Don't you think that taking care of children is mostly a woman's job?

Question

I don't understand why so many people expect men to help take care of kids nowadays....I mean seriously, men's chemical make up hasn't changed - we just weren't designed to take care of kids. We don't have a maternal instinct, we don't have breasts for feeding babies, and we don't have hips for carrying them. Not just that but our frequency range of hearing (and sensitivity) isn't as wide as women's which means they are more likely to hear the baby crying. I feel like feminists (not all women) are trying to dump their child caring responsibilities onto men and its out of line. Men are supposed to provide for their family by giving them food, shelter, clothing, etc. I don't expect women to do those things and I hope women will stop expecting men to take care of babies and children. For women, taking care of kids is fun but for men it is really hard work.

Answer 1

Whoever told you taking care of babies is not hard work for a women?

Answer 2

I've always been told that parenthood is the hardest job you'll ever love. There will be times any parent hates the responsiblity. And there will be times it seems effortless, and you can really have fun with it. But all of the time you love your children. But the responsibility of raising a child does not fall with the mother alone. Fathers have an equally large responsibility that does not entail providing food, shelter, clothing, etc.

How can you expect children to bond with their fathers if only the mothers care for them? How can you expect the children to respect their fathers if only the mothers care for them?

I must say Sandy, should you ever have children of your own, I'll feel sorry for you. You'll never have any sort of relationship with your children if you have attitudes like that. To be a father, it requires changing a few diapers, bandaging a couple scraped knees, reading a few bedtime stories, a little discipline, a lot of love, many hugs, immense patience, fixing a few sandwiches or a couple midnight feedings. You can't expect your child to love and respect you as you would like if you can't sacrifice your time and energy to all parts of raising a child, no matter how messy or inconvienient they are. You're going to have to do some of what you call a woman's job too.

Answer 3

Sandstorm, taking care of kids is not all fun. There is a lot of responsibility involved here. A sick child is not fun, a hurt child is not fun, changing diapers is not fun, an overtired child is not fun. The list goes on. Taking care of children is a lot of work, which is very rewarding, that doesn't mean every part is enjoyable.
Men are supposed to provide for their families, doesn't mean they do.You may not expect women to do certain things, but a lot of us are not given a choice. Men who don't work, and leave it up to women to support them should take care of the children. You know what though, those same men are even too lazy and uncaring to do even that.
You still have to take the fact that the world isn't what it should be.

Answer 4

My brother raised his daughter by himself. Thank God. She has the worst mother ever.

My partner does all the driving for activities and doctor, optomotrist and dental visits for his children. He has them any time they want to be here. Thank God, for that too, because she's second runner up for worst mother ever.

My neighbor across the street has his 7 year old autistic son 24/7. He gets his daughter way more often than every other weekend. God bless the man. He never leaves that house unless he's working.

A good parent does what needs to be done for their children.

Other than these men, the exception, I do think raising children is now primarily the mama's job. (Along with maintaing the house, the car, the lawn and the finances....and cutting up your food, and making you a pillow, dear.) The courts think so, too. Given any two people in any normal break up and the kids automatically go to mom. Dad gets 4 days a month, optional and unenforceable. The percentage of Dads that bail on this minimal amount of time is ridiculous. Let's not even talk about the ones that will spend a lifetime dodging paying Child Support.

So, yeah, look at the tax rolls. The larger number of persons filing Head of Household are single parent homes....Moms. We do it better, and we have a lifelong sense of responsibility for our kids, which is not exhibited in the male species (usually, exceptions noted.)

Women have, for the most part, quit expecting anything from their partners. That's why this up and coming generation is opting to skip marrying the fathers of their children. In the end, the divorce is just another burden for her. Best just to skip it.

So, don't worry Sandy, we know how you all feel...you've been more than clear, for decades now.

Answer 5

No, we provide that maternal instinct, but it is not healthy without a male influence somewhere in their life. Yes, Sandstorm, you can bond with a kid while changing a dirty diaper. That shouldn't be a womans 'job'. You made half the baby. You should take up responsibility. Let me ask you, if your daughter (supposing anyone would sleep with you) got hit by a car and your wife wasn't around. What would you do? "Sorry, you'll have to lay in the street until mommy takes you to the ER. I'm a big man, that's not my job." ?

Answer 6

I do think taking care of children is mostly a woman's job. Of course, I'm a pretty anti-feminist woman.
In my opinion, men should provide for the family, financially, and spend as much time with their children as they can. Kids need a father around, as much for a role model as a disciplinarian, a shoulder to cry on, and someone to throw the football with. Men should spend time with their children every day. Not so much to 'babysit,' but to ensure that a relationship is formed.

Wow. I read some of your other answers. You really PO'ed a lot of people. I don't see why. Did anyone think Alex Stone (Donna Reed's onscreen hubby) was a neanderthal? What about Dick Van Dyke? I know, they're all TV stars, but plenty of people have seen those shows since the new millenia, and no one is offended. That's how it was, a long time ago, before feminism came along, and women went to work full time, and no one had any idea their children were taking drugs and playing with guns.

Answer 7

My husband helps take care of the kids, and he's a big masculine guy. In this day and age there aren't many stay at home moms. If you think a woman should work full time, come home and do all the house work and child raising you are little more than a neanderthal. You may not be equipped to nurse a child, but you sure could help take care of one in other ways.

Answer 8

You sound so ignorant. Taking care of a child or children is a tough job for the mother and the father. It's not easy for anyone. There's not a manual out there to teach the parents how to be good parents and care for their children. You just gotta have patience and learn as you go. Eventually you'll get the hang of it.

Answer 9

Yes, I agree with u women are better designed to produce and raise babies but the men can always help. That's not fair just cause we're more capable doesn't mean men can run off and do whatever they want to.

Answer 10

Dear Mister Sandstorm,
It is me... The sarcastic one... As I said block me anytime... At the rate your going sugar, I feel you have no worries as you will have no wife and no children if you keep up this nonsense...
You are one really ballsy man... And where all the insanity comes from is mind blowing... Your erection must last a long time... LOL! I am sorry for my crass attitude but really You blow sometimes, in unnatural ways...
And yet still I am ever fascinated with what you will say next...