i am gay and i wanted to change seriously, is there is a way that i can change forever , and i will never attracted to man again , and please......please tell me how and what is the step that i should take and how long it take to change and for the ex-gay that saw this question please answer , and for the ex-gay people what do you feel now ? are you fully change ? and what make you change and how? and to ex-gay man mean that gay man fully converted to be straight?
I trully appreciate your help , thank you a lot
2007-07-02 17:32:54 · 24 answers · asked by genious man 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Are you all gay , who reply my question??
do seem dont want to change
2007-07-02 18:21:58 · update #1
No. When I was younger, I wanted nothing more than to be straight. I did everything from praying to suicide. I even dated women. Nothing worked for me. Thankfully, I became comfortable with myself and love being gay now. Good Luck!
2007-07-02 17:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by Zaggy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Gay people don't want to change, nor do they wish anyone else change. Gay is as much political as it's sexual. People who change are a threat to them because they are pushing the idea that gay is something you're born with and can't change. They do this to extort under the name of civil rights equating their movement to the blacks of the 1950's and '60s.
First, never accept the idea that you can't change. You can be anything you want to be, you can control your actions.
There is no magic pill so you will never have urges. These are our burdens in life that we carry and must work hard to overcome.
My stepdaughter left the gay life about 4 years ago. Now she's engaged to marry a nice young man. So change is possible.
The best way to make changes in your life is to change your friends. Maybe pick up and move somewhere to start anew.
Set goals for yourself. Seek help from someone willing to help you reach your goals. And good luck.
2007-07-03 02:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, and you have completed the first step: YOU WANT TO CHANGE.......there are no gays because Gay means same sex chooser. It is a lie. The attraction is real, but the action is a choice and a bad one at that. I know from experience. I was a same sex chooser for several years....I thought I was "born gay" and would "always be this way". That is a LIE. This cannot be done on line...you need to meet with some people who are close to you that you love and trust that are not same sex choosers. You need to talk this over with someone who is on your side. Also, you have a long road ahead of you. Be patient and kind to yourself and CONGRATULATIONS......you are going to start living the truth. YOU ARE NOT NOR EVER BEEN GAY.
2007-07-06 13:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by Indy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is amusing that the only people who claim that it is possible to change are the straight people who have no idea what it is like to be gay. Many claim that you can just pray or put your faith in Jesus and magically you will become straight. It's absurd. Homosexuality is not something that can be turned off and on like a light switch. Just as heterosexuals would not be able to "change" and become gay...gay people cannot change and should not want to do so. Unless you are gay and actually experiencing what it is like, then you have no knowledge or basis to make such wild claims that a gay person can change his/her sexuality. To the person asking the question...I'm sorry if you are having such a bad experience being gay that you would want to change. Unfortunately you have no choice or control over who you are attracted to.
2007-07-06 12:04:25 · answer #4 · answered by SMM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to ask myself this same question. This is what I found...
Sexual desire is want (wanting to be with the same sex in this case). If you want to be straight, you want to want, which isn't the same thing as just plain WANT.
Gay desire is not the same as gay lifestyle. You can chose to live your life straight. Generations before you have done this. Does it mean that you will be good at it? Does it mean your body will want it? Only time can tell.
My own answer came out to be No. But when I think, there are six billion souls on this Earth. How many are born to poverty, or bad families. How many are maimed in accidents every day. How many of my friends live with health disorders. Nobody asks for these things to be a part of their life story.
You are given what you are given, and for now that is same sex attraction. In the end, living gay is difficult but it isn't that much a burden by comparison. My advice is to love yourself and live your own self expression.
2007-07-05 15:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jeremy P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is funny how many people say trust your lord and savior, when there have been so many priests and preachers having sex with men and little boys (like the one who was having sex with men and campaigning against gay marriage). That obviously doesn't work. You can try to deny being gay if you wish, but that is what leads to situations like the ones above and the ex-Governor of NJ. I am not homosexual, but just like I cannot help being attracted to men, no matter what you do, you wont be able to stop being attracted to men either, I'm afraid. Good luck in life.
2007-07-02 21:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by whosbotheringme2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are ways to adjust to your gay feelings. They are only one aspect of who you are as a person, but being gay is one of the capacities you have to love.
There are almost no people who have been successful in turning from homosexual to heterosexual. The founders of Exodus, a Christian program designed to help convert gay people to straight, has come BACK out of the closet and apologized for the harm his organization has caused. He says now that he does not believe it's possible to convert gay people to straight people.
However, everyone of us has gone through what you're enduring now. It's not easy to grow up in this society and absorb all the hatred thrown at gay people. Most of us wished at some point to become straight, but we discovered that for our own contentment and well-being that we could settle into productive, loving and responsible lives as gay men or lesbians. This is one of the reasons we have pushed so hard for same-sex marriage, because we want to live with the commitment to a partner that means a life-long relationship. And you can eventually find that, too.
If you need to talk to a counselor, ask your doctor for a referral to someone who will understand and assist you. And good luck. You've got a great life ahead of you.
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2007-07-02 17:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You can't change it. Your brain is wired that way so unless you can replace it or remove enough of it to make you a vegetable anyway, you are who you are. Sorry.
You can always stay in the closet and suppress your true self for the sake of others. Lots of people do, always for other peoples benefit or from fear of society's reaction to them.
It's a life but not a very happy one, let me tell you from personal experience.
2007-07-02 19:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a way to change forever...you accept the fact that you're gay so you can get on with your life and finally be happy! Love yourself for who you are...life is a lot more fun when you accept what is real.
2007-07-02 17:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Sexi Man 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My God man go back into the closet and pretend you're straight.
It's the only way I know of.
You will never find a way to change you just have to restrain yourself.
Sorry but you couldn't have really thought there was a miracle to change your mind, could you???
2007-07-02 21:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by DeathsToy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋