Why do I always feel bad?

Question

I just finished a year of university, and within that year I managed to pass all my courses but one.

I feel ashamed and depressed ever since I saw that F. I'm not going to stop trying, but rather continue to year 2 retaking that course and trying my absolute best to get it.

But now that it's summer, I don't really want to constantly dwell on the fact that I did so poorly. But my parents consistently remind me of how I failed that course, and every time my heart drops and I feel like I shouldn't even bother continuing on because I feel like a failure.

I usually end up feeling miserable and angry at myself and at whoever bothered to remind me that I suck.

Should I always be feeling bad? because I'm at a point where I hate my parents (especially my father) for reminding me how stupid I am and how I failed.

I get enough of that hatred from myself. I don't need my dad to tell me he doesn't care about my feelings and that he likes to make me feel bad reminding me of my failure.

Answer 1

You feeling bad and ashamed is by your own choice. Perhaps you should see someone and talk through the issues that you have -- it would be helpful if your parents could come along as well. In society, people are going to be negative and disrespect you, even if it is your own parents. But you need to learn to have more self-confidence and remember that you are a strong person and that you can succeed. To always feel bad when someone says something bad to you is not healthy for you -- so make the choice to stand up for yourself and hold your head high.

As far as failing one class -- I wish I only failed one class! Failing a course is going to happen -- just re-take it. Keep in mind though, re-take it with a different professor if you can, or in a different setting (different time of day/night, do it independent study). I never did re-take courses I did poorly in, and since they were not a part of my major, I didn't technically need them. I still graduated with a 3.8 GPA and got my masters 2 years later.

Good luck to you!

Answer 2

ok, you failed a class... try to look at it in perspective, in a hundred years, what is the net impact of that failed class? will it cause a major crisis on an international level, or even a national one?
it's been said that while we assess our level of knowlege by passing grades, we only truly learn through adversity and even failure. if you don't attempt something, you learn nothing. if you try and fail, you've still learned something from the experience. if you quit, if you stop trying, if you give up, then you've failed, until then you've had a setback.

you don't suck. you failed one class. you aren't a failure, you failed ONE class. you obviously have never done it before, so you don't recognize it as a learning tool; or a crutch, a reason to not attempt anything further.

if you never try again, if you just curl up and give in , then you will be a failure, not until then.

really, now it's up to you.....

Answer 3

I think you need to share how you feel with your parents -- even if its printing out this question and showing it to them. Most parents don't want you to feel bad about yourself, they may feel if they push you you will do better. IF you did your best in the class, don't feel bad about it -- in fact, give yourself a pat on the back for being willing to go back and try again -- that type of resilience is not common and will serve you well as you go through life. Remember, NO ONE LIKES TO FAIL but...... if you never fail, my theory is you're not stretching yourself. Nobody gets everything right the first time!

Answer 4

Your upside down.

Normally people go from joy to joy, andthe bad parts are perceived as small. = you went through some stress and became inverted = learn to meditate and corect that.