2007-07-02 11:55:12 · 21 answers · asked by Susan B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just go to court, the judge will take care of it
2007-07-02 12:00:35 · answer #1 · answered by skcs11 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he's not your "ex-husband" until a judge declares your divorce final. Do you have a lawyer? Does he? Do you have children or real estate together? Debts?
If he does not want to consent to a divorce, and you don't have a lawyer, you should consider going to some marital counseling. If that does not work and you are certain that you need to get divorced, go to your clerk of the court in your area. They will have self-help information on how to pursue your divorce.
2007-07-02 19:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by maninthemirror327 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you have an attorney, address this with the attorney. In my case, my ex wouldn't agree to anything. After the proper waiting period (I think it was 6 months), my attorney and I went to court and got the divorce through. However, that had nothing to do with the property settlement. But I felt that if I got the divorce over with, he would accept the inevitable, and we could then negotiate a property settlement. It worked.
2007-07-02 19:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by prz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you guys actually get a divorce.Was there a court hearing with attorneys on both sides.Was there a negotiation and agreement satisfactory to both parties.Was it an amicable settlement. If the answer to all these questions is yes ,then call your soon to be ex and find out what is wrong.Maybe it is just an oversight on his part.This way the conversation is still friendly especially if you guys have children.However, if he has changed his mind or there is some fresh problem,. then I would ask you to talk to a lawyer pronto.
2007-07-02 19:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in Cali ... and it took 6 mths for my divorce to be final - without my ex signing or calling ... you have to file with the courts that you want to win by default ... as long as you can show proof of service ... and when they ask you what do you want - tell the judge right then and there ... most of the time they will give you what you want since he didn't show up or sign paperwork .... good luck .... !
2007-07-02 19:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well fatal accidents are usually a good way to go. If that can't be arranged you might want to consider placing all of your possessions in a trust account in Nevada and have a management company manage it so that no one can have a court that asks you to reveal the beneficiaries. Then you can move on with your life. He can't get any money and you can bang as many guys as you want. Make sure to hire a summons server though, so that at least the ball is in his court.
2007-07-02 19:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by Rothwyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending upon where you live, the divorce will be finalized whether he signs or not. In most states this takes an average of 6 months.
2007-07-02 18:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by studnet 15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on what state you reside in it varies, it does not matter if you husb signs or not,in NY if you went and did a separation agreement first you will have to wait 1 year and the divorce papers will be sent to you, then you send them to him(best way to do this is to pay local sheriff or police will deliver it) but he all ready has them so he has a court date to go to if he doesn't come its an uncontested divorce,or he could show up and contest it,there is no way a judge is going to order you to stay married to this idiot
2007-07-02 19:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by david g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex husband doesnt have to sign anything. Thats why we have court. The Judge will sign it. Thats why you have a court date. He doesnt have to agree to the divorce the Judge will do it on his behalf. But you will have to call the clerk of the court to find out when your next hearing is.
If you husband doesnt agree the court will decide.
Sorry, but its that simple.
2007-07-02 18:58:55 · answer #9 · answered by financing_loans 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So long as you can prove he has been served the divorce will still go through but will be done in default since he had not signed.
2007-07-02 18:57:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you have no proof of him being served - hire a document service that serves judgments (about 45 bucks) then he will have a certain amt. of time depending on your state to sign. if he does not, you will still get your divorce, it just takes a bit longer. If you do not have an attorney get one asap. they will handle all of this for you. have you talked to him about why he wont sign?
2007-07-02 19:00:20 · answer #11 · answered by brandi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋