He weaseled his way into my heart and just as quick smashed it. How can I learn to trust again when this is the third time this has happened to me? Don't tell me I'm the only gay man on the planet who wants and expects faithful mate. I can't beliive that only 3 months into something I was all of a sudden boring. Maybe he never was serious, how do you know when someone is faithful? Am I missing something or doing something wrong?
2007-07-02 16:15:12 · 8 answers · asked by raymond_h 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First, let me say you are not the only person on this planet who wants and expects their partner to be faithful, and you are not doing anything wrong by having these expectations.
The only advice I can give you is be more careful who you give your heart to. There is nothing wrong with serious dating to but a strong foundation of trust. In fact, I encourage all of my friends to do just that.
I wish you the best. Keep your head up. Remember, you should have the best for you:)
2007-07-02 16:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by chele2382 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It happens and happens a lot. There are just players out there, who are in a relationship to get material things.
I had a BF once that I loved, but he didn't have a job, so I paid for everything, expecting him to get a job soon. Well he got a job and quit soon after, but didn't tell me. One day i called his work and found out he had quit a few weeks ago. When i confronted him he turned it all on me saying i didn't trust him ans do on. So I broke it off.
The reason for telling this story, was that I wanted to say that I felt like cutting of having relationships, and just have sex. I am not built that way. I do not like having one night stands, i want the dreadful "LTR." So I decided to put up a guard and start to see people again. This time a little more weary.
In time you will heal. You may have to go through a couple of bad seeds, but you will find one that will be what you need.
2007-07-02 16:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by Paddington Bear 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person. When you are ready to move on, you will. And, no, you are not the only gay man expecting a faithful partner. You are worth being treated with respect. Good Luck!
2007-07-02 16:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by Zaggy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm still recovering from a young woman playing with my heart and emotions. The best advice i can give you is to give yourself time to heal, don't rush the process. It's going to hard to trust again, i know because i have the same problem. Keep telling yourself that you're worth it, that it's his lost not yours. Do some self-care and take care of yourself!
2007-07-02 16:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean im bi and this guy just stood me up after everything ive done for him and it hurt more than a week but now i have someone better just give it time and dont look for something to replace the pain just give it time
2007-07-02 16:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by That Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please. Grow up and act like a man. Being gay has nothing to do with relationships, it's about the sex. If a man wanted relationships, he'd be straight.
2007-07-03 02:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You want a man you can trust, turn to Jesus.
He is your Saviour and wants to bless your life.
2007-07-02 16:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 6⤋
your but should stop hurting in a week or so, just don't let them but f' you anymore. that will stop your pain for good.........
2007-07-02 16:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋