Can i change being gay?
ok heres the deal: a few weeks ago i started losing my attraction for girls and gaining for guys. every now and then i would masterbate to guys pictues so people told me to try a guy. so i did and did not like it at all. its not that im totally turned off by girls but its like im brainwashed and dont tihnk they are hott anymore. i ahd a girlfriend for 3 years who i had sex with a lot and loved it. i dk if i am becomin gay or its just a phase. is there any1 out there who has experienced wat i am doin. the last thing i want to do is become gay im very depressed and confused. how do i change it before it gets worse because im obviously not gay if it just started happeneing and i have been with multiple girls and liked it, right? also is there any1 out there that has been cured from being gay or abotu to become gay and all the sudden cahnged back liek i want to do. how do u cure it and i dont want to hear theres no cure becuz ther are ex- gays
2007-07-02 10:53:21 · 14 answers · asked by tmoney2803 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The ex-gays are a joke. Self-hating, misled, misleading -- no one I have ever heard of has ever actually been changed. Instead, told lies by religious leaders that should tell only the truth, they are led into a stream of self-hatred. They spend thousands or tens of thousands of dollars trying to change what they are -- and as far as I can tell -- they fail.
Consider what Ex-ex gay leaders have said. It's worth thinking about.
No matter what you are, the best thing that you can do is accept yourself and love you for who you are.
By the way, it is impossible to exclude something that you don't like by saying not to talk about it.
Kindest thoughts,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2007-07-02 11:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You went to bed with a guy and didn't like it. You've had encounters with women and it made you happy. Why do you want to change. Is it just the words, the names that throw you off base. There is nothing wrong with being gay in this era. You are better off being yourself instead of sitting here writing gor an answer on how to change. Sorry sweetie, you are what you were born and there is no magic potion that is going to change you from one thing to another. The best thing you can do is to learn to accept who you are and stop fighing with your inner self and learn to be happy. Until that happens you are going to be miserable and not come to terms and keep wondering who you really are. You are probably bi, and that's ok. Go with it, don't look for change.
2007-07-02 18:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by lochmessy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay off the sex. There is more to life than sex. You don't need sex to be a whole person. That said, you will have to come to terms with your sexuality somehow, someday. Now may not be that day.
Your "gay period" may be just a phase, especially if you're a teenager. However, you might be having feelings that will stick around a long time. Will you feel obliged to act on them, or will you decide to let it be and just incorporate those feelings into your being without acting on them? You could be straight, gay, or bi. You could be celibate.
You might want to talk to a therapist or reasonably-minded clergyperson about this. You might check out a man named Sy Rogers, who was gay, but chose with God's help to stop practicing homosexuality. (Google him.)
Your sexuality, whatever it is and however you express it, is a part of your being, and eventually, I hope, you will live comfortably with it, whether you're sexually active or not.
2007-07-02 18:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at the 7th Commandment. Lust is a sin. If you keep on braking the Commandments then what is going to happen to you when you die? Hell,
You don't want that do you? You sound like some one who want to be a Man's Man. A guy who wants to live his life with purpose. A man who want to be some body.
Sorry, but you are not going find that life on the road you are on. Take some time and think about God and the broken Commandments. Find the Godly sorrow, turn form you sin and trust Jesus to save you from the danger tocome.
I hope this helps
2007-07-02 19:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by Bioman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, you can ask this question a million times.. its not going to change the answer. You can hide in the closet all your life. You can deny what you are all your life. It does not CHANGE WHAT YOU ARE.
Im sorry, Honey. You cant be cured from being gay. You can only live in the closet and pretend you are not gay.
2007-07-02 18:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by Danger OReilly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
U must be bi-curious. Btw there is no cure. Those ex-gays you spoke of are only bisexuals.
2007-07-02 18:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by Soa's Fate~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be Bi and in denile.
See someone if you think it would help but I've found those types to be a total joke.
2007-07-06 16:30:32 · answer #7 · answered by DeathsToy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look here its all inside of you, the way u feel is the way you feel, just go ahead and accept it that u like guys, one the feeling is their it will stay, and by trying to deny it will only make it worse
2007-07-02 17:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by john d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're maybe 'bi'. which is kind of a good thing. This way you can fall in love with the person, rather than the genitalia.
2007-07-02 17:56:22 · answer #9 · answered by Morey000 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
"There's nothing to cure, there's nothing wrong with us." - Storm, X-Men 3: The Last Stand
2007-07-02 18:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋