Sex before marriage necessary?

Question

Please express your opinion freely.

Answer 1

not at all! it's more spacial in marriage!

Answer 2

Necessary for what? To make it work? Are you a Christian? Then the answer is no. Ultimately, the answer is relative to your (religious) beliefs about marriage and/or whatever you want out of the marriage. If you are not even religious, then why ask this question since it is you that will establish, by your own experience though life, what is "right" or "wrong," which is really what "necessary" really means, correct? You are asking is sex before marriage right or wrong relative to what you envision for it, or hope to get from it.

Christianity says that having sex or "consecrating the marriage" before the marriage is lumped in the many things we are doing to destroy our relationships. See how many are divorces there are? And how many more "boyfriends and girlfriends" we have had, that failed, before our marriage? If you are a Christian, then you should take heed to what the Jesus of the Bible says is the "way" to live. All of your questions should be answered relative to that. Though most view it quite the contrary, he has our happiness in mind. Is marriage to you two people becoming one flesh? Then follow the directions for that - they're in the Bible and imbedded into your conscience.

What do you want from the marriage? Where do you want it to go? Do you want an "open" relationship? Do you want a monogamous relationship? Then ask yourself what set of belief systems that you hold to and the answer will jump right out at you.

Answer 3

I don't think it's necessary to have sex before marriage. I think that society has made people go with the flow or what is considered cool instead of going with what they're taught at home or church or wherever.
People, be it male or female, are in too much of a hurry nowadays to grow up and they feel that their friend who's 15 is having sex, why can't they? Or they hear people are doin it and it makes them popular or they look at the magazines where you see all these young stars (like Britney or Lindsey) who are out partying, gettin drunk, high, having sex and that must be what everybody should do right? No..

People have a mind of their own and the media mostly takes advantage of that by portraying the way a "woman" is supposed to be... Well F%ck that! I'm sorry, women are all shapes and sizes, all colors, all religions... and same wiht men, but you don't see the bigger people who have the modelling careers, no it's the ones who are sickly thin..
All people need to do is think for themselves and see what they feel is important to them and stick to it.

If a female wants to have sex before she's married, that's her choice but she should be smart enough to use protection, and same with the males....protection is necessary to prevent STD/STI whatever it's called now and pregnancy.

Answer 4

In my opinion, saving sex for marriage is a good thing; but if you don't wait it won't make you a bad person at all. You just have to think of the consequences that can occur by having sex before marriage. Such as diseases and pregnancy, and how other people will think of you. I mean, the rate of getting diseases and getting pregnant is getting higher and higher each generation. If you're drunk and you have sex, i wouldn't really expect the guy to put a condom on correctly, you know what i mean? Because if you don't put on the condom 100 percent correctly, it's not affective at all. So just think of your consequences before doing it, but remember to not let anyone pressure you into doing anything.

Answer 5

I don't believe that you have to be married in order to have sex. Why because ppl will judge you for their religious belief's what a crock. If you feel it is right then do it don't let someone else's opinion make your decision. I don't think it is necessary but if you want to try before you commit to one person for the rest of your life then do it, or if you want to more then likely cheat on your mate then stay a virgin. I don't know you personally so I can't tell you how you would feel. You will know when the time is right, and not under peer pressure. Good Luck Finding who you are.

Answer 6

ABSOLUTELY! Would you buy a car without test driving it? THe last thing in the world that you want is to get married and then find out that you are totally sexually incompatible with the person you have just vowed to be with forever. Try it out for at least a few months before getting hitched.

Answer 7

I don't think that it is necessary, since i know of a few people who were virgins until their wedding night and they are doing just fine, very happy. But i think that most people like to know that they are completely compatable with a person before they get married...mostly because of the high divorce rate, I think that people try to really really figure out if they want to get married to this particular person.

Answer 8

Not necessary; I advise against it actually. After marriage, take your time to get to know each other; the first time can be a disappointment. But with time, love and patience, it will vastly improve.

Answer 9

It's not necessary. I was brought up that it was wrong. I went 19 years without even letting a guy do anything besides kiss me. Sure I wasen't popular in high school, but what does that matter now. I have met a guy who was wild in high school been with 10 + girls. But come time for him to settle down and get married he wanted a girl who was "perfect" I"m glad i didn't give my body up to a one night stand. Now i can save it for the man I love. And now it is hard for us to stop and not go all the way but I've waited this long i'm going to hold out a few more monthes untill my wedding.

Answer 10

I don't think its necessary at all. I was a virgin when I met my husband and we had pre-marital sex. I actually wished I had waited until our wedding day b/c it would have made it more special. I don't regret it at all but since I waited so long without sex it would have been nice to make it to the wedding night.

Answer 11

Nope it is a blessing to give your virginity to the man you will love for the rest of your life. He would feel blessed as well to have such a wife, rear and lovely like a cactus flower.