My fiance's ex girlfriend (mother of his 2yr old son) needs a place to stay. She lived with her parents and they had a falling out, now she has nowhere to go. Our work schedules make it impossible for us to take the boy from her. My fiance suggested that she could stay here for a month or two til she got back on her feet. Should I even be considering this?
2007-07-02 11:35:40 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ahh, NO! Can you say akward. Find a way to take the child. Put him in daycare if you have too. She is a leech and will never be leaving. A month or two will turn into as long as you put up with her and your relationship will be what gets sacrificed!
2007-07-02 11:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by beth l 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! That is really tuff. I mean really tuff. Here is the delima. It's apperant that she can't have a relationship with people because she isnt able to mainstain one with her parents enough to have them allow her to stay. It's clear she didnt respect them and thats why she had to get a steppin! Now she will not move in with you guys and respect you even more. For her to even consider to want to move in with you and her ex is really off key. She is probally up too something. Maybe this is her way of thinking she can win your boyfriend back. She is maybe hoping "He will see me with our son and be realize he needs the mother of his child back in his life. " or she will try to out do you. People and especially women are EVIL! Will her parents or his parents be willing to take the child until she can find somehow to work this out? Trust me her parents will NEVER abbonded her with her child....she seems to be just looking for a way in. Please stand your ground if you feel at all uncomfrtable about this. This is your home and she is only a guest. You are in control. No HOUSE is big enough for two families.!! So you really need to think about this! Good luck sweetie! If you ever want to talkplease contact me girl. I know this is stressful for you!
2007-07-02 11:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by A little Southern Comfort 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're fiance is a player, and your are playing right into his game. You guys didn't get her into this situation and you two do not have to bail her out. You better make a way to assist with the kid, but she should be on her own!!! Don't be a fool!
2007-07-02 12:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by BossLady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really see it working out too well - your fiance maybe could help her get something sorted out for the sake of their child as he does have an equal responsibility for his welfare but i don't think that you all living together would be a great solution unless of course you think you'd be able to cope.
2007-07-02 12:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by colgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It OK to be nice but don't be a fool. She would have to find somewhere else to stay, not with you and your ex. This would be a big mistake on your behalf to consider less more entertain the idea. She need to make peace with her parents or find her own place. If he don't like what you feel about the situation then he would be welcome to join her.
2007-07-02 11:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by carmel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. That's a terrible idea. I would never let my husband's ex-wife stay with us. It would only breed paranoia and fear on your end, confusion on the little boy's part. As for the ex girlfriend, who's to say that she doesn't still have feelings for your fiancee, or, for that matter, that he doesn't still have feelings for her? It would be asking for trouble, and it's not worth risking your relationship.
2007-07-02 13:04:16 · answer #6 · answered by Amara LeReigne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like somthing from the jerry show, No dont let her stay with ya'll your man might be honest, but they still had a past, and the fact,that he is even thinking about letting her move in, seems a little stange, if it comes down to it, rent them a room at a motel, or she has friends,, but they do have a past, and it seems like she is trying to get the easy way out,
2007-07-02 11:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by rebecca j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like shes just useing u for a place to live, doesn't really sound like she likes u at all. i would call the cops, and have the 2 people get there stuff out of your place and leave. before its too late. they might pull some scams to take over your house and sell it ect take the cash and leave. and then u will have nothing.
2016-05-17 03:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by lona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!
1. Too many issues
2. Too much drama
3. Possible break up for you and your fiance
2007-07-02 12:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by Asprague 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is ...... NO
frankly, he shouldn't even be putting you in this
position.... he should not even consider this
as an option.... I mean... help the chick get a
place to stay, okay... but with you guys?
whoa... does he have common sense?????
he isn't showing any in this situation.
don't you agree?
2007-07-02 16:20:35 · answer #10 · answered by funny librarian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋