Sandy it is time you know your Husband is still cheating on you.......?

Question

You need to know that even all the attemts you have made to keep your husband away from the other woman have not workded they are still seeing each other on a daily basis. and they are laughing behind your back. your 18 year old marrige is coming to an end and you need to know. I see them around town at lunch hugging and kissing. He does not care about you I have seen them at Victoria Gardens together, He parading around Rancho Cucamonga with her all the time. Hire a detective and you will see. I hope that all of you who know Sandy will tell her this. i can't bear to see this woman hurt anymore. I love you girl But can't keep it from you any more.

Ok in my defense. I have already gone through this with her once and she tells me that she knows it is still going on. and on the other hand I know first hand that he does not want me talking to her because he knows that lots of people sees him with his lover all over town. and he seems to be ok with that. I for one I am not ok with it and feel that she needs to know and at the same time I don't want it to be me that breaks her heart I am in a very difficult situation with this. and you guys are not being very understanding of my position. I love Sandy very much and I just don't know how to approch this. I just got beaten from most of you. last week I wrote in and most of you said not to be the one to tell. and I saw them again several times as a matter of fact and I hate him for hurting my friend but I don't know how else to go about this. Be nice people.

Answer 1

whewwwww I thought I almost got busted

Answer 2

First of all - You guys need to back off of Sandy... If you were a friend you would be leaving comforting comments. Telling her it's going to be okay. Telling her that 18 years of marriage either didn't go down the drain for nothing or that she can do better! And for the lady that started the post. Don't shoot the messenger. She NEVER put Sandy's LAST NAME, nor did she put her address, or e-mail address out there. So if you think she is singling her out let me know because I sure didn't get that. So for the 20+ previous respondents that thought it was cool to either call out the messenger or Sandy as if they are such a bad person - I have something for you!!

Like your mother always said, "If you don't have something nice to say; don't say anything at all" WOW.... I'm 25 and seems to me that I have A LOT more maturity then the posts that have came through...

And if you chose to slander me after I post this, within the 20 seconds it takes to post your comment, I will not only have your post deleted as spam but have this thread shut down,

So to Sandy - I apologize that you are going through what you are going through. No matter the situation, there is always a better outcome. Always remember that even if you have to take a setback to come up, WE as women, have to do what we have to do! Keep your head up and don't let ANYONE tell you what's right for you!!!

Answer 3

Okay 4 possibilities:

1: You could be that other woman telling Sandy to let go by faking as her friend.

2: You could really be a not so intelligent caring friend of her's but I feel that you're not doing the right thing I mean, wouldn't Sandy feel worse seeing that her affairs being posted out to public?

3: You could just be an enemy of Sandy trying to hurt her by doing this.

4: You could be her HUSBAND!!!! Who's in disguise trying to tell Sandy to be the one who sends divorce letters to you first as you can't bear to be the one who sends the divorce letters to Sandy.

I'm like exaggerating but who knows?

Answer 4

You guys are so funny. last week someone posted a question as to what she should do with knowing that someones husband was cheating and most of you wrote not to tell her because it would ruin the friendship. and most of you are saying mean things to this person. So if this story is true Keep your head up Sandy. and to the one who posted the question I see where your coming from. I wish everyone good luck.

Answer 5

While I think this is a little over the top, obviously this woman Sandy is blind, I too was cheated on but still hung around, cried to my friends then read something that wasn't supposed to be seen by me, two friends complaining about my ignorance, THAT was humiliating....apparently she needs to know just how much he continues to humiliate her, girl, I was told by an older woman that you'll know when enough is enough....it took another week and I found that place...it was THE most liberating day, fortunately, the 4 month process of back and forth was so mentally draining, on both of us, we sought help and now are married (this was 4 years ago), it doesn't always work out this way, but you've got to stand up for your self-esteem...if you continue to allow him and that is what you're doing "allowing" him to treat you like dirt, you'll never hold your head up so to speak. Quit trying to keep them apart, just let it go and get MAD...whether what happened to me was luck, I don't know, but when I took control of my self-respect and let them "lie in the bed" they made, was when it was noticed that I wasn't going to allow someone else's behaviour to dictate my life. Think of yourself and not of the yourself that "wants" him, want happiness for yourself because all he's doing is making you work too hard for something that apparently he has little value for. Maybe it's a phase, maybe there's something he finds stale in your marriage, I feel I'm younger than you, but what that older woman told me that late night literally on a park bench, changed my life, I returned to the woman I thought I had lost and ya know, now that we're married, I have truly found the mutual respect that I deserve, don't let him think you "need" him, no one "needs" anyone unless there's a health issue, that's what Doctor's are for...right now, you're his fall back girl....don't allow that, the fact that you continue to allow this treatment of you, makes him think that it's o.k., you'll continue to take it and him no matter the costs....you can't allow it any more. He needs to know his behaviour is unacceptable.

Answer 6

First let me say this.. you are not breaking her heart. It is her husband who broke it.
You on the other hand need to be there for her. if she knows about the relationship what is she waiting for? I would say, to give her the time to decided when she wants to end it.

Answer 7

If this is true and you expect Sandy to see this you are a cold-hearted, spineless friend.

Shame on you.

Sandy dump your husband and your friend Marie, you deserve better than this in your life.

Answer 8

How do you know all this? Are you the other woman?
Sandy deserves a little more respect than what you are giving her right now. Sorry, Sandy!

Answer 9

My name is Sandy but I have never been married. But hey girl I feel for you. apparently you known about this or why would she put it on blast here? your Friend does not have the courage to say it to your face because she does not want to be the bad guy here. I feel for you.

Answer 10

dam, u need to get a life and stay up out everyone elses business, u think its appropriate to post that on here. I am guessing your a loser with no real ambitions or goals. U are just pathetic.......lay off the crispy creams and u can find your own relationship to screw up.

Answer 11

How do you know she will see this? Maybe you should put an ad in your newspaper. Just kidding! Tell her in person. This isn't something someone should read on the internet.