My parents are under the impression that I am out of control and that I need someone to whip me into shape. I live at home with them right now. I am not a bad kid, I am 19 and I don't do drugs or drink, I don't stay out late. I just really don't agree with some of their rules. They have told me that if I do not join the army within the next few weeks that I have to move out. They gave me a car. It is mine, but they now claim it is theirs.
So what I need to do is join the Army/ Airforce and get enough money for a car and an apartment. Can I join the Army reserve and get a sign up bonus big enough for that? Or will I have to join active duty and give in to them? It feels like they are forcing me into this commitment that will take years of my life.
2007-07-02 16:53:02 · 12 answers · asked by darkpotameides45 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Sounds like they are trying to get rid of you for good. Ask them how they would feel when the officer rings their doorbell to tell them their daughter is dead in an illegal and immoral war. If you join the reserves, they will just call you into service. So many people have died and been dismembered and mutilated in Iraq they need all of the warm bodies they can get.
I think your parents are in the wrong. They should appreciate your not drinking and drugging. It sounds like you have a problem with your mouth. Perhaps they will reconsider if you learn to keep it shut more often. You don't need to argue with everything you disagree with. Get an education so you can be self supporting, then you can express your opinions at will.
2007-07-02 17:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 6⤊ 2⤋
You're an adult. Your choices are to abide by the rules or move out.
If you join the military, you WILL be moving out for at least a few years. You'll make enough to buy a car, no problem there. But the apartment issue will be up to the military, not you. Most likely you'll be stuck with barracks life at least until you make E-4 or E-5. That will take 3 - 8 years depending upon the service (Army rank generally comes quicker than Air Force) and how you do your job.
2007-07-03 00:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bostonian In MO 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I think your parents aren't right to forced you into the military. I personally think its down right cruddy of them. You are 19 and legally an adult so maybe its time you acted like one. You shouldn't join the military because your parents made you. Only join the armed forces if its a cause you believe in.
If the military is not for you then you need to quickly get a job and find a friend you can share an apartment with. If you can't afford to live on your own a dependanble roommate or 2 can help you split the bills until you can.
2007-07-03 00:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by WriterChic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Combine several of the answers given here.
The most important is that you are an adult. They cannot force you to do anything. They can heavily influence your decision though it is your decision.
The comment about whip you into shape says a lot. You are having trouble with their rules. There is NO WAY you are going to like the military's rules. So it would be crazy for you to join any branch of service.
As for the car... as someone else already said, who holds the title? Whose name is on the title? The government will side with the paperwork.
So it's time to look at your choices.
Do as they are trying to force you - join the military. I see that as a very impractical choice unless you feel you are ready to follow rules you do not agree with. Lots & lots of impractical rules that mostly only committed military folks agree with. And of course, give yourself up to whatever the military feels is right for you for you will have no choices. You will live where they tell you to live so you won't have to worry about an apartment. You will qualify for a car loan so you could go out & buy a car. The military does not pay much & they take out room & board but you will have enough left over.
Move out on your own - of course, there are issues with this choice also. You can't live on your own unless you can support yourself or find a sugar daddy ready to support you. Do you already have a job? Going to college? Any income other than what your folks supply?
Agree to live by their rules without attitude - this can have it's own problems. Can you truly do this? Can you do it long enough to put yourself into a position where you CAN move out on your own & support yourself?
The decision is yours. As I said, they cannot force you to decide which option you choose. But they can for sure influence your decision. G'luck.
2007-07-03 00:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by XPig 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're an adult now, and need to think about what's best for YOU. Joining the military is a big decision and a long commitment and not one to be taken lightly or forced into.
My advice is to research all of your options, including civilian jobs that may help you afford your own apartment as well as other branches of service. Follow your heart and your own path, anything less will just cause regret and resentment.
2007-07-03 00:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by Karma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a pastor you can talk to with your parents? They should not make you join the army...unless you are leaving something out of the story. You need to reason with them, but you can't without a job or some kind of proof of your maturity.
2007-07-03 00:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by 1901pink 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So your choice is to move out, or move out and join the army. What do you want? If you don't want to join you don't have to. You'll need to find a good paying job to support yourself. Is the car TITLE in your name? It doens't matter if they said it was yours, it matters if its in your name. If the car is in your name you have a right to take it with you. If it's not, well it sucks to be you. Good luck, and don't make a 4 year commitment if you don't want to!
2007-07-03 00:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by *RaMi* 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they're tryin to light a fire under your a$$. Check online for the salary/benefits for joining the reserve.
2007-07-02 23:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by Glen B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can't legally force you to join the army, but they can kick you out of the house if you refuse to. I think you should suggest to them that you all go visit a family counselor (get a referral from your physician) and sort out the situation with him/her.
2007-07-03 00:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are 19 which is a legal adult. They can't make you do anything. They can take their car back and throw you out on your keister if they choose to. It is their house, not yours. The Air Force is a good place, I would look into it.
2007-07-03 00:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋