My bf and i have 3 kids together ages 8 ,4,and 2.We met senior year of highschool dated broke up and had a fling year later the result of which is our eldest son.For a year we tried to make it work and get it all together but failed.Few months before my 25 birthday we met up again for a chat because i had just moved back to our home state.We started dating again casually and have been together 4.5 yrs straight ever since.He thinks we should get a marriage license and save up for a cerimony we can have later?I would like to have a small cerimony now along with the marriage license because i am turning 29 soon and if i leave it up to him i will be 30 when the cerimony takes place!Am i beeing childish?
2007-07-02 11:34:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He wants to be wed at the court house
2007-07-02 11:41:52 · update #1
No you are being smart. The ceremony goes with the marriage. The purpose of it is to celebrate the fact that you got married. So, have a small party (it could be at home or in a restaurant and doesn't have to cost very much), but don't settle for just a piece of paper and that's it. Friends of mine had a reception for 50 people in their back yard and organized a barbeque style reception, with friends and family doing the cooking and everyone bringing a special dish. I think the total day cost them less than $1,000, so it IS possible. I think if you do settle for just the licence, there won't be any motivation afterwards to ever have that special celebration. Insist on it now, or wait until you can afford it.
2007-07-02 11:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by ((♫♥♪♫♥♪♫ Shivers ♫♥♪♫♥♪)) 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a bridal ceremony demands a marriage License and a legally qualified officiant to habit the bridal ceremony. on the tip of the bridal ceremony the officiant (choose, magistrate, minister, rabbi or priest) publicizes the guy and female HUSBAND AND spouse. After the ceremony the officiant indicators the certificates of Marriage it relatively is the Bride and Groom's legal DECUMENT OF MARRIAGE. A dedication ceremony does not require a marriage License nor a legally qualified officiant because of the fact on the tip of the ceremony the guy and female are actually not legally married. The observe MARRIAGE isn't used throughout the time of the dedication ceremony and the guy and female are actually not stated husband and spouse. And there are not any records given to the guy and female. on the tip of the dedication ceremony the guy and female are nonetheless legally 2 unmarried human beings and that they are not entitled to any marriage centers or reward (relatives scientific insurance or social protection reward or submitting a joint earnings tax return as a married couple). responded by: a qualified wedding ceremony expert / a consultant bridal representative / a bridal ceremony officiant
2016-10-03 10:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it is "ceremony". Second - a marriage license is usually valid for a certain amount of time, often it's 60 or 90 days (check your state laws). It makes no sense to get a marriage license if you're not going to get married in this amount of time. You can always get married by the justice of peace which will cost next to nothing. But if you decide to "save up" for a wedding, then don't get the marriage license until you're actually ready to get married.
2007-07-02 11:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well the truth is you're going to have to have a ceremony regardless. Whether its' at the courthouse or a venue of your choice. In order to obtain a license you have a ceremony, it's your choice whether you want the justice of the peace (court) to preside or a minister at a venue.
So no you're not being childish but just be aware that you could do either. I mean you could always have your ceremony at the court house with all your family in attendance. I've seen tons of folks do that. Then have a reception sometime in the near future.
2007-07-02 11:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats a tough one. Me and my Hubby did almost the same thing and we just got the license because money is tight. But 3 days after we got it we went back to the JP and she said vows and stuff nobody was there but our 2 yr old which I held and the 2 kids I watch. That JP sure looked at us funny getting hitched with all those kids, she prob thought they were all ours out of wed lock. I do live in the bible belt. Good luck and in the end all that matters is that you are with the man you love and you have a happy loving family no piece of paper can change that.
2007-07-02 11:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by singlefmmom213 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a marraige liscense doesn't make you married. maybe he means to get married at the courthouse and have a party later? a liscense is only good for 30-90 days.
edit- okay,he wants to marry at the court house. consider this. for a minimul fee, about the same as the courthouse, you can have a retired judge or a local pastor marry you at your own home where you can have family attend. if you want anything bigger and you can't afford it now, you'll have to wait for the party.
2007-07-02 11:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What does age have to do with anything.....29, 30, what matters is that you get married - not that you marry at age 30.
2007-07-02 11:38:28 · answer #7 · answered by jessie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes.. just have a nice dnner with your friends and family. you already have 3 children.. who cares if you dont get married before you're 30 you already found your guy and have kids... the stamp of marriage shouldnt be that significant anymore
2007-07-02 11:37:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋