Can I have sum good tips on how to make a relationship last, preferably from people in a happy marriage?

Question

I am in a healthy relationship (for 2 years) & love him SO much and find it almost too good to be true so I want to know how to make this last.

Answer 1

Aww, that is so sweet.
I have been married to a wonderful man for 10 years.
The first 5 yrs. were wonderful, as you described.
The next 5 challenged our integrity, but all is well & we are happier than ever.

How to have a happy marraige is on this page below:

Know that problems will arise. It is normal. They will make your marraige stronger if you work together.
Communicate openly, honestly, and lovingly about your problems and differences

Answer 2

TRUST....HONESTY....those are what keeps the fire burning.
As the years go by situations will come out that just happen that could put the marriage in danger. No matter how small it might seem at the time, if not put out in the open will grow into a bomb. BANG ! ! ! ! The next thing you know your not together. Without really knowing what happened. Once trust either or honesty is GONE it's over. Sure you might still be married, but there will always be that uneasy feeling about you spouce. I can't tell you enough, don't keep anything you say, or do from each other for any reason. Always go out of your way to please each other. There will be a equal amount of give and take without really realizing that you're doing it.
If those two things are always going on, then everything else will automaticaly fall into place.
It's like growing a garden. You must dig up the weeds as the garden grows. As time goes by the weeds will kill all the plants that produce the fruits and vegitables if you don't get rid of them. The longer the garden grows, the more weeds will try to take over. A constent pulling of weeds must be done. Love and marriage works the same way, with the dishonesty and disturst being the weeds.
GOD BLESS YOU BOTH AND WISHING YOU BOTH A LONG TIME TOGETHER.

Answer 3

As my bf and I have recently celebrated our 4 year anniversary, hopefully that makes me qualified to answer this question! These are some things I think are important to maintaining a good relationship- Be empathetic: in disagreements, always try to see things from your partner's point of view. Don't ever name call. Even jokingly, these words have an impact not only for them, but also in your own mind as well. Cherish the small moments. Movies and tv make us think that love is all fireworks and red roses, but the really sweet moments are when, on a drive, he just puts his hand on my leg and tells me he loves me. The more of these moments there are, the better. If there's an issue, address it immediately, don't hold it in and eventually have a blowup fight about one thing when it's actually something else. When you get to the stage where you can say "I love you", say it as often as you can. Nobody can hear those words enough. Make sure to have a date night! Romance is something that has to be maintained! I hope this helps!

Answer 4

My wife and I have over 15 years invested in our marriage and still happy. I would say over and above the trust, honesty and what ever anyone else will tell you is that you should never, ever treat the other any differently than what you wish to be treated. This goes both ways. I have answered this question on several different occasions as you can see by clicking through my answers given. Respect is another big issue as well. I hope thaty I have shed a little more light on the subject for you. Good luck.

Answer 5

We've been happily married 36 years, and I guarantee you, some of the key elements of a successful relationship - married or otherwise - are:

1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.

2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.

3) A sense of compromise; so that you can work out your problems with a minimum of emotional trauma. It's marital negotiation.

4) A sense of sympathy and forgiveness. You're both going to screw up on occasion. You need to be able to forgive, forget, and move on with the relationship.

Answer 6

Always treat him as well (or better) than you treat him now. Don't snark or nag. Take care of yourself. Don't forget the little things (the love notes in his pocket, telling him how much you adore him). Don't try to change him into someone he isn't. Don't put your mother/sister/cousin/whatever ahead of him. Don't tell all your friends when he screws up - no matter if you aren't mad at him later, it lessens their opinion of him forever. Don't yell at him for being a guy, and don't try to get him to "talk about his feelings" - most men don't want to talk. Don't compare him to other men. Don't keep in contact with ex boyfriends. Make sure that him and his happiness are your first priority. Be ready to give up something you want if it will help keep the relationship together. Stay faithful to him. Give yourself up for him.

Doing these will ensure that he treats you well and even will worship the ground you walk on. You guys are going to be very happy. :-)

Answer 7

My husband and I have been happily married for 6 years. There are a lot of keys to a good marriage and one is remembering that not all times are great. We keep Christ at the center of our marriage and always try to put each other's needs first (this only works well if both people are doing it!). Faithfulness, honesty, and not taking the other for granted goes a long way. Its not always easy to overlook the other person's faults but remembering that they are trying to do the same thing for you helps a lot.

Answer 8

Love,Trust,Honesty,And Remember the saying "It Takes 3 to make a Marriage". You,Your Spouse and God.Communication.
Those are 5 aspectstoa good marriage.

Answer 9

Love is very important but you need so much more, otherwise people wouldn't get divorced.

Don't lose who you are to make your partner happy

When you disagree be respectful of the person and their point of view

Both people have to be equally committed to making the marriage/relationship work

Knowing when to compromise....do you want to be right or happy

Make time for each other

You're not the Mommy & he's not the Daddy....you should be equal partners and accept equal responsibility for everything that goes on in the marriage

etc. etc. etc.

Answer 10

It's different for everyone, you need to find out what works best for you.

Number one source of divorces/breakups - money. Get any and all issues out in the open and fully discussed. You can't have any big secrets from each other, especially about money.

Next thing that people fight about most.. housework. Make sure it's equitably divided.. don't say you'll do it all if you're working also, you'll just resent him for his lack of help later on. Also, it'll make you seem more like his mother than his partner ;-)

After that, just try to have fun and don't forget to live your lives for yourselves along with for each other - massively devoted might be cute now but it'll be clingy and smothering later on.