another child and I'm sure the two of you seem happy. This bothers her probably.By the way, congratulations on your new baby. Bet the kids are all proud of it. Boy or girl ??
2007-07-02 18:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by Ava 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Jealousy. You're happy, she's probably not. Just because she remarried doesn't mean she's even content with the man now. You have "her" first love, the kids, and a seemingly happy life. So she's striking back the only way she can. You and your husband care about the kids, so she's going through them.
Have you tried confronting her (with your husband by your side) about these actions? If that didn't work, maybe try a court appointed mediator to attempt to work things out. It's not fair to the kids to be put in the middle of her petty war, and the court could even take away visitations or make them supervised. At least they could make it mandatory that she see a therapist in order to keep seeing the children.
In the meantime, you may want to try seeing a therapist yourself, to unload all of this before it becomes to overwhelming.
Good luck.
2007-07-02 18:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by izzy5_rose 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Child support orders are taken very seriously and I understand that he is not in a position to pay - but having another baby makes it look worst - because his ex-wife is saying if he cannot afford the children that are already here - "how dare he bring another one into the world!" I know logically that does not make sense to you his new wife but from the outside looking in - adding to his already stressed situation and the fact that he has not found a job just makes it worst. You have the right to file a complaint against her - and you should not have deleted your myspace account as that would have been proof of her harrassment. Try to keep personal details like pictures, address and telephone number confidential for now and document her actions and words. In the meantime - You should NOT stop speakng with her - but put her on speaker phone and if possible buy an answering machine and let her chat herself right into the arm of the law. You are not just dealing with someone who just wants child support she clearly is a angry ex-wife - NEVER threaten her - just listen and limit your words - "yes" "no" and "really" - try to refrain from getting into any serious dialouge with her - you can tell her "you understand how she feels and that you have no intention of allowing your husband to get away with not paying his child support. Let her know he is avidly looking for work. Firmly and calmly tell her to stop calling your parents home (or have your parents tell her she cannot contact him via their phone number) - if you can write her - write a letter indicating that the situation is beyond your control and that your parents will file a harrassment complaint again her. Also, at this time do not have your bank account mixed with your husband's bank account - the city will put a lien on it and tie up your money for months until you can prove that it is "all" your money and not attached to him. Call the telephone company and ask for "block" services and caller ID -they have a feature that allows you to block calls. Also Panasonic makes a telephone that allows you to "block" up to 20 calls - if she appears at your parents home or any where near you - call 911 immediately and see if you can do an order of protection against her.
2016-04-01 04:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You knew these problems before you married him......Nobody to blame but yourself. As for the kids involved, they will be the ones hurt the most. Do you always do things before THINKING THEM THROUGH ??? Also, you sound very selfish, considering the circumstances..... grow up, have an "open house" invite the ex and DEAL WITH WHAT IS BEST FOR THE KIDS. This is what Adults do.
2007-07-02 18:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lincoln Lover 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She moved next door to you? Sell your house and leave immediately! If not, keep the doors locked or tell her you'll call the police next time she wanders into your house unnivited. The nerve! She's obviously psycho!
2007-07-02 20:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by wimmibear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she still has issues with her former spouse, your current spouse that she cannot resolve like an adult. She really needs to seek out professional counseling, for the benefit of everyone involved. In the meantime, it may be helpful for you to visit a counselor just to unload what she is doing and get advice as to how to respond.
God bless you as you get these issues settled.
2007-07-02 18:19:47 · answer #7 · answered by doublewidemama 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she's getting better. She's ignoring you, doesn't call anymore, communicates in notes. What's the problem? Do you miss her calling 5 times a day and walking in announced?
2007-07-03 00:30:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She sounds a bit strange and even jealous if you ask me. She enjoys making other's feel miserable and she get's off at the fact that this is really getting to you. One sick person....who just can't let go.
2007-07-03 03:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by hofers65 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's just mad at you two and using the kids to get you mad. What's the custody agreement here? Get caller ID on your phone and make up a schedule for calls and everything. Because she's apparently just trying to be annoying.
2007-07-02 18:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by Moral Orel 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋