2007-07-02 13:12:52 · 13 answers · asked by NHBaritone 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Some might have living parents that are close to their end. They may just want to let their parents last years be happy years without having to struggle with accepting their son's sexuality and the son also would prefer the happy lie to a painful but honest relationship.
2007-07-02 15:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I say, if would emotionally hurt someone, such as mother, grandmother if living or other relative to think you are gay, then just leave the subject alone for their sakes. Is it really necessary for everyone to know your sexual orientation other than your lover? What does it profit you in telling them all, anyway? It would only cause friction, maybe and some, especially older generation, just cannot deal with that type of thing, and I cannot see why, if you love these persons, you would want to upset them. I am heterosexual, but I do not go around telling everyone that I am not gay. Because whatever I am it is my life and it is private when it comes to the bedroom.
So, I say just let the subject lie dormant, unless someone just comes out and explicitly asks. Even then, you could just say something like "whatever I am, it is my private life and not your business" or something along those lines. Unless you just want to make a big deal and exhibition out of it, which most people do not, just treat the subject same as you would any other subject where your own private life is concerned.
Do you go around telling everyone how much you earn at work or what your debts are? Not most people. Then use the same judgement when it comes to this subject. Period.
Same concept. By the way, I know two 50 yr. old men who are single, heterosexual, and just simply have not found the right mate yet, but they are also happy and confident in their own personal lives and have many friends, relatives and the like who they love and are socially friendly with. Who says you must be married to someone (any sexual orientation) by a certain age or else you are gay? Better to remain single and happy than to marry someone to prove a point just because you are teased and end up divorced with children who have to live without both parents. Just be sure that whoever you end up with is your lifemate and not just a fling, especially in view of all the STD's going around, whether heterosexual or other. Who you choose to mate is your own business and no one else's, unless you choose to tell them.
2007-07-02 20:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by Possum 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends what you consider "sensible." I can imagine his being worried that his family would reject his sexuality. After 50 years, it might seem even more daunting because he might feel like he would have a harder time making new friends and finding a new family than a younger person would.
2007-07-02 20:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by kacey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he's content not saying anything. Or, maybe not content saying something. 50 years in a family and has built a lifetime of experiences and relationships. I would say if none of these are built on something he has not said yet, then what is reason be to start?
2007-07-02 20:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by strayinma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only 1 reason to come out... Or not. Personal choice.
It's nobody's business to know his sexuality unless he CHOOSES to LET them know. It's HIS life. He should do whatever will make HIM happiest.
2007-07-02 20:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by Rock E. Horror 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have no reasons for you not to come out but many for why a person should.
2007-07-03 12:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by Cat D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
FUNNY HYPOTHETICAL -
His father is an Orthodox Rabbi.
His devoutly Catholic mother is on her deathbed.
SERIOUS ANSWER -
*He wants his privacy? He's naturally an introverted guy who doesn't feel the need to declare to his family which gender he shares his erect penis with?
2007-07-02 20:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's single (?), 50 years old and gay.. he might not feel like he has anyone else to rely on. his parents have always been there for him and he doesn't want to risk losing the one thing he's always had.
i don't know tho... is this you, someone you know, something hypothetical?
2007-07-02 20:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by somegirlok 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because that's the right decision for him. Coming out is not mandatory, you know what is best for you. All the best
2007-07-02 20:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is short and yours is getting way way shorter by each day that passes, what do you have 2 loose in telling them?
2007-07-02 20:16:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋