what is a friend?

Question

o.k. there is somebody i work with who everytime they see me would say whats up and we would start talking and i'm talking about we talk about not only stuff that happens at work but stuff outside of work as well.. however we don't hang out outside of work. i really don't want to ask him but should i call him my friend? also, should i ask him?

Answer 1

A friend is someone who shares their time with you and listens to what you have to say. I would say that this person is your friend. You don't have to ask, just be a friend back.

Answer 2

Yes I would call him a friend. The fact that he doesn't hang around with you out side of work doesn't exclude him/her from being a friend. There might be a reason why. He could be taking care of a family member, has things that they have to do, or don't want to mix outside stuff with work. The best thing here is to ask them out and if they say no then ask why not. Remember to be polite here you don't want to loose a friend here.

Answer 3

Some guys would feel awkward about being asked such a question. No, it isn't a silly question. In fact, it's a question for clarity. But..it will be good to communicate. If you think he's the type who might get freaked out by a question like this... then try another method.. something indirect. You can ask him if he wants to hang subtly... say, for example, in one of the common things you share, you can see if there's something cool to do, and ask him if he would want to go as well.. say, for example, you have this convention to go to, like a tech con or a manga con.. and you intend on going anyway.. you can ask him. so that whether or not he doesn't go along, you won't have anything to worry about, since you'll be going just the same. It can also give you some light on what kind of acquaintance or friendship you two share. :) Ball's in your court.

Answer 4

When you get on a particular subject you could casually slip an invite into the conversation, for example say he is into baseball and you get onto the subject at work, you could say "Hey there's a game next weekend I could get us some tickets if you’re not doing anything?
If you can talk about many things at work chances are he would love to hang out with you outside of work but one of you has to make a move.

Answer 5

This word was actually harder to define than I thought it would be. To get started, I checked the dictionary that stated a friend is "a person who knows and likes another, a person who favours and supports and a person who belongs to the same side or group."

To me, a friend is someone who knows all about you and likes you anyway. Being a friend means more than recognizing that no one is perfect, it means accepting it.


I, like most people, have many flaws. My true friends not only tolerate these weaknesses but also love me because of them. They either help me see them myself without dwelling on them or they even help me to overcome some of these weaknesses. A friend is someone who doesn't ask you to change but helps you to grow.

The most important quality a friend can demonstrate is loyalty. This means standing by you when the going gets a little rough, not just in the good times. It means standing up for you at all times, not letting others demean you in any way, and never taking advantage of you or treating you badly.

Being supportive is yet another important quality in a friendship. This means cheering for you when things go your way, and being there during the bad times. Good friends allow you to make mistakes that you can learn from and forgive you for them. Loyalty, support, honesty and acceptance are so important to me that I would rather have 5 friends that fit my definition as opposed to 1000 "friends" that fit the dictionary definition.

Answer 6

well i wouldnt call him your friend. i mean you can but you'dbe lying. people often use that terminology to lightly. If you've never even hung out oustside of work how could he be your friend? I'd consider him a co-worker. th answer to the second part of your question is are you a female? If so then he may get the wrong idea if you ask him to hang out. But, if you enjoy this persons company inside of work then you'dmost likely enjoy his company outside of work even more. I'd say get to know him outside of work. It may be awkward at first finding things to talk about but try to keep work out of the conversation and in time you may just build a good friendship which is very nice cause trust me as time goes on it seems to become harder and harderr to find friends. I know this because i used to have a lot of friends and now im a bit older (not old) im in my 30's but now that im married i have none and it's become a bit lonely. I got my wife but sometimes i just wish i had a nice friend to hang out with. Does this make sense to you? i hope so. I'm just trying to give you a little life expierience.

Answer 7

I would call him a friendly work colleague. I have found it best to keep work colleagues and friends seperate, as if you have a bit of a fall out over something non-work related, this can damage your working relationship and make things difficult around the work place. This doesn't mean you can't have a good natter at work though : )

Answer 8

You could ask if he wants to get together sometime after work or come over for a barbeque or some guy thing.
You could just come out and ask, but that could be awkard for both of you. Specially if he is just one of those friendly outgoing types.

Answer 9

most of the time, you don't just jump up and ask someone if you are friends. you just are. ask him what he's doing on the weekends, and if you're doing something fun with some other people, ask if he'd like to come along. be it grabbing some drinks at a bar, or just a bunch of people going out to eat. don't act weird about it, jus tcasually ask him if he wants to hang out. it shouldn't be so difficult.

Answer 10

A friend is anybody you would consider to be a friend. Even if you don't talk to a person but you see them quite a lot you can still consider them your friend. Everybody has different standards for what they consider to be a friend but the simple most basic standard is that a friend is someone you are willing to call friend.