why is it that when some people, be it MEN, or WOMEN, get married, they still want to sleep around. Either on the down low, or with others of the opposite sex. I do not think that is in any weddings vows, or is it? I like some serious responses, please.
2007-07-02 12:11:34 · 17 answers · asked by That one 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just ask Flavio. :) People that cheat are being disloyal to their spouse and the vows that they promised when first married (love, Honor, cherish). It all comes down to being selfish. If these people even thought for a moment about their spouse instead of themselves it would not happen nearly as often.
2007-07-02 12:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Over 30 is the "older" group? LOL
People sleep around for a myriad of reasons. When you say "sleep around," do you mean "have affairs," "one night stands," or what?
Short answer to your question: People step outside marriage because they're not happy with the marriage. Now why this is is probably a good topic for a college Sociology course. Are people too busy now and neglect their marriages? Do people not invest in them because divorce is too easy and they don't expect to be with their spouses forever anyway?
Sometimes, rather than face the multitude of problems associated with a divorce (dividing property, messing up the kids' lives, financial problems, etc...), people think they can get a little happiness from someone other than their spouse. The other person might be married as well and unhappy, and they offer each other some refuge.
The thing to remember, before we start bashing cheaters as wholly evil, is that people don't stray from happy marriages, plain and simple. If you've been neglecting your spouse (women, I mean sexually; men, I mean emotionally), don't be surprised when they find someone else to fill this void.
2007-07-02 19:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people do this because they can. Simply because they are not mature enough to get married and they do not take their vows seriously. Very sad! That is my guess, personally, If I am in a relationship I do not cheat, never have, never will. It is not worth the pain it causes the other individual, and if you are an adult one should be able to express their feelings and desires take care of any issues before they become full blown problems. God bless****
2007-07-02 19:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some reasons, selfishness, wanting to be wanted, needing to be close to someone, and again selfishness. I do think it is very sad, no it's not in the vows I took. This is a good question, but unfortunately most people who do this believe they are justified for some reason.
People should say the, forsaking all others, part over and over again.
2007-07-02 19:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by Ivy_Woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Somewhere in the wedding vows, you vow to love, honor and trust. I don't believe you love or honor your spouse if you are sexually active with another partner. If you are doing this, set your spouse free so that they may find that love , trust and honor they deserve in someone else and not be tied down to a scumball cheater.
2007-07-02 19:39:20 · answer #5 · answered by MoonDoggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the men do that compare to women, however why your husband do that sometime being a wife you have to be more sensitive, men's sex life is different from women, men need more sex then women, so being a wife you need to ensure that your husband is enjoyng enough sex life with you not only quantity but also quality as well, i believe if a women can make a men always enjoy his sex life he will never sleep around with anyone.
2007-07-02 19:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by denyeese 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is becoming a more pathetic zero responsibility world. I frown on most marriages today. How many of you or your husband's friends/associates do you know of that have or are cheating? Then I look at the kids of this generation and just shake my head. I see how they treat each other, their parents, and their teachers. I miss traditional values and try to instill the basic yes ma'am no sir in my daughter. She is only 3 and she said to me "no one else says that!" We'll she will and there will be someone out there who values it. Hats off to the loyal husband's and wives out there!!!! Please pass those standards on to you kids. They learn by example and there are few good ones left!!!
2007-07-02 19:45:34 · answer #7 · answered by Kay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and Women cheat for different reasons. Women cheat generally because they are not getting the emotional support that they need. Men cheat because they are not getting the sexual attention that they crave. Either way, it IS about ego. And the person who is cheating obviously feels that the committed relationship is worth losing.
2007-07-02 19:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by datersdiary.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak on the down low part (they're just gay) but, usually the person isn't being satisfied in some way, or on some level and they seek to fulfill that void somewhere else. I don't condone it, but I'm sure that's the case in a lot of circumstances.
2007-07-02 19:27:37 · answer #9 · answered by BossLady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister in law did it with the future brother in law before marriage and like wow...I took my vows for the forever...Yes she did marry the other brother and they have done the group thing...she mentioned it...sick people
2007-07-02 19:17:06 · answer #10 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋