I told my friend today that I've been competing with her on different levels of life, and she said wtf. I told her not to take it personally but it seems like she's angry at me for competing with her. (She's had boyfriends and I haven't had a single one... and she "forgot" to mention to me that her first boyfriend originally liked me...)
2007-07-02 17:11:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Why don't you treat her like a friend instead of an enemy?
2007-07-02 17:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend,
If you are competing with your best friend then let me tell you she is not your best friend, its just that you two share the common interests and you are running after her to make sure you leave her behind. If you spend so much time thinking about a person you fall into the dilemma that (s)he is your best friend. Give yourself some time, sit back and think.. Friends are to enjoy with not to compete with. You have your own life and she has her own. There might be a few things where you two dont match but right now you dont know that. In case you really feel she is a good friend to you just go ahead and enjoy her success and support her in tough times, you will yourself feel successful. You should have your own terms of life and should not look at others on what success is. As far as boyfriends are concerned thats no big deal, its just how you two gel with each other. If your friend forgot to tell you thats her mistake, make her realise that and forgive her. Thats the way to live. And yes I am sure you will find a bf soon. You can try with me ;-).. just kidding
Hope this helps.
2007-07-02 17:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by Benny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to compete with her. Try to find someone else to compete with who won't get so mad about it when you tell them you're competing with them. She shouldn't take it so personally though, because life is a competition you compete with everyone whether you know it or not.
and....
you can tell her so what that she's had so many boyfriends maybe you're waiting for a special guy.
tell her not to be so snobby either because having a lot of boyfriends isn't a competition you really want to be in.
2007-07-02 17:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Tríxí♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All i can say that u must start to accept ur self with all ur goods and bads and concentrate on what good u have instead of looking the others
I will not say that this is simple to do,it will take time
As for fast solution like the person who answered u: Start treating her as a friend not a cmpetitor
2007-07-02 17:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with that, friendly competition makes you grow.... I was especially good at acedemics when I was growing up and at running fast, but besides that my best friend was a natural athlete and caught on to certain other things quickly... we never really announced it, but we always competed against each other... it brings the best out in you
2007-07-02 17:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by shadows 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
spend some time away from this one and find your true self. remind her that really if you are competing that you must admire her and that is a compliment. but sounds like she may not be a good friend. you can admire some one and it should work both ways in friendship. i say give credit where credit is due.
2007-07-02 17:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by cat f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋