My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years, yet we seem to be polar opposites. Compromise is really difficult a lot of the time. What do you think couples need to have in common to have a good and lasting relationship?
2007-07-02 14:55:43 · 12 answers · asked by dolce 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You want to have enough in common that you both want to spend some time together doing what you both love but you want to be able to go out and do your own interests too. I think it's great that you both compromise though. I think just that willingness to compromise makes a healthy relationship. Love and staying power is what you need most, I think.
2007-07-02 15:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am going to totally disagree with nasreen up there. What ever show you were watching, had a very smart writer. The things that you have mentioned seem for the most part as fundamentally correct. I have been married for 16 years and if I didn't know better, I would never believe that it has been that long. I have a very strong and good marriage and I credit it to the fact that we are completely honest with each other at all times and have complete faith in one and others ability to stay focused on our marriage without temptations. A very good marriage is NOT something that just happens. As with anything worthwhile, it must be worked for. Being considerate towards the other and keeping in mind feelings involved during certain times is also a factor. Meaning that before I personally will do something, I will think about how my wife would feel about it first. Example: I had been looking at this car (I'm a collector) for some time and almost bought it one day. When I started thinking just how she would feel about it. I then went home and discussed it with her. She didn't feel that it was the right time. So I passed and you know what? She was diagnosed with something that I'll not mention here and the money was needed elsewhere. So she was right. This is what is known as working on a marriage.
2016-05-17 04:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by tamesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that couples have to have anything in common except a mutual desire to be with each other and make the relationship work. If you have good communication, and desire different things, it can still work. Compromise might be hard but putting work into your relationship may reward you with more intimacy with your boyfriend. I think that couples need to have personalities that compliment each other (not necessarily similar ones). I also think all relationships need trust, honesty, and respect. If you have those things, even big disagreements will hopefully still end in compromise and happiness.
2007-07-02 15:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by turns_you_around 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I , together for almost 8 years, are like night and day...God is our #1 focus....we don't look to the other to bring us happiness...we know that the other will fail us at times, we are only human, so we focus on the Lord Jesus and the good things He's brought into our lives...and we are best friends....we can tell each other how we feel and compromise to work things out.....
Here's a list of things that are very important in a relationship:
GOOD COMMUNICATION
Ability to compromise
FORGIVENESS
honesty
FAITHFULNESS
loyalty
2007-07-09 08:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by Julie S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you ever hear the saying Opposits Attract. As long as you love each other thats all that matters. Their are plenty of relationships out there where two people dont have that much in common but they love each other.
2007-07-08 18:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by paul s 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't consider anyone who is less then 65% like me, however, I've seen polar opposite people work, they just have to work extensively to do it, but they usually either have something major in common, which is either interests, ideas, common goal, or similar romantic styles.
2007-07-02 15:07:53 · answer #6 · answered by Cory W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand ya! Me and my b/f are like that... it drives me nuts sometimes. the main thing is where we see eye on certain topics. I think as long as you two have the same goals and ambitions in life you two can make it work. I always look at it as is there more good times than bad times... don't wait to long if you are unsure...then it will be hard to move on and leave the relationship.
2007-07-10 13:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by Chicka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No my husband and I are opposite attracts. Examples: I do not love Western/War movie's and he does. I Love conversation and he does not. Love Conquer's All.
2007-07-02 15:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Above all, they need to be FRIENDS before they are a couple. Without friendship there's nothing.
2007-07-02 15:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by myleslr 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's important for couples to have similar morals and values. It's also important for couples to have similar financial goals.
2007-07-10 14:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by ezpaced 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋