IVE BEEN MARRIED 11 YEARS. I HAVE 2 BRO/ IN LAWS, 1 OF WHICH I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN CLOSE 2. HE'S TOLD ME ALL HIS LITTLE ADVENTURES WITH GIRLFRIENDS HE'S MY CHILDREN FAVORITE UNCLE OUT OF 5 . TURNS OUT HE'S BEEN WITH THIS CHICK 4 THE PAST 3 YRS THEY JUST HAD A BABY IN OCT.& GOT MARRIED IN NOV. MY HUSBAND & I PERSONALLY KNOW HER 4 ABOUT 1 YEAR CAUSE WE USED 2 LIVE FARTHER AWAY & JUST MOVED BACK 2 THE AREA IN FEB. MY HUSBAND WORKS ALOT SO I USED 2 HANG OUT ALOT W/ MY BRO/LAW & WHERE EVER WE 'D GO WE'D TAKE HER ALONG. WELL, IT TURNS OUT THAT SHE IS JEALOUS OF ME & HAS EVEN HAD THE BALLS 2 TELL MY HUSBAND THAT I HAVE SOMETHING GOING W/BRO IN LAW. CAUSED A BIG STINK & PUT THAT SEED IN MY HUSBANDS MIND (IVE NEVER CHEATED ON HIM, & AM NOT ABOUT 2 START W/ HIS BRO) IT TOOK ABOUT 3 DAYS OF ARGUING W/ MY HUSBAND TILL HE FINALLY UNDERSTOOD THAT SHE'S LYING, ALL SHE'S BASING IT ON IS THAT WE USED TO TALK ALOT ON THE PHONE.& SHE STARTED TALKIN' CRAP W/O KNOWING WHAT MY HUSBANDS REACTION WOULD BE.
2007-07-02 16:07:09 · 34 answers · asked by hilda c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Before her talkin nonsense my husband never had a problem w/me hanging w/his brother. And my brother in law cheats on her w/like 1900 women & she knows he talks 2 me about it. She is an illegal immigrant, I feel like calling immigration on her behind. Because she could have caused my husband to go ballistic on his brother and I. Not to mention she strained alot of relationships she did not think of the consequences this would cause. Now no one is speaking to no one. she's Crazy. She needs mental help. But I need to do something about this cause it's eating me up inside.
2007-07-02 16:12:16 · update #1
For those who are wondering why I said "we go everywhere and take her along" I'm the one with the car and many times he would ask me for rides to buy something or pay a bill and many times she wouldn't want to go and then I would get her to come along. And for those of you who think I'm lying and bangin' my brother in law need to get some help just as much as she does. And why I used to hang w/ him is because I don't have any family members here they are all scattered throught the U.S. and I feel that my brother in laws are the closest thing to family that I have other than my children and husband, on top of the fact that my husband is a workaholic so I'm just with my kids all of the time and used to go hang with them so as to not be bored at home.
2007-07-02 16:28:39 · update #2
Yeah... she's a *****, but anytime you do something in the heat of the moment, you usually regret it. I advise to not do anything at all other than cutter her out of your lives.
2007-07-02 16:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lyndsey G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge never gets you anywhere. So, call immigration on her as "A concerned American citizen"!
What she did was wrong and immature, so stooping to that level isn't a good idea. However, calling immigration on an illegal immigrant would make you a good citizen! haha. Your husband was wrong to assume that a stranger's accusations were true, but if you were friends before I guess it would make sense that he would question it. Make sure your husband understands that you have not, will not, and had not even considered ever cheating on him, ESPECIALLY not with his brother. Tell him that the idea is revolting because he is like your own brother. Let him know that you talk to his brother frequently and that is the only cause for her wild accusations. If he has a problem with you talking to his brother, worry about that. The girl that accused you of cheating will stir up enough trouble for herself if she acts that way all the time. Don't worry about 'getting revenge', she'll get what's coming to her when she messes with the wrong people. Good Luck!
2007-07-02 16:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by lys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe instead of revenge, you and your husband should go right up to her and your brother-in-law and confront them about this misunderstanding, and then once everything is out in the open and everything is explained, you can all get along as a happily family again. Revenge really isn't the answer in this case, there's just a misunderstanding that needs to be cleared up and talked about by both yourself, your husband and brother-in-law.
2007-07-02 16:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The big issue is not with her but why in the world has your husband had reason to even doubt you in the first place. Figure that one out first. That just brought up a very important question for you! Good luck finding your answers.
Additional: I would be very angry with the women but i would focus on your issue first then continue hanging with my friend. If it bothers her then that is her problem. Just remember if it bothers your hubby then its both of your problems. Dont trip on her she just wants to see the both of you fight. dont let your self get caught up in that bullshit. Have your man talk to your brother in law.
2007-07-02 16:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are spending too much time with your brother in law even if nothing is going on. She is his girlfriend, but you say that when ever you go places with him you take her along. Isn't that a rather strange way to put it. Wouldn't it really be him and his girlfriend go places and take you along. I think you are more attached to this brother in law than you think. If you are making his girlfriend jealous you should back off.
2007-07-02 16:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you trying to get her back and it not working only is going to make her day. i hate women like that. she is just jealous of the relationship you have. im sure your bro in law brags about how great you are and it kill's her. the best come back would be to show her how happy you and your husband are and how she is nothing to you. dont let a monster like her get under you'r skin and just watch you self from her
2007-07-02 16:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should confront her
when you confront her don't do it publicly
walk away
shes not worth it!! you have more important things to tend to
and also remember that the seed she put in your husbands head will NEVER go away
slow down on hanging out with him
2007-07-02 16:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by spindymindi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a witch. Make sure your husband has a bit of a chat with his brother, perhaps they can sort it out. Don't be too defensive because then he'll start wondering why. Just shrug it off- she's the one with the problem, not you.
2007-07-02 16:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by ihfoany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best revenge... do nothing, be the better person and walk away from it, let your brother in law know we are still cool but you can't take the drama. If he is a good person he will find out what kind a person she is. Don't let her get your goat!!
2007-07-02 16:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So call immagration. Her lies will keep up. And, you need to have an open and honest talk with your husband and brother-in-law. What she is doing is completely disrespectful to the three of you. Your b-i-l obviously doesn't have a problem with it, or he would have told her to stop this stupid drama.
2007-07-02 17:23:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go up to here and tell her your so sorry about her and her husband, when she asks what u mean tell her that he told u and your husband all about the cheating, and ask her "did'nt u know?" then just brag about how her husbands always coming to you and your husband complaining about her and asking for advice. it doesnt all have to be true, but it will piss her off, even if u skip the cheating part
2007-07-02 16:25:28 · answer #11 · answered by Ryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋